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ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online NewsKarenjit Kaur Vohra better known as Sunny Leone, stood on the brink of bidding adieu to her teenage years as an 18-year-old when she made a decision that would change the course of her life. Then a trainee-nurse belonging to an astute Sikh family who had migrated to Canada, the glitzy world of softcore adult films had Karenjit hooked. © Instagram It didn't take long for Karenjit to turn into Sunny Leone, and by the age of 25 not only had she made a name for herself in hardcore adult films, but she was also disowned by legions of her extended family. India being one of the top consumers (at World #3) of adult films, took the nation by storm when Sunny made her television debut in her homeland back in 2011 with 'Bigg Boss' season 5. © Instagram The show's TRP went through the roof and marked the arrival of a new star people couldn't get enough of. Soon, Bollywood films followed and Sunny went on to make her film debut with 'Jism 2' in 2012. Though her films enjoyed mediocre success at the box office, Sunny Leone gave a number of superhit item songs that were nothing less than chartbusters (think 'Baby Doll'). However, even that went against her. Coupled with her past as an adult film star, she was turned into Bollywood's go-to Baby Doll i.e. item girl. © Instagram That's the overarching image Sunny has been forced to carry, which even her fans have very conveniently accepted. However, while there are 100 other aspects to the woman who is an actor, businesswoman, fighter, survivor, and mother besides many other roles that she plays in her life, these 5 things prove that Karenjit Kaur Weber is much more than 'Sunny Leone' and her Baby Doll identity: 1. Adopted A Girl Child © Instagram Very few celebrities in the country have set strong examples for others to follow, especially when it comes to adoption. Sunny did that by adopting her daughter Nisha when she was just 21-months-old. 2. Promoted Surrogacy © Instagram Next, she went a step further ahead and removed taboos related to surrogacy, and welcomed home her twin boys Asher and Noah, who were born via surrogacy in 2018. 3. She's An Entrepreneur © Instagram Last year, Sunny launched her first pop-store for her make-up brand called Star Struck By SL which enjoyed a great reception. Earlier, she had also launched her own perfume brand called Lust, which was such a hit it would constantly be sold out. 4. She's A Published Author © Instagram Two years ago in 2016, Sunny Leone brought out an e-book of erotic stories titled 'Sweet Dreams'. Published by Juggernaut, it's an assortment of stories that deal with love, romance and sexual desires. 5. She Supports Multiple Causes & Is A PETA Activist © Instagram Sunny Leone has often spoken about cancer and raised awareness about cruelty against animals, and not only that but she recently also came forward to support and create awareness on aquatic therapy for people with special needs.
Deepika & Ranveer Refusing To Change Surnames Proves Marriage Doesn't Mean Giving Up Your Identity
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online NewsRanveer Singh and Deepika Padukone's wedding became national news last year, and even a glimpse of their wedding photographs sent the entire nation into a frenzy. And now, 2019 seems to have started no differently for the couple, what with Ranveer's mega success making the transition to 2019 utterly memorable for the newly-weds. The pair doesn't seem to be able to stay away from the limelight for long, and lately, they made headlines for coming forward and declaring loud and proud, that neither of them will be changing their surnames post marriage. © Instagram In this case, the newly-wed couple was met with the same fate as any other Indian couple. That is, as soon as two people decide to tie the knot, the raging question that arises is, whether the woman will change her surname post marriage. Deepika shared a similar fate, and ever since her wedding in November last year, gossip columns were populated with artfully written pieces speculating if Deepika Padukone will thenceforth be known as Deepika Padukone Singh, Deepika Padukone Bhavnani or some such other variant. © Instagram But as we have already gathered from an HT report, neither Deepika nor Ranveer have any plans of changing their surnames, much against popular buzz doing the rounds. Calling her own comment in an interview, about Ranveer changing his surname pose marriage, a “candid joke”, Deepika further added that, “It's not true. In fact, after that interview, I realised that it's a conversation Ranveer and I've never even had. So, we haven't been like, 'oh, do you think you should change your surname?'” © Instagram She went on to explain that the question about changing her surname came as a surprise since she and Ranveer had never considered it important enough to discuss it. “It has never crossed either of our minds. When I was asked about it, I was like, 'oh, we haven't even thought about it'. Maybe because it's not important. Also, I've worked extremely hard to create my own identity and so has he. So, my question is, why would he have to do that?”, said the 'Padmaavat' star. At this point, I would prompt you to re-read that last statement by Deepika once more. I would have preferred to highlight that bit with a highlighting pen for you, if it was possible. But you get the point. I simply wish to draw your attention to the keywords here - “not important”, “own identity” and “why”. © Instagram And I have the same question, why is it expected from a woman to change her surname once she becomes someone's legally wedded wife? Also, why is it so that a man is seen as a submissive or less powerful when his wife decides to stick to her maiden name after getting married? Why do we as a society wish to meddle with others' personal choice to change or not change their surnames, so as to just carry forward medieval societal “norms and traditions” that secure patriarchal egos and position? © Instagram Changing the surname is often seen as a symbol equivalent of belonging to a community, family or household. Needless to say, the 9th-century 'Doctrine of Coverture' played a role in altering people's mindset in this regard, since such a practice was unheard of before then. But again, this is the 21st century and surely, we ought to leave behind such malpractices in our past and look at women as an independent, fully-functioning individual who is more than someone's wife, mother and daughter-in-law. © Instagram Why do we want to work ourselves up with this need to maintain that a woman must always “belong” to someone? That she needs to be labelled, which would then act as her marker should she get mixed up/misplaced in a country with a population spilling onto the 2 billion mark? Why do we as a society treat it as our birthright to overlook the identity a woman creates and maintains before she decides to get married and share the same with another human being, who also happens to have a 'unique identity' of his own? This is not to say that women who 'choose' to take on their husband's surname after getting married are bartering their identity, or furthering senseless patriarchal norms. Like anybody else, even they have the right to consciously and freely choose for themselves, regardless of the motivation behind it. So my point is, just like Deepika pointed out in her comments, that all of us, both men and women work very hard all our lives to create our own identities that are attached to our personal achievements and histories. And I believe it is utterly unfair for anyone to expect that a woman or a man should change that identity attached to their names, for any reason whatsoever. What do you guys have to say about this? Let us know in the comments section below!
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online NewsScenario 1: Dad: So, what are you doing with your life? Son: *silence* Scenario 2: Dad: Hello Beta, kaise ho? Khana ho gaya? Son: Haa, ho gya. Mai thik hu. Aap kaise hai? Dad: Mai thik hu. Accha mummy se baat karo. *conversation ends* Does this sound familiar? I bet it does. Of all the people we meet and get acquainted with, it is our father who is the first male presence in our life; our role model, our hero and someone we look up to but are eternally scared of. Indian dads and sons are a complicated lot and their relationship is even more complex. The dynamics of the relationship change dramatically; a bit like Tom and Jerry. Truth be told, we have always had a love-hate relationship with our fathers. Mothers are the fun one, they nurture you, spoil you, care for you. Fathers are the ones who are the strict ones, who reprimand you when you do something wrong. There is a time when they love you dearly, but as you start growing up, you sense a sort of detachment from them. Baba, Papa, Abba, Dad, Appa, Pitaji, Babuji, Baoji; all these words instil a sense of respect, along with a sense of fear as well. We delved into what causes this rift between these two which makes bonding a hassle: 1. Unfulfilled Aspirations: Takiya Kalam: Par tum doctor/engineer kyun nahi banna chahte? Everyone has dreams; some of them get fulfilled, others get cut down due to circumstances. Imagine a young man in his prime who couldn't achieve his heart's desire and decides that his son will carry on the baton. While it is not wrong for a father to have a dream for his son and live their dreams through their children, some fathers downright force their aspirations down their children's throats. This kind of an attitude enables animosity in the son, who goes out of his way to try to live up to the expectations and trying his best, but doesn't seem to make his father happy, eventually hating himself and his father. What we need to understand is that it is not compulsory that sons will follow their father's dreams, if one does so of their own will, it is fantastic, but having a pre-defined path already set in stone for you may not be comfortable. 2. The Inability To Show Emotion: Takiya Kalam: Thik hai. Aur accha karo! Handling emotions have never been the strong suit of men. Showing emotion is portrayed as a flaw, especially in a patriarchal society like ours. Our fathers have always been strong; no tears, no love-dovey talks, just plain tough love. A trait learnt from their fathers. Saying 'I love you', giving a hug or showing emotion is seen as non-masculine, and our society has a very deep-rooted (read misguided) sense of what constitutes masculinity. What they do not realize is that this ingrains the same behaviour in an impressionable, young mind. A son looks up to his father as the person who will show him the ways of the world and help them. So, when they do not show any affection or emotion towards them, it instils rejection and hurt in the mind of the son; leading him to have an aloof relationship, not only with his father but future relationships as well. 3. Being 'The Man': Takiya Kalam: Ladke ye nahi karte… From an early childhood, a son is taught to be the man of the house; it is implicated by the father that he needs to be the sole patriarch of the family after him. He must man up and step into his father's shoes and become the “paterfamilias”. It is an unspoken rule; a regulation that needs to be followed. For a young adolescent, it is increasingly difficult to understand the complexities of adult life, let alone have the burden of “being the man” thrust upon him. Moreover, if the son decides to follow a career in something other than so-called manly pursuits, it is the father, more time rather than less, who will always ask him to follow a career more socially acceptable for a man. Majority of Indian parents have a hard time supporting their children in endeavours the society frowns upon. 4. Toughening Up: Takiya Kalam: Ro mat! Ladke nahi rote! Whenever you fell, your dad made it a point to tell to stop crying about it and brush it