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You think breaking up over a text is bad? Well, ghosting is worse. It is the worst form of rejection when someone abruptly stops responding to your texts. No clarification. No explanation. They simply vanish. Was it something you said? Did she find someone else? Is she friends with your ex? There are many reasons why someone may have ghosted on you and there’s no point in taking it personally. In fact, you must have ghosted on some of your matches too. Instead of beating yourself up about it, you need to know why they ghosted in the first place. It could be them, but it could also be something you said or the way you behaved. Here are some of the most common turn-offs for women that make them ghost on men. Read on and don’t forget to make notes: 1. Casual Sexism Or MisogynySexism is bad and misogyny is worse. Whether you’re giving her unsolicited opinions on her style, her makeup or her career, you need to stop. Avoid saying things like ‘I like women with no makeup’ or ‘ you look better in a dress than in jeans’. __ECOMPRODUCT__2306__ We all grew up with patriarchy embedded in our society so there’s some deep-rooted sexism in each one of us. But instead of projecting it on others, try to be more understanding and avoid commenting on anyone’s personal choices. 2. Being Too NeedyIf you’re really into someone, it’s easy to get anxious waiting for them to text back. But you have to fight the urge of sending her back to back ‘hey’ texts. This can make you seem too needy and turn her off. Think about it, if someone was texting you back to back, wouldn’t you feel annoyed? __ECOMPRODUCT__3236__ 3. Being Too PushyIf she says that she prefers meeting at a restaurant instead of coming over, listen to her. There’s no point pushing her to meet you because that will only push her away. Respecting her boundaries is the only way of making her feel safe. More so, can you really blame her for being too cautious? __ECOMPRODUCT__3164__ 4. Excessive SextingDid she start the sexting? Did she reciprocate your sexts? If the answer to both these questions is no, you need to stop. You may be in the mood to sext, but she’s not. If you continue to be pushy about it, she is likely to get uncomfortable and ghost. No means no and silence also means no, be it on a dating app or in real life. 5. You Met & There Was No ChemistryIt’s not your fault and it’s not hers. Sometimes, you simply don’t hit it off. Instead of chasing her, move on and match with someone new. Who knows, you may find someone who is actually compatible with you and you end up talking for hours with her. __ECOMPRODUCT__1583__ Happy Dating! Now, that you know about the most common reasons for ghosting, you probably have a much better understanding of modern women. Keep it simple and real and you’re sure to find a match in no time. Explore More View the full article

You think breaking up over a text is bad? Well, ghosting is worse. It is the worst form of rejection when someone abruptly stops responding to your texts. No clarification. No explanation. They simply vanish. Was it something you said? Did she find someone else? Is she friends with your ex? There are many reasons why someone may have ghosted on you and there’s no point in taking it personally. In fact, you must have ghosted on some of your matches too. Instead of beating yourself up about it, you need to know why they ghosted in the first place. It could be them, but it could also be something you said or the way you behaved. Here are some of the most common turn-offs for women that make them ghost on men. Read on and don’t forget to make notes: 1. Casual Sexism Or MisogynySexism is bad and misogyny is worse. Whether you’re giving her unsolicited opinions on her style, her makeup or her career, you need to stop. Avoid saying things like ‘I like women with no makeup’ or ‘ you look better in a dress than in jeans’. __ECOMPRODUCT__2306__ We all grew up with patriarchy embedded in our society so there’s some deep-rooted sexism in each one of us. But instead of projecting it on others, try to be more understanding and avoid commenting on anyone’s personal choices. 2. Being Too NeedyIf you’re really into someone, it’s easy to get anxious waiting for them to text back. But you have to fight the urge of sending her back to back ‘hey’ texts. This can make you seem too needy and turn her off. Think about it, if someone was texting you back to back, wouldn’t you feel annoyed? __ECOMPRODUCT__3236__ 3. Being Too PushyIf she says that she prefers meeting at a restaurant instead of coming over, listen to her. There’s no point pushing her to meet you because that will only push her away. Respecting her boundaries is the only way of making her feel safe. More so, can you really blame her for being too cautious? __ECOMPRODUCT__3164__ 4. Excessive SextingDid she start the sexting? Did she reciprocate your sexts? If the answer to both these questions is no, you need to stop. You may be in the mood to sext, but she’s not. If you continue to be pushy about it, she is likely to get uncomfortable and ghost. No means no and silence also means no, be it on a dating app or in real life. 5. You Met & There Was No ChemistryIt’s not your fault and it’s not hers. Sometimes, you simply don’t hit it off. Instead of chasing her, move on and match with someone new. Who knows, you may find someone who is actually compatible with you and you end up talking for hours with her. __ECOMPRODUCT__1583__ Happy Dating! Now, that you know about the most common reasons for ghosting, you probably have a much better understanding of modern women. Keep it simple and real and you’re sure to find a match in no time. Explore More View the full article

