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<p>Wondering why they haven't called even though you had a wonderful 15th date? Well, if you are on your 15th date, it's clearly a relationship (unless otherwise explicitly stated by both parties)! But there may be times, when your partner feels distant and cold and if it's more frequent than other things, it may be time to take a long hard look at your relationship. While it feels great to be madly in love and blinded by it, sometimes you need to take off the rose tinted glasses and examine the reality which may not be so pleasant. Here are seven such relationship red flags which you shouldn't ignore!</p> 1. Distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder! <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship1-1501591290.jpg" alt="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship1-1501591290.jpg" />© Thinkstock</p> <p>Giving each other space is a good thing but if it feels like you are on Earth, and the other person is in space, then clearly something's amiss! It doesn't make them a bad person but their emotional needs are definitely different from yours and there's only so much you can do about it.</p> 2. Is it a partner or is it a parasite? <p>Being with each other is nice but being clingy is when you should wake up and smell the coffee. If you feel that your partner is everywhere, all the time, it may be time to gently step back. Again, they may have deep-rooted issues with possessiveness and space but it's for their therapist to resolve, not you.</p> 3. Trying to drive a wedge between you and your friends/family <p>If your partner is always complaining about your friends and family or doesn't like you hanging out with them, then you should really examine your relationship. Often these are tricks and manipulations used by people to have complete control over your life and that can never be a good thing.</p> 4. Difference in core values <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship3-1501591323.jpg" alt="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship3-1501591323.jpg" />© Thinkstock</p> <p>We are not talking about being a dog person or a cat person (although if you feel strongly about having a pet, you should sort this one out!), we are talking about basic values and goals in life. Whether you want kids, whether you are religious, what are your long term goals, how materialistic you are and many more - these are things you should mutually agree on and respect if you want a successful relationship!</p> 5. If they make you feel bad about yourself <p>Well, this one's a no-brainer. No one, and we mean no one, has the right to make you feel bad about yourself. If your partner makes you feel bad about your choices (eating, dressing, jobs etc), it may be time to let go of the partner rather than the life you built after so much hard work!</p> 6. Refusing to talk about future <p>If you want a serious relationship, chances are that you would want to talk about the future. From deciding cities to live in to life goals - it's important to sort out priorities before you take the big step. However, if they refuse to talk about the future, it may just be you who is in it for the long run!</p> 7. If all you have in common is an appetite for *** <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship4-1501591338.jpg" alt="Red Flags That You Can't Ignore In A Relationship" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Aug/red-flags-that-you-can-t-ignore-in-a-relationship4-1501591338.jpg" />© Thinkstock</p> <p>While it's a great thing to have, it shouldn't be the only thing you have in common with your partner. No common interests mean the flame will be put out sooner or later!</p>

COAS addressing attendees at a reception in Islamabad on PLA foundation day. ? ISPR ISLAMABAD: Chief of Army Staff (COAS) General Qamar Javed Bajwa on Monday attended a reception held in Islamabad on the 90th founding day of the Peoples Liberation Army (PLA), the Inter-Services Public Relations (ISPR) said in a statement. General Bajwa attended the reception as chief guest, where he conveyed his compliments to all ranks of the PLA on behalf of the Pakistan Army. On the occasion, the COAS felicitated Chinese President Xi Jinping, Vice Chairman Central Military Commission General Fan Changlong, and Chief of Joint Staff General Fang Fenghui. "This day symbolizes the power of people?s unity, unflinching resolve and sacrifices, owing to which PLA, today, is one of the finest military outfits in the world," he said, in his address to attendees. Gen Bajwa said that the Army and the people of Pakistan take great pride in their deep-rooted brotherly relationship with the People?s Republic of China. "This enviable relationship finds no parallel in the World," he stated. He said that both China and Pakistan today are faced with similar challenges and opportunities. "Both countries have assumed shared responsibility towards stability in the region and prosperity of our people. This unity of purpose has led to the consolidation and has strengthened our resolve as determined nations, to brave all challenges and storms together." The COAS said that as important strategic players in the region, relations between China and Pakistan have jointly benefitted both the countries. "Today, this close collaboration spans over a wider canvas than ever before and ranges across strategic initiatives like China Pakistan Economic Corridor, defence collaboration in numerous joint projects and united diplomatic front, internationally." Gen Bajwa said, "Pakistan is indebted to China for its unflinching support to our perspective at all international forums, may it be the expansion of Nuclear Suppliers Group, Kashmir Issue, or Pakistan?s full membership of Shanghai Cooperation Organization. China has always provided unconditional support to Pakistan?s efforts for reconciliation in Afghanistan, especially at the platform of Quadrilateral Coordination Group (QCG)." He said the two countries are also actively cooperating in all fields against the war on terror. "From diplomatic cooperation to security collaboration, we have stood by each other through thick and thin and shall continue to stand shoulder to shoulder, come rain or shine." Towards the end of his address, the COAS expressed his belief that professional collaboration between PLA and Pakistan Army will continue to expand to bring peace to the region in general. and China and Pakistan in particular.

<p>We talk about relationship milestones all the time—from the first date to the first kiss; from the third date to the invite up to the house; from the first moments of intimacy to the first declaration of exclusivity. One relationship, no matter how brief it may be, is filled with a lifetime of milestones, both great and small. And it doesn't matter if you give it a name or decide to just let it pan out organically. The truth is, the theory of evolution can be implied to everything in this world—living and non-living; material or abstract. Then, a relationship is still a series of sequenced progressions, however disparate the frequency of that sequence may be. And so, by that rule, every relationship—even the most casual ones—evolves to more than what it started out to be.</p> <p>Here are the signs you need to look for to know when your relationship with someone is turning out to be serious. And while there are so many such minute signs that keep aligning the two of you, in some way or the other, these are some of the more prominent ones that become easier to resonate with.</p> 1. You Share Your Dreams & Aspirations <p>Our dreams are important to us and more often than not, we tend to not share them with everyone for the simple reason that not everyone gets it. When you're with this person, however, you can't help but talk about what you dream of doing and who you aspire to be. It's a constant question and answer and it keeps going back and forth.</p> <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-1-1501221780.jpg" alt="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-1-1501221780.jpg" />© Pexels</p> 2. You Talk About The Past <p>History is a fascinating subject; but, only when it's someone else's. Almost no one likes to hark back to their own pasts because it digs up a lot of skeletons we hoped to have buried for good. And digging up the buried is more of an act of denial than it is fear. It rakes up bad memories we hoped never to feel ever again. But, somehow, this person makes it feel alright to revisit the past in a means to analyze and learn from it. And you both do it together because with each buried memory you learn about what made you who you are today. And that's important to reason with when it comes to understanding why you are with each other in the present moment.</p> 3. You Express Yourself Freely & Deeply <p>This isn't just about the way you feel about and for each other. It's much more. It's about expressing openly how you feel about everything under the sun and beyond the horizon. You want to openly express to this one person how you feel about how others make you feel, on a daily basis. You want this person to know how and why you ponder over a higher consciousness or about the meaning of spirituality and how sometimes people just don't get it. You discuss feelings about things and people that no one else would ever seem to get anyway. But, somehow, with this one person, it makes sense.</p> <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-2-1501221835.jpg" alt="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-2-1501221835.jpg" />© Pexels</p> 4. You Make Future Plans <p>Not plans about the weekends, or even plans about starting a family together; those are two extremes. And while you do venture in to those territories, you're also planning a trip 3 months down the line from the present moment. You plan about attending a certain festival together another year down the line, or whenever else it may happen. Together, you're somehow giving each other a surety, quite subconsciously so, that you're here to stay, come what may.</p> 5. You Talk About Your Childhoods <p>You seem to know everything about each other's childhoods by now—from how you were a fat kid when you were growing up to how they had their first bicycle ride; from how you hated school to how they practically lived out of a kitchen as a kid. Somehow, your stories from your childhoods have brought you closer to one another, somehow, you seem to get it—every story, every incident, every tragedy and every cataclysm.</p> <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-3-1501221858.jpg" alt="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-3-1501221858.jpg" />© Pexels</p> 6. You Know About Your Families <p>The two of you know and understand too well that your families just don't get you. But, wait. There's more. It's more than knowing about the family tree; although that is something you can vaguely put together about each other, as well. It's about that one cousin you had the hots for; it's about that one relative no one talks to anymore. It's about those people you don't consider family and those people who are your only link to family. It's about how your families have shaped your upbringing—right from your forefathers to your fathers. It's about how a certain trait is like your mother's and a certain other quirk is like their father's. It's about how you are exactly like both your parents in some ways and absolutely poles apart from them in so many other ways.</p> 7. You Open Up About Hardships <p>You've opened up to this person about some of the lowest moments in your life and how it affected you as a person. You've shown this person what it had been like to be you on the darkest night of your life. And this person has shown you what it was like feel like they were so lost they didn't even recognize themselves anymore. You've held mirrors up to each other and canvases too, for them to paint on about the moments and hardships that they can no longer describe.</p> <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-4-1501221877.jpg" alt="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-4-1501221877.jpg" />© Pexels</p> 8. You've Seen Their Bad Side <p>You know their habits, their reactions, their fears and their denials. In fact, you've seen each other battle through them all, fight through it all and, along the way, show you a side no one else have ever seen—the ugly side. It's more than just waking up with morning breath, or opening up the wounds that have scarred you. It's about letting this person familiarize themselves with your demons and you with theirs. You've seen each other's demons, understood they are as much a part of you as the others and have learned to make amends and peace with these demons. You may not know how to tame each other's demons; but, you know well enough now, to let them come out when they need to.</p> 9. You Match Your Financial Habits <p>You may not yet be in a place where you know each other's investments, or financial blunders that have put money matters at stake. But, you both know each other's views on money—how important it is to each of you, what are the things, or experiences you would prefer to spend money on, whether you prefer to splurge your money, or invest it over a period of time. You know each other's money habits, you know each other's spending budgets when you're out. You know how the other person treats their money and they know the same about you. And somehow, you match each other.</p> <p class="articleimg"><img id="ed-img" class="art-lazy imwidth-full" title="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" data-original="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-5-1501221896.jpg" alt="Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Serious Turn" src="http://media.new.mensxp.com/media/content/2017/Jul/signs-your-relationship-is-taking-a-serious-turn-740x400-5-1501221896.jpg" />© Pexels</p> 10. You Discuss Marriage Openly <p>You may not be open to discussing where the two of you stand on the concept, for each other. But, you know what you feel about it—as an institution, a way of life and as a relationship milestone. You know about how the other person feels about the idea of it; whether or not you see each other going down that road or not and whether or not it would be out of sheer love, or for reasons that have nothing to do with love, at all… That's left to be seen. But, what the two of you definitely see in the moment is that both of you talk about it openly, simply because you want to understand and resonate with each other better.</p> <p>Basically, through all the trials and struggles that both of you face together, on a daily basis, more than anything else, there is a deeper sense of resonance. And whether or not it stands the tests of time, or passes over like a season, in that phase of your lives, it will be the realest thing you ever dedicate yourself to. And you will want it to last.</p>

The kingpin of Instagram and a hero for a lot of men in the world, Dan Bilzerian leads a life which is controversial, to say the least. While women find it degrading, many men across the world see him as an icon. And why shouldn't they? He lives the life and gives zero fucks about it. Watermelon on the water A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on Sep 4, 2016 at 3:08am PDT Breaking in my new slippers A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on Aug 20, 2016 at 5:03pm PDT He is possibly the last person on this earth who will promote monogamy and the idea of having one partner. However, the impossible has happened and Dan has confessed that he is indeed in his first ever monogamous relationship. 🐢 A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on Feb 22, 2017 at 10:27am PST The woman in question here is Sofia Bevarly, a model herself. He described herself as ‘super hot' and ‘smart'. Virgin Islands A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on Mar 2, 2017 at 9:47am PST It is kinda unbelievable to see the man post cheesy pictures of his lady love Happy birthday @sofia_bevarly A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on Apr 26, 2017 at 4:29pm PDT Going on a date A post shared by Dan Bilzerian (@danbilzerian) on May 26, 2017 at 2:51pm PDT Well, let's see what his fan club has got to say about this!

As they say it, “You can never understand women”, “Women come with a butt load of mysteries”, “What do women REALLY want?”, while all they do is just not reveal things at the wrong/right time. It's as simple as that! Here are five things that women will never ever tell you in the beginning of a relationship, until you somehow manage to scramble it out of them. P.S, you really can't. Trust us. 1. The number of guys they've slept with © chris nuzzaco Of course you can force a number out of her, but that number is always either a double or probably half of the original one, depending on what she wants you to think about her. A woman never ever reveals the real count. 2. She wants a casual relationship She will never tell you this, because that would lead you to take her for granted in this not so beautiful world. “Oh, she is so chilled out, let's not call her for the next two weeks” – Hello Mister, not that casual here! 3. She spends a shit load on cosmetics © huffington post And here you thought your girlfriend has this whole natural blemish-free face, that glows every morning and every night, but little did you know that a no-make-up make-up costs twice the amount of a normal make-up or thrice the amount you spend on your monthly shopping. 4. They are always crushing on someone new everyday While you're deadmeat if you even bat an eyelash towards another chick. Yes, that's true. From the subway to the weekend girl's night out, women exchange more numbers than you may have picked up from restaurants to order food. 5. How much porn she has watched/ is watching © youtube - olivia miles Unlike the usual, “I don't watch porn” answer you may get ninety percent of the time, even if a woman admits to watching porn she will never tell you exactly how much porn she watches. Of course, she has to maintain her so-called levels of sophistication! So yes, women are really great at keeping their own secrets, if not yours!

US President Donald Trump delivers remarks on agriculture at Kirkwood Community College in Cedar Rapids, Iowa, US, June 21, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst President Donald Trump on Wednesday said the United States had a "great relationship with China" as he stood beside former Iowa Governor Terry Branstad, the new US ambassador to Beijing. "We have a great relationship with China and I really like President Xi," Trump said in a speech at an Iowa community college. The comment came a day after Trump said Chinese efforts to persuade North Korea to rein in its weapons programs had failed.

As much as I might get schooled for saying this, I’m going ahead and saying it anyway. Every individual—man or woman—is a better person when they’re with someone. Blame it on Socrates theory of soul mates, or just plain bias; but, when two people are together, as one, they’re a lot better at managing everything and everyone in their lives, including their own selves. It’s like having a mirror with you constantly, to reflect your thoughts, feelings and actions. That’s why we’re just nicer people when we’re in relationships, provided, of course it’s with the right person. And while I don’t know how much I can speak for men, when it comes to women, these are the least that we’re looking for when we agree to be in a relationship with you. No, it’s not your money; it’s not you staying away from the other women in the world, nor has it got anything to do with ***… not entirely, anyway. You see, relationships have more to do with connections of the heart and the mind, and how two people translate these in reality. Again, don’t think of this as a rule book to dealing with women. Instead, consider this a guide to establishing healthy relationships where women don’t nag, or obsess and men (you) don’t anger and leave. 1. An Innate Closeness Being close can mean different things at different times. It’s physical; it’s emotional; it’s also mental. But, were you to combine all three aspects, you reach a level of closeness that is transcendental. You don’t need to be in the same room to feel that closeness. Yet, when you are in the same room, the energy between you is strong enough to interfere with anyone else in the same room. You want to be close, in every way. From eyeing her from across the room to holding her close, just because you can’t seem to want it any other way—that’s just how close it gets. And that isn’t even the closest you are. © Pexels 2. Signs Of Certainty She needs to know, for sure. She needs to be certain about your intentions, or the lack thereof. What do you intend to happen between the two of you? Do you have an agenda up your sleeve? Do you want to see where things go, or do you want something more concrete? Do you see a future with her or is it just something that gets you through the moment? Whatever it may be, she wants to know so that she isn’t wasting her affections on someone and something that isn’t even going to materialize in the first place. Certainty and stability are often interchangeable in a woman’s head for the simple reason that the two terms do work in direct correlation of each other. There is no stability if there isn’t any certainty, and vice versa. 3. Clarity Of Thought Certainty translates to clarity, eventually. If you’re certain about someone or something, you’ll be clear about it in your thoughts, words and actions. Simply put, it will translate in your behavior. What is clarity? I feel the need to pose this question because a lot of times people are unclear… see what I did there? Being clear is about knowing the importance of a person in your life and making a point to show it to them, in any way you know. Sometimes, it requires talking it out; other times, it’s more about doing something. When you’re clear in your head about a person, you will instinctively show it. © Pexels 4. Courage To Act Which brings me to my next point—acting on that clarity. Many times, in relationships, we fail to act—on impulse, instinct, emotion; call it whatever you want. And it is this failure to act that is one of the main reasons why we have something called ‘almost relationships’ today. Either out of sheer convenience, availability of options, or fear of rejection, we often choose not to act on a particular feeling; even if in that moment, it may seem like the right thing to do. Soon the moment passes, and with it, the will to act. In relationships, actions always speak louder than words; even though most times, words are just as, if not more, required. And there needs to be a synchronisation between your words and the actions. You can’t do one thing and then, say something completely contradictory. Confusion leads to doubt. And that is never a good thing. 5. Constant Communication Humans are communicators, each one of us. We may have different means of communication—some talk, others listen; yet others find ways to communicate without really saying much. The point is that you get the point across and do so before it’s too late. And there is always such a thing as too little, too late. While relationships and connections are all about the timing in two people’s lives, it doesn’t take too long for that time to pass you by and then, you’re left crying at a chance lost out. Communication is the difference between ‘What if’ and ‘Hell yeah’! Figure out a way to say all that you’ve got to and do it in the moment, before it’s lost. © Pexels 6. Gentleness Of Touch People underestimate the power of being gentle. In fact, the quality, itself is one of the most underused and more often than not, underappreciated of all. Why do we fail to see how gentle another human being is when it’s one of the most important determinants in a strong relationship? Being gentle is never the same as being weak. In fact, it’s one of the silent strengths an individual has. And if a woman notices and cherishes that about you, it’s because she knows the importance of that quality in a man. So often, men are obsessed with being brutish and whatever the hell constitutes as “manly” that they forget to be human and gentle with another. In my God-honest opinion, it is gentleness, at its very core, that differentiates a man from a boy. 7. Patience To Understand Women can be complex and confusing creatures of what I like to call ‘mis-habit’—it’s not exactly a habit as much as it’s a pattern that women will ever so often deviate from, mostly if and when they’re afraid, or upset but don’t know how to show it. And heart of heart, women know this. We know how we sometimes lead you on, confuse you, push you away and then pull you back in, all the while trying not to do any of it. All they want is for you to be patient in your understanding of them. We can erupt, very much like a volcano, about the tiniest of things and cry at the drop of a hat when you’re least expecting it. All the while, we’re just trying to remain unfazed and ‘normal’ so we don’t scare you away. We women have a terrible habit of digging up and equating everything with and to past experience. And so, obviously, you get pitted against an ex who isn’t even in the picture anymore, or get snubbed off because of something someone did some trillions of years ago that still hurts. What every woman really needs is for a man to be patient with her. She’ll come around; she always does. © Pexels 8. A Sense Of Control Aside from the whole feminism debate—and I’m all for it—women do like men who can and do take control in relationships. Don’t confuse this with what you do in bed; two very different things. This doesn’t even mean picking up the tab on dates; although every so often, you should offer to do that, too (again, this has nothing to do with feminism, but more to do with relationship dynamics). What this means is that you understand that her indecisiveness requires that you step up and take the reins; even if it’s just to sit her down and tell her that she needs to make the decision in a particular situation. You still need to sit her down and drive that sense in to her. Yes, women are the more sensible ones, in most cases. But, sometimes, her senses lie in not knowing what to do next. Sometimes, she’s just worried about taking a step because she’s afraid of the consequences; even if she knows it’s the right thing to do. You need to take charge and tell her to get on with it anyway. Be the pillar she needs you to be. 9. Mutual Respect Again, it’s one of the most underrated and under-observed things about two people in a relationship. Having respect for one another goes beyond just literal terms here. It’s about respecting boundaries in relationships. It’s about your partner having an opinion about something and you respecting it enough to not want to manipulate your way through. It can be as simple as where the two of you stand on some sort of sexual act, or as complex as deciding what the next step in your relationship is. It’s about respecting each other’s personal spaces, as well as mental stamina. It’s about not testing the limits just to see how far you can push her before she breaks. It’s about understanding, that her, being okay with your lady-friends does not mean you can flirt, or eye just about whoever you want; that her giving you the nod to be open does not mean you toy with her and treat her as an option. It’s as simple as respecting that she may not like alcohol and may like to sleep on the right side. And it goes the vice versa, here. © Pexels 10. Deeper Understanding Naturally, respect translates to understanding. It’s a relationship of coexistence. One cannot exist without the other, simple. Yes, she’s complex and difficult and sometimes, she really makes you want to pull your hair, jump off a building or just kill her with a pillow. But, take a moment to really understand why she is doing, saying, or acting the way that she is. There is always a reason, however deep-seated it may be. And most times, women don’t speak up about their reasons out of fear, or prior knowledge that you’re not even going to be open to listening, let alone understanding. Understanding her reasons will be the difference between a dialogue and an argument, something that is always better avoided because it leaves both of you in a bad place. And that is not the purpose of your relationship. True that she might not even make sense to you most times; but, try and see it from her point of view, even if it’s the hardest thing to do. Let her know that you’re open to understanding and she will give in to you. 11. Freedom To Be The freedom to just be is one of the most prized things you can ever give to a woman who is in a relationship with you. It’s not about allowing her to be herself. It’s much more. It’s about allowing her to just be. There is a reason why we call ourselves human beings. The word ‘being’ entails so much more than it is made out to be. It’s about a deeper sense of purpose that has nothing to do with changing the world. Being is about accepting situations and people as they are and understanding that some things are beyond control; it’s about ceasing to worry about things that cannot be controlled; it’s about giving in to the incidence that is life and letting destiny work its magic. That’s what being is. And not everyone can do that. When you let her really be, she will be the happy person both of you deserve; and so will you. © Pexels 12. The Art Of Consistency Of all the things that modern life offers, consistency remains the rarest find. Do you know how difficult it is to find someone and something that is consistent? In a day and age where even the internet connection on your phone fails to follow through, the human mind is a whole other ball game. Don’t ever confuse, or equate predictability with boredom. Au contraire, being a predictable individual is one of the most foolproof forms of loyalty. Consistency means you will follow through and in case you can’t for some external, unforeseen reason(s), you will make that known. Consistency means you will be standing at the end of the road every day, for the rest of your life, for her; and she for you. Consistency means not giving up; not giving in; and continuously clawing through the many walls she keeps trying to build around. Consistency means wiping her tears and making up with her when you’re 80-years-old, the exact same way that you did when you were 30.

PM Narendra Modi is currently off on a Euro tour and his eventful trip has already made a lot of headlines. From taking a walk with the Spanish Prime Minister Mariano Rajoy, to having a sanskari chat with Priyanka Chopra to the handshake-gate gaffe courtesy of German Chancellor Angela Merkel, so much has happened on this trip. And now, Modi has been photographed enjoying a walk with Putin. We haven’t seen such chemistry between two world leaders since Modi and Obama. We wonder if Obama is a little bit jealous right now. Considering Putin and Trump’s close friendship, the latter probably is quite jealous right now. First it was all formal and it all started with a handshake. © Reuters And a really strong one as well. © Reuters But after all the formalities, the duo decided to take a walk. © Reuters Look at them just joking around. © Reuters What are they pointing at though? © Reuters The handholding is back! © Reuters Everyone on Twitter also thought they make a cute couple. Find someone who'll hold hands with you like this. #RelationshipGoals #Modi #Putin pic.twitter.com/rtE7fVmz30 — Avinash Gavai (@Rantaramic) June 2, 2017 Modi-Putin is relationship goals 🔥🔥😍😍 — Shan (@klpe) June 2, 2017 Narendra Putin or Vladimir Modi? https://t.co/b6SUDo1yiX — Danish Khan (@DanishKh4n) June 2, 2017 Find a girl who will hold hands like putin held modi's #Modiinrussia pic.twitter.com/iS0xbk9hYQ — Sachin Karnawat (@SachinKarnavat) June 2, 2017 #Modi then with #Putin #Modi now with #Putin 🙏the simple truth of "Focus, decidedly, on your what you love or work at" still has the grip. pic.twitter.com/e1hPEddVpT — Antevasin (@Antevasin10) June 2, 2017 Putin: How do you handle your relationships? Modi: I just like Russian into things. pic.twitter.com/dvqb8MBDd4 — Sahil Shah (@SahilBulla) June 2, 2017 Putin brought his dog in his meeting with Merkel coz merkel is afraid of dogs. Putin with Modi. pic.twitter.com/7seUt6HFVo — Ankit (@indiantweeter) June 2, 2017 Redefining relationship goals! Of course, there were some jokes about it as well. "Aao Saheli Chugli Karein." https://t.co/XLnSzRk8Az — Bhallanator (@Bhallanator) June 2, 2017 Modi-Putin's pre wedding photoshoot is amazing pic.twitter.com/jWIZPl6Vf0 — C (@jacknjohnnie) June 2, 2017 Putin:Ek joke sunau Modi: Haan Putin: Rahul Gandhi Pm banega pic.twitter.com/FR40csVGYg — Dhinkchak Bhagal (@BUnlimted) June 2, 2017 But, some people missed Trump also. pic.twitter.com/Iyg7OTC79L — SAGAR (@sagarcasm) June 1, 2017 I am holding out for a Trump Putin Modi threesome — kavitharao (@kavitharao) June 2, 2017

Rumour has it that on Anushka’s birthday, that is today, Virat might clean bowl her by popping the question! We don’t know that yet but however, what we do know is the fact that their relationship is proof that true love can brave any storm and outshine every other thing, even the razzmatazz of the glamour world. Let’s trace the genealogy from where it actually began and where it is now: 1. It all started from the TVC they did for a shampoo brand. Their chemistry was very obvious to the audience but I guess they felt the same because this was the start of something new. © Twitter 2. Soon after this, they started visiting each other often and were spotted in the public eye. It was the great day in November 2014, when a flying kiss was sent Anushka’s way in the stadium and the whole world knew that it was love! © Instagram 3. For a little while, they were rumoured to have broken up but love stands the test of time. Virat’s inning at the T20 post their break-up was fantastic and his fans targeted Anushka, thanking her for leaving him. However, Virat stood up for and called out all the haters. © Twitter 4. At Yuvraj’s Singh’s wedding, they were a delight to watch as they matched each other’s steps to music. #MustWatch: How amazing is this video of #AnushkaSharma and #ViratKohli dancing away at #YuvrajSingh and #HazelKeech's wedding reception in Goa! Make sure to watch it now 😍💞 A post shared by Cricket Shots (@cricketshots) on Dec 5, 2016 at 8:25am PST 5. This year, the lovely couple posed together on Virat’s Instagram when he wished her ‘Valentine’s Day’ in his own sweet way! Everyday is a valentine day if you want it to be. You make everyday seem like one for me ❤❤. @anushkasharma A post shared by Virat Kohli (@virat.kohli) on Feb 14, 2017 at 11:33pm PST 6. On ‘Women’s Day’, the ace cricketer again wore his heart on his sleeves when he professed his love and regard for the two leading ladies in his life. Happy women's day to every woman out there, but specially to the two strongest women in my life. My mom for looking after the family in toughest times in life and @anushkasharma for fighting against the odds regularly and standing up for righteousness and changing the norms ❤#happywomenday A post shared by Virat Kohli (@virat.kohli) on Mar 7, 2017 at 8:28pm PST The glamour world can wear off on the best of the relationships but this ship is sailing strong. Amen to that!

There are two kinds of people in the world – those who think Ross and Rachel were on a break, and those who think Ross did the unacceptable. While most of us love Ross for the nice guy he is, one can’t help but think what are the rules of being on a break. How do you know how long it will last. When is it okay to cheat; hell, it’s not even cheating if you are on a break, right? © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images First things first, you can take a break from a relationship only if it’s more than a year old. If you find the need to take a break even before you’ve crossed the on-year mark, there’s a red flag, buddy. Maybe you need a permanent break from the relationship. When do you take a break? Take a break when you need space in the relationship, when you feel you are no longer yourself in the relationship. Or when there’s too much going on in your life and your partner’s presence is making it worse. When you’ve fought so much that continuing doesn’t seem an option but you also can’t see yourself breaking up, then taking a break is a good idea. It’s like going on a long vacation when you feel too stuck up in your job – after the trip, you’ll either know you don’t need that job or you’ll realise it’s the best you can have and all you needed was just a break. © YouTube Taking a break is accepting that there’s something wrong in your relationship and that you are ready to work it out. Sometimes, only talking it out doesn’t work; you need to be away from each other to figure it out. Brushing things under the carpet and hoping that it will all be okay is not the solution and harmful for the relationship in the long run. Taking a break is different from a break-up © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Taking a break is often seen as a prelude to a breakup, but it is not so. If your relationship is already in troubled waters, you might breakup in the future anyway; taking a break could give you the necessary clarity and eventually save your relationship. It’s that last chance you give yourself to evaluate what you want in the relationship. It does not mean you are breaking up. You are still there for each other; you don’t have to return each other’s stuff or delete their number. Yes, avoid anything that reminds you of them so that you can think clearly during your break. Can you be with someone else if you are on a break? Is it really cheating? If you are taking a break to get some much-needed space, it’s a bad idea to get into the same rut again, now with someone else. But since you are going to be single again, albeit temporarily, you have the freedom to explore all that the single life has to offer. You are free to feel what it feels like to be single again. If the break is to figure out what’s wrong, it’s okay to even date other people. Having said that, it’s very easy to start treating breaks as an excuse to cheat, and it’s bad for the relationship in the long-term. How long can a break go? © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images It all depends on what issues there are and how well the two people are able to resolve them, but if a break goes on for too long, chances are that the relationship won’t survive it. There are people who get back after 10 days and there are people who have taken a break and went on to see other people only to realize months later that they really were meant for each other. Thing is there’s no perfect duration – but if you find yourself extending the break too much, know that it’s a relationship that’s reached its expiry date. The break is a breather that helps you analyse your emotions better. It can go wrong too © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Of course, taking a break is risky. It’s a huge step. If you and your partner are not on the same page, it can really go wrong. It can send a message that you want to break-up, which is why it is important that you try sorting it out first. Taking a break is the last attempt to save a relationship. It is also possible that your partner finds someone else during the break, while you realize you still love them. That’s the worst possibility you have to be ready for if you are planning to go ahead with it. At the end of the day, it’s all about trying to save your relationship. No one wants to lose someone they love, but people change and so do their relationships. Sometimes, you have to do whatever you can.

‘Tum Jab Paas’ is a melodious song and a video by Prateek Kuhad that is stirring up some sweet, nostalgic feels in our hearts. © Youtube From sneaking messages on paper to bringing roses for that girl you dated in high school, the video showcases all the things we all did back when adolescence was our buddy. © Youtube You see no faces, yet you can’t help but miss your first love. From drawing ‘FLAMES’ to exchanging lunch boxes, this video captures the emotions pretty well. © Youtube © Youtube Also, remember being the tall guy when that cute girl had to stand on her toes to kiss you? And that one time when you went under the bed sheets and the relationship evolved? © Youtube Sit back, relax, enjoy the video and reminisce in peace.

Growing bored in a long-term relationship is natural; it’s only human. After years of being together, feelings of being stuck in the same routine are natural. When you’ve been with the same person since high school, you find yourself wondering sometimes what it would feel like to be with someone else for a change. What if it hadn’t worked out? If you’ve spent most of your early twenties being in a relationship, you miss bachelorhood. You miss the thrill of one-night stands, the rush of flirting with that hot girl on the dance floor, the abandon of buying a one-way ticket without having to answer anybody. © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images When you spend each day with the same person, you get comfortable with them but a sense of boredom also creeps in. The other life seems more exciting. Office parties, friends get-togethers, music concerts – you see plenty of other people and know it’s the world out there. It’s difficult to be emotionally loyal. Even if you love the other person dearly, it’s difficult to convince yourself this is it. Am I missing out on life? – you ask yourself. But then you love them so much. You find their company comforting and assuring. © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images If you’ve fallen out of love with them, it’s okay to call it quits. But if you are miserable only because you are bored and your relationship doesn’t seem as exciting as before, you need to rethink your decisions. Tell yourself why you love them, why their presence in your life is indispensible, why you long to see them after a tiring day. If your love for them outweighs your boredom with your love life, hold on to it with both hands. Work the boredom out, because deep down you know how you love them. Don’t get bogged down by the seemingly dull nature of your love life. Reinvent your romance time and again. don’t be under the impression that real love needs no work. Even Romeo and Juliet, had they been real and lived on to settle down together, would have experienced their share of ups and down in the relationship. No relationship is ever perfect. © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images A relationship will not always be hunky dory and make your world go round. Love is not supposed to be like that. A mature relationship is when you want to grow old together. It’s when you are so comfortable in each other’s presence that you no longer feel the need to impress and act. It’s when after a long hard day at work, you find comfort in the fact that you will get to see that one person who makes every pain melt away. Love is when you can’t bear to share your life with anyone else. © Pexels But love doesn’t guarantee a smooth relationship. You have to make it work. You could be bored even if you are in love. You could be eyeing a different life even if you look forward to returning home to that one person. Because not all days are alike. One day you could be missing them terribly, another day you could find their presence intrusive in your personal space. There are hundreds of things that will try your relationship. The one constant is the way you feel. Every hurdle can be dealt with as long as you feel special in their presence. Just remember no love tale is perfect. At the end of the day, love is just about finding friendship with someone you love; it’s about finding that sweet spot with someone. As long as you are comfortable with them and love them completely and selflessly, a little boredom is something you can deal with.

When asked what was the most intriguing mystery in the world, famous cosmologist Stephen Hawking replied, ‘Women.’ If the physics genius who unraveled the most difficult mysteries of space, has a hard time understanding women, there’s little hope for us ordinary mortals. Stand-up comic Amit Tandon speaks for every man who has found himself in a tight spot after his wife/girlfriend asked him ‘Tumko Mujh Mein Kya Achcha Lagta Hai?’ © YouTube Talking about how Bollywood romantic movies have made women have unrealistic expectations from men, Tandon blames Gulzar for making everything sound poetic. Of course, the common man who works in a 9-to-5 job cannot match the poetic might of Gulzar’s romantic verses spoken by Amitabh Bachchan against a misty forest backdrop. Watch him hilariously break down the most difficult question in history.

It’s so done and dusted that it almost seems like an age-old debate now. But, it isn’t. The question of whether it is to be, or not to be is very recent. And it came about with the rise of gender equality, freedom of sexuality and role reversals. A lot of millennials are questioning the institution altogether, while others are entering into holy matrimony for all the wrong reasons. Look around you and tell me if you haven’t seen couples get married only because they were too afraid to be alone; or because they thought they couldn’t do better or, simply put, kids and financial security. © Unsplash Off late, I’ve been having incredibly heated discussions about whether or not, marriage and monogamy are natural, let alone even legit anymore. And while I’ve never really been able to come up with a concrete response—mine always has more to do with the fact that it has more to do with feelings and levels of commitment than logic, honestly—I do feel, somewhere that marriage, as a concept and form of commitment is quite honestly, unlike any other. One might club monogamy and matrimony under the same umbrella; one might have their own reasons to do so and I’m not going to rubbish those reasons, entirely. But, I’m going to try and present cases in point for both sides of the topic. And let’s remember that all forms of commitments come with their own sets of disclaimers; marriage comes with a few more. But, there’s a reason why you should not write it off as redundant, just yet. Monogamy Vs Matrimony © Pexels There is this accepted perception that monogamy and marriage are interchangeable. The argument I get a lot is ‘you don’t have to be married to someone to be committed to them’, ‘Monogamous relationships are just as good as being married, ‘One does not need a label to spend the rest of their lives with someone’… The list goes on. However, as it would turn out, there is a HUGE difference between being married to somebody and being in a monogamous relationship with them. Marriage brings in legal, social, emotional and sexual repercussions. It’s about taking on societal and familial roles on an entirely new level. Sure, you can say that when you’re in a monogamous relationship, your significant other is just as involved in all of these spheres of your life. But, they would still be your “Partner”, as opposed to being your “Husband”, or “Wife”. And It Is About Labels © Unsplash Believe it or not; like it or not; marriage is about labels. At the end of the day, you want to belong to someone and be more than just their significant other, partner, girlfriend, or boyfriend. You want the titles of husband, or wife to be added after your name. It’s not about the surname. But, it is about the roles and the titles because whether you want to accept it or not, the truth is, having a Mr, or a Mrs as a prefix makes a difference to the way we lived our lives before and after being married to someone. Aside from the fact that it feels like you do belong with someone, it is also about being responsible for that person when everyone else is gone—and yes, that will happen. It’s about having someone to fall back on, not because it’s a luxury; but because it’s now, a part of your life. It’s about letting someone hold you responsible for their well being and likewise, you them. It sounds selfish, yes. But, trust me, when you move beyond the face value of that sentence, it’s much more selfless and productive than you could fathom. It’s No Cakewalk © Unsplash It’s true; it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. And most people would happily agree to it, too. It’s one of the most difficult decisions you’ll ever have to make in your life. You cannot expect to feel the same way for one person everyday; you cannot and will not feel the love for them throughout the day, for the rest of your life. But, then again, it’s not about loving so much as it’s about choosing. You’re willing to choose that same person over and over again, every single day, for the rest of your life. You will have to mentally prepare yourself for days when you probably do not want to be around that person; for the times when you’d rather just walk away from the useless banter than stand and take it; for moments when you’d rather just be alone in a room. But, you’d still choose to be with that person, no matter what or when or how because you have made JUST THAT sort of a commitment to them. You have decided to let this person take over your time and your emotions and almost every sphere of your life and it works the same way for you over them. It’s About Safeguards © Unsplash It’s about being so sure about one person being able to catch you when you fall; or being so sure about this person that if they told you to jump off a cliff, you could do it with your eyes closed, knowing well enough that it’s going to be okay. It takes time; it takes years; it takes patience. It takes decades of bickering, arguing and fighting till you’re both on the same side. It takes effort and losing the ego and a sense of where you’re headed to tell if you’re ready to spend the rest of your life with this one person. And sometimes, it’s not even about the entirety of your life—no one guarantees happy endings and the fairytales; not even storytellers—sometimes, it’s just about a lifetime in whatever little time you spend. It’s more than just “a piece of paper”. It’s a deal; it’s a partnership and it’s a promise to stick to one another and tie each other down because, sometimes, that’s the only way we can be free. Humans crave connection; they crave emotional bonds that last. So, yes, we doubt marriage more than often; but, we also doubt life, the good in this world, our politicians’ agendas and the future of this planet. We’re still doing what we must, aren’t we? We’re still building roads, homes and investing in a future when we might not even make it through the day. Isn’t it the same with marriage, only ten times more intense? © Pexels Marriage is not redundant. Our threshold for commitment is. We’re afraid of the unknown. We’re also afraid of the known. We’re afraid to put in effort for one person who could become our whole world. We like to claim that we’d instead just stay monogamous for the rest of our lives and that it’s the same thing. The problem with that is, anyone can walk out at anytime. How does that make a marriage different? In a marriage you’re ready to be held accountable for walking out on the person you vowed to take care of in front of witnesses, on a legally stamped paper that is kept safe for records. It’s not about imprisoning a person, or their emotion. It’s about seeking out stability in the utmost sense. You’re ready to be their legal guardian and partner through thick and thin, through sickness and health, through rich and poor and through better and worse. You’re willing to make it legal. That, right there, is the highest form of commitment; not “just another piece of paper.” © Unsplash

Unlike our mothers, who show physical affection and are very vocal with their affection, our fathers are the silent heroes. They work the whole day, so that we sleep in peace. They drive our lives, and remain the unsung supermen. Shubhashish Bhutiani, the director of ‘Mukti Bhawan’, has played beautifully with the concept of a bittersweet relationship between a father and a son. © YouTube The lead roles have Kay Kay Menon playing the difficult son, and Adil Hussain playing the father whose last wish is to die in ‘Mukti Bhawan’, that is, salvation hotel in Varanasi. They get a room for 15 days and the trailer gives a glimpse of what happens in those 15 days. It is raw, vulnerable and beautifully shot. This movie has already won many accolades internationally and is all set for a release in India next month.

Big scale, red carpet-like birthday bashes are the thing now, all thanks to Karan Johar and co. These events (as we like to call them) are a peacocking ground for showcasing shiny outfits, displaying burrowed...err...gifted luxury bags, and, flaunting newer relationships. So, when Mira Rajput threw a birthday bash for Shahid’s 36th birthday—all of Bollywood decided to turn up, dressed to the nines, obviously. All of Bollywood power-couples —Deepika and Ranveer, Alia and Sidharth, Varun and Natasha (?) and a solo Karan Johar were some of the A-listers in attendance. (See here) Source: Viral Bhayani And even though the alleged couple has been spotted multiple times all over the city, Varun Dhawan has been tight-lipped about his relationship with Natasha Dalal. Well, until now. If these paparazzi photos are any proof Varun and Natasha, holding hands, are clearly in love and there’s no denying it anymore. Source: Viral Bhayani But, here's the real proof! In an interview with India.com, Varun gushed about his relationship, saying, "I am cool about it. In fact, I’ve always been cool about it. There’s nothing to hide. I just don’t want the focus to shift from my career to the relationship. That’s why I don’t talk much about it. What can one say about spending time with loved ones? I’m not denying anything at all, just that I don’t like to discuss it. I see it reaching a good place. (Smiles) She’s quite a handful so full credit to her for sticking by me. She's one of the best people I've come across in my life!"

Virat Kohli and Anushka Sharma have been inseparable ever since the reports of their alleged hook-up surfaced in 2013. Whether it's the Bollywood actress attending Team India matches or the Indian captain joining his love interest for a special movie screening, the duo are arguably the much-talked-about couple at the moment. For a while now, we have seen the two holding hands and attending various events together, instigating the speculation of a steady relationship. And, even if the couple has been denying their alleged relationship, their antics on social media speak otherwise. © BCCL So, on Valentine's Day when a number of celebrity couples were busy expressing their love on social media, all eyes were on Kohli and Anushka who chose to stay away from the limelight. But, on Wednesday, the Delhi lad posted his picture with Anushka along with a beautiful message on social media. And it seems that the Indian batting sensation has finally admitted his relationship with the Bollywood hottie. Everyday is a valentine day if you want it to be. You make everyday seem like one for me ❤❤. @anushkasharma A post shared by Virat Kohli (@virat.kohli) on Feb 14, 2017 at 11:33pm PST The 28-year-old took to Instagram and shared a photo with the caption: "Everyday is a valentine day if you want it to be. You make everyday seem like one for me". Virat also shared the photo with the same caption on Twitter but due to unknown reasons, the explosive batsman decided to delete that tweet. © BCCL Back in December 2016, rumours were rife that Virat and Anushka were planning to get engaged on the 1st of January this year. The couple was spotted spending time together in Uttarakhand alongside the Bachchan's and Ambani's which led to their engagement rumours. However, Virat took to Twitter to clear the air. " we aren't getting engaged & if we were going to,we wouldn't hide it. Simple... (1/2) — Virat Kohli (@imVkohli) December 30, 2016 (2/2)Since news channels cant resist selling false rumours & keeping you confused, we are just ending the confusion :) — Virat Kohli (@imVkohli) December 30, 2016 Well, even if the couple continues to deny their relationship, Virat's sweet Valentine's Day message for Anushka shows that the Bollywood actress holds a special place in his heart.

For couples in long-distance relationships, Valentine’s Day can easily turn into a miserable, good-for-nothing mess of a day because of the miles in-between. To avoid getting your feelings squashed by all the couples in love around you, it’s necessary to have a definite plan. So, we tell you how you can plan Valentine's Day better if you are in a long-distance relationship. 1. Start Off With A Simple ‘I Love You’ Call Thinkstock Don’t mess this one up. Pick up your phone and let your significant other know what you mean to them. There’s no better feeling in the world than hearing those three letters first thing on Valentine’s Day and it’d put you on a nice pedestal for the rest of the day. 2. Don’t Make Each Other Feel Miserable By Discussing Your Friends’ Plans © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images The more you discuss about other couples, the more you sabotage your own plans. So, take our word for it and don’t start a discussion over how your roommate is spending this Valentine’s. Instead, try and make an effort to ensure that the focus of every discussion is your relationship and how you would love to make it special for each other. 3. Take Out Time For Hand-Written Notes And Deliver Them By Mail This Valentine’s Weekend Thinkstock Don’t be a lazy ass and instead try to make a genuine effort by making hand-written notes. If you can make it a surprise and deliver those notes through his/her friends at different times during the day, then there’s nothing better than that. It’s a sureshot way to let your significant other know how much you care. 4. Plan The Whole Day And Try Out A Movie Marathon On Phone © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Browse the romance section under Netflix and try out a movie marathon over phone. There are plenty of titles there to keep the mood light and you can actually talk about a lot of other stuff while avoiding feeling alone on V-Day. 5. Stop Cribbing About The Distance And Arrange For A Virtual Dinner Date © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images E-Dates are actually easier and hassle-free, thanks to Skype. Order food that both of you like, put on some music and switch on your webcam to make the best of this situation. Distance is temporary and don’t let it dictate terms of your relationship. 6. Talk And Plan About the Time When You Actually Get To Meet Each Other © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Being away can be hard and Valentine’s Day gives a perfect opportunity to make plans in advance for when you get to meet each other. Girls love to talk and plan stuff in advance, and it’s actually a good way to spend quality time with her even if you are seven seas away. 7. And If All Of This Is Too Mediocre , Then Plan A Surprise Visit And Sweep Her Off Her Feet Thinkstock Now, some of you might be looking for a next-level idea for this Valentine’s Day and it can’t get any bigger than this. If you are just fed-up with all the miles in-between and can actually afford it, then go ahead and make the trip. Surprise her by ringing the doorbell of her house in the morning and sweep her off her feet.

"Coming clean is my dynamic," writes the 44-year-old filmmaker who has been the poster boy for homosexuality in Bollywood, long, long before the invention of Instagram or Snapchat. Even though he’ll never say the three damned words, his extremely emotional tell-all memoir—co-authored by Poonam Saxena—is possibly the closest fans will come to knowing Karan Johar (and not KJO, his alter ego). On Losing His Virginity Karan Johar is not “proud” of the way he lost his virginity at 26. His lack of experience made him pay for *** in New York. An experience he describes as “nerve-wracking”. And just like anyone losing their virginity for the first time, he went at it again. "This time, I walked out with guilt. I felt miserable. It's not that the sexual release was fun. It just seemed a bit stupid; it seemed fake because obviously, the person assigned to please you is going to please you artificially," he said. © Viral Bhayani On *** Karan notes in his book, “People think that since I am traveling a lot, I am having a lot of ***. But it doesn't happen that way. A boarding pass is not a pass for ***. I am not in love with anyone anymore..." © Twitter On His Fallout With Kajol “I don’t have a relationship with Kajol anymore. We have had a fallout. Something happened that disturbed me deeply which I will not talk about because it is something that I like to protect and I feel it would not be fair to her or to me. After two-and-a-half decades, Kajol and I don’t talk at all.” On Growing Up "There was a big age gap between me and my father, and no one else told me about these things,” Karan notes referring to ***. Talking about his childhood, Johar continues, “I had a square group of friends: we were all very good girls and boys. We were the Gujarati bunch who would go for picnics. We were the most uncool, unaware and innocent lot!" © Lights camera bollywood On Bollywood Karan openly writes about the fact that he was very “concerned” with what other film-makers did. He was always “jealous” and wished their films wouldn't do as well as they did. He was constantly troubled by Sanjay Leela Bhansali's brilliance and Raju Hirani’s writing skills. However, after all these years, Karan isn’t bothered anymore. "If I hear a film has done well, great. Good for you..." he maintains. On Being Underrated "I feel no matter what kind of films I do, I never get credit. It gets forgotten immediately afterward. I am still associated with popcorn, frivolity, NRIs and rich people..."

While men seem to lead the no-strings-attached dating motto, women are not far behind. One thing that bothers most men while pursuing a woman is the level of commitment she is looking at. If you are looking for a life partner, you are sorted but if you are just looking for fling, you have to tread carefully. It is a general perception that a woman, if looking for a partner, must be looking for a long-term relationship. While it is true in most cases, considering the pressure of settling down on a woman, there are also times when all a woman needs is a no-strings-attached fling. But how do you tell? What if she gets offended? Surely, you don’t want to mislead a woman when you know you two want different things. Imagine the regret when you realise she was giving you all the hints for a romp in the hay and you resisted all that charm coz you didn’t want a relationship. While there is nothing full-proof and sureshot in suggesting what a woman wants, there are some signs that will help you figure out if she is just looking for a fling or for a serious relationship. Now one thing has to be kept in mind here – no matter what signs a woman gives you, it is never a license for ***. It never means you can seduce her because she did something or talked to you in a certain manner. Those are just hints for you to pick up and ask her out – what course has to be taken next depends on your comfort levels and consent. 1. She Touches You Suggestively. A Lot © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images This one’s a given. Women do it when they are really interested in you. A casual brush of the arm or standing too close to you is a clear indicator she likes you. But what distinguishes it from a romantic touch is the way it happens. The touch will be discreet and on unexpected places like brushing of legs when you are sitting together in a cab. If she holds your arm in a cute cuddly way, don’t read *** into it – she likes your company and finds it comforting. But if she grazes her shoulder against your torso, runs her hand through your hair, finishing it ever so lightly on your neck behind the ear, she probably considers you eye candy. Feeling objectified, are we? 2. She Teases You © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Now this doesn’t mean simple harmless banter and pulling your leg. That is plain romantic, or just fondness. When her teasing involves physical proximity and action from both the sides, sense a sexual tension right there. Be it pouring water on your face when you are sleeping or tickling your ear, instigating you to jump up in your seat and take sweet revenge, she is looking for excuses to get close to you. 3. She Brings The Topic Of *** Into Conversation Frequently © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images While it is one thing to make sleazy jokes it is another to talk about it on a serious note. If she mentions ***, is curious about your *** life, or about your sexual fantasies, she is probably testing the waters. She is gauging how much fun you can be between the sheets. 4. She Invites You Over To Her House All The Time © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images If you still haven’t read the signs and figured out, be prepared to be pushed into the friend zone. She might or might not accept your offer to go to your place because of comfort levels, but is she has been inviting you over to her place after parties, dates, hanging out, it means she is comfortable with you and trusts you. You guys could only be chilling for all you know, depending on what she is comfortable with, but it is definitely a step closer towards greater intimacy. 5. You Don’t Really Have A Conversation © Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images Her responses to your texts are delayed, sometimes in monosyllables, but she always replies. The conversation is either dead or it is flirtatious; it is never meaningful. She is flirting with you but not really talking. And even when you meet, there is no real effort from her side to talk, get to know you—she doesn’t ask too many questions about you as a person, your profession, your hobbies. She’d prefer to dance rather than listen to you; I know it sounds harsh but that’s casual dating. If you want the same thing as she does, jackpot. If you don’t, you know when to get out. While these are general signs and may or may not mean something. Whether a woman wants a one-night stand or a fling, it doesn’t mean she is easy and will always be open to anything. It is entirely her will to take the date forward. Consent to *** is not based on a vague sign; it is a clear communication. Having said that, we hope you never miss a chance to pick up the right signs at the right moments!

It’s not easy, dating a woman who doesn’t need saving. As a man, you’re only too used to doing that; you love doing that, just like you enjoy the occasional ego boost. But, she doesn’t need it. That’s something that you not only have to understand but, also—and more importantly—need to accept. © Pexels She’s the alpha female and she doesn’t need you to reaffirm her faith in herself. She stopped justifying herself to the world a long time ago—the day she realized no one and nothing ever lasts forever. She doesn’t need your shoulder to cry on when the night’s too dark and she doesn’t need you to walk her home when it’s late. She’s all too used to doing it all on her own for longer than you’ve been chivalrous to women in general. © Pexels She doesn’t need you to ask her out. She isn’t waiting for you to make the first move. She doesn’t throw around words like ‘women’s rights’ and ‘feminism’ at the drop of her hat; or start a debate on women’s equality every time she’s around a man. She doesn’t demand respect; she reserves it just by being present the way that she is. She doesn’t need to flaunt her figure for a man; she’ll do it for herself. She doesn’t need you to call the waiter for her. She can take the first step; just like she’s been doing in all the other areas of her life. She isn’t afraid to offer her hand out for you to take; she isn’t hesitant to take the lead so that you can follow her shadow. Simply put, she isn’t afraid. But, you are. © Pexels You’re afraid of the fact that she doesn’t need you in her life; she only wants you to be a part of it. You’re afraid of the fact that she’d rather split the bill on your date and you might not get to act chivalrous because she doesn’t need you to pull the chair out for her. You’re afraid of the fact that on nights, when she’s been through hell, you might not even know it because she can take care of her own self; even if that means crying herself to sleep. She’s learned to pick herself up on her own, every time she falls down; and it’s an art to watch her do it. She knows how to wipe away her own tears and smile through it all… Hell, she’ll even make the world around her smile, without anyone noticing her eyes well up. You want to be the shoulder she cries on when her world is falling apart. You want to be the hand she holds when the going gets tough. You want to be the one she turns to when everyone else turns their backs on her. You want her to need you so that you can feel your worth. You want to be in control; you want to be the one who says, ‘I got this!’ You can’t because you don’t ‘got this’. She’s the one who has it under control; even if it means she’s falling apart inside. © Pexels To date the strong independent woman is to feel left out; to be the last one invited to your own party. She knows what she wants and she’s made up her mind before you can change your shirt. And it confuses you; yet, it intrigues you. The difference between her and all the other women—no, girls—you’ve dated is pretty stark. She isn’t anything like them. She can take care of herself. These six words sum up her entire life, attitude and demeanor; be it around you, or anybody else she’s with. She doesn’t show you she needs you. She won’t ask you to stay if you’ve just announced there’s an important errand you have to run; never mind if she actually wants you to stay. She won’t even ask you what the errand is. She’ll just smile and let you go. She’ll never ask you to wait for her because she knows not to expect anything out of anyone—no matter how dear to her you may be. She’ll just smile and tell you to carry on. She won’t tell you any of her stories, even if she’s been dying to tell someone—anyone—about her side. She’ll just smile and talk about you, instead. You may never know about the scars she’s got; or the hurt she’s been accustomed to by now because she doesn’t think it’s important enough to talk about anymore. She’ll never make promises she can’t keep. And if she makes you a promise, it will be the only thing she ever keeps. Simply because she knows the hurt of broken promises. She has no pedestal on which she’s set her expectations of the people—especially the men—in her life. She learned a long time ago that everyone is but, human and fleeting. She has no examples to give for the men she’s dated in the past, or the ones she intends to date in the future. She doesn’t have many expectations from you. Just that you stand for what you believe in; just that you stand your own ground; just that you’re 200% sure of yourself, your choice of her and the fact that you want to be with her. She doesn’t care that you might need her more than she needs you. Ego is never her bone of contention; honesty is. She will fight the world for you and for her; all she needs is for you to be worth that fight. You never really know her; except that you know she’s as independent as the Sun. She can ignite her own fire and light up the world with it. And you know it; which is why you want nothing but to be with her; even if it means it’s just so you can shine in her light. She makes you want to be half the man that she already is for herself.

Just few days ago, 2015 UPSC topper Tina Dabi declared her relationship with Athar Amil-ul-Shafi Khan on social media. Athar had ranked second in the exam and had lost the first rank to Tina. They received immense support from well wishers and many people congratulated them on their marriage plans. Allegedly, The Hindu Mahasabha or the moral police of India do not approve of this relationship and are definitely not happy about this news. The national secretary of The Hindu Mahasabha wrote a letter to Dabi’s parents saying that while he was happy about Tina’s hard work and achievements, Dabi’s father should reconsider the match. He also wrote that Dabi’s father consider making Athar undergo ‘Ghar Vapsi’. All this because Dabi is a Dalit and Athar is a Muslim! The Hindu Mahasabha has declared their relationship to be ‘Love Jihad’ © Facebook The couple first met at the Department Of Personnel And Training (DoPT) in Delhi and started going out soon after. This is what Tina had to say about the matter- "As any freethinking independent woman I am entitled to certain choices. I am very happy with my choice and so is Aamir. Our parents are happy too. But there will always be those elements, that small minority who will always pass negative comments about dating someone from another religion. It is just that 5%. The majority are very happy. You would have seen in my Facebook timeline that most of the comments are encouraging,”

Long distance relationships suck—the tension, confusion and lack of proximity makes it harder for the people to even think about getting into one, let alone be a part of it. However, there are many brave souls who have sailed the boat of long distance relationship and if you ever talk to them, you will be surprised at how strongly they are maintaining and working towards their relationship. Ever wondered, how they do that? Well, check out these couples revealing their secrets of how they manage their long distance relationship. This thread originally published on Whisper. 1. They are one of the coolest couples ever! © whisper 2. It truly is the little things that matter… © whisper 3. No offense but what if his favourite song is ‘Chikni Chameli’? © whisper 4. The classic word game always wins © whisper 5. Nothing can go wrong with this plan…’coz it has food involved in it © whisper 6. We bet his laptop is still blushing! © whisper 7. When in doubt, go for the old school style romance © whisper 8. All hail the new sexting guru… © whisper 9. Don’t let her go…EVER © whisper 10. When you have too much to talk, distance no longer seems to be a barrier! © whisper 11. #LongDistanceRelationshipGoals © whisper 12. And the award for the best date goes to… © whisper 13. What words…he knows the deal too well! © whisper 14. It’s definitely something to look forward to… © whisper 15. That’s quite a wild imagination © whisper