Being ghosted by someone you never dated can sometimes hurt more than breaking up with your long-time girlfriend. Mainly because in a breakup, you are sure things have ended and you need to move on, unlike 'ghosters', who leave you wondering what went wrong and whether they are just busy or deliberately not texting back. © iStock Well, the truth is their battery didn’t die for months, nor did they get ‘caught up with urgent work’ but they simply ignored you and didn’t have the decency to tell you. What’s worse is that some of the ghosters try to sneak back into your life as if nothing happened after days, weeks or months of no contact. © iStock Why does a ghost return? Didn’t they make it clear they have got nothing to do with you? Well, here are 5 possible reasons why. Before you say FO to her, here is why she could have back and what this ‘dating zombie’ could want from you: 1. She’s Bored © iStock She probably ghosted you because she was bored and was looking for something more fun and exciting and she is probably back now because she is bored now and reached out to see if you are still hung up on them or interested. This would come in the form of a cold and stale text like ‘Hi’ or ‘Hey’. 2. She Wants To Hook Up © iStock If she ghosted you after you two casually hooked up once or twice and pops up out of nowhere saying she misses you, it translates to that she misses the ***. While it’s great and if you are up for it, respond, but make the boundaries clear. Otherwise, you may not hear from her after your next hookup again which isn’t fair to you. 3. She Is Tired Of Meeting New Guys © iStock Dating is hard. Maybe she is realising it now when she isn’t clicking with anyone, not meeting good guys or simply tired of going through the 'what's your favourite colour’ phase all over again for the hundredth time. You feel like a safe option who already fell for her and so she is trying to crawl back into your life. 4. She Got Dumped/Ghosted Herself © iStock She ghosted you, met someone new who dumped her and now she is seeking comfort and love from you (because you made the mistake of giving her before). In this case, she just wants to boost her ego and convince herself she is no less. A rebound is all you are to her. 5. She Misses The Attention © iStock A narcissistic trait that probably prompted her to ghost you just to see how you’d react. But after getting no response or pleading texts (which she might be used to), she now comes back to hog more attention. Chances are she will ghost you again so better stay away. 6. She Misses You, Genuinely © iStock There are some who come back because they are genuinely regretful and miss you. They might not have the heart to tell you that they wanted out but now realise that you two could have been something if she didn’t pull the plugs abruptly. You’ll know if she is here to stay this time if she apologises and means it. If you think it’s a pattern and she is here for the aforementioned reasons, by all means, say FO and block her. View the full article

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Ghosting is a real phenomenon. It's not the horror movie version of scaring people away but something more tragic and situational. It can be rather heartbreaking and consuming to figure you've been ghosted. Some people don't take ghosting too well as it's an offshoot of abandonment and abandonment is the root cause of a lot of unresolved issues within one self. So if you meet someone and start falling for them hard and fast without realising the person may bail on you, here are some ways you can avoid the tremendous heart break and save yourself from a world of unhappiness. Just follow these signs: They Start Bailing On You When you first met and started hanging out with the person involved, each day was spent doing things together. They would always be available and give you their time. Slowly or suddenly that ceases to exist. They start cancelling plans and being unavailable because of their ‘busy schedule'. They can't seem to fit you anywhere in their timetable elaborate excuses are given to not hang out with you. You can barely get them to agree for another plan together and there are times when they don't even bother to cancel plans with you, unless you text them first to ask if the plan is still on. Recognise this trait, as it's the most common for a ‘ghoster'. (c) Giphy The Texts Start To Diminish The long text messages start running low on frequency. You always find yourself texting them first and initiating a conversation. Even their response turns into monosyllabic replies or they don't bother responding at all. All their ‘goodnight' and ‘good morning' messages stop coming your way leaving the usual routine they have with you completely broken. (c) Giphy You've Probably Been Warned Before It might have come up on your first date or the second about how he isn't looking for anything serious. Maybe you didn't pay much heed to it then and put all your eggs in one basket expecting more from them each day. They're probably not that great with communicating that this is not what they want and the easiest way to show you what they mean is by disappearing instead. Carefully figure out what the other person wants. If he or she isn't looking for anything serious and you probably are, then it's best to move on or have as much fun as you can without giving them your all. (c) Giphy They Are Sporadic With Their Communication This is also one sure shot sign that you maybe ghosted in the future. If they are happy and talkative one day and check out the next day then there is definitely red smoke all over. Someone who has no intention of ghosting you will never check out on you, unless they have something going on and they can't give you time then. If they're checking out on you ever so often, it's time to realise this pattern and keep away. (c) Giphy You Make Excuses For Their Absence A lot of times when you're being ghosted you don't want to come to terms with it and that's when denial occurs. You find yourself making excuses to defend their actions. If the girl you're into has to show up at a friends place and she doesn't because off late she's just not that into you, then you will certainly find yourself defending her and making excuses for her absence. Recognise that she may not be interested in meeting your friends and she just wants to keep it casual instead. Everything Moved Too Fast You were attracted to each other like fish to water from the get go. There was no chase; no games played no giving each other time. You met and talked for hours on your first date, had the hottest *** and now you're into them like you've never been before. There was no time given for the equation to grow organically, was there? Eventually the other person will realise that the pace is too sudden for them and probably want to bail or take it very slow. For them to do that, they will cease communication and meeting you as much as they can. Maybe it's a good idea to take things slow when you meet someone and really like them. It's how strong relationships are built! (c) Giphy Ghosting is brutal and it can shake the foundation of your being. Question like ‘wasn't I good enough' or ‘why me' will crop up ever so often, leaving you in a miserable battle with your self esteem. Abandonment issues might stem from such an intense interaction, which went sour and you may withdraw from meeting people, temporarily. If you see the other person act distant, let them know that you know what they are doing and encourage them to talk about it before you head towards an end with them or simply cut them off after recognising these signs because the more you'll have them ghost you, the more vulnerable to hurt you'll be. Ghosters exist and they're out there and it's in your hands to cut them off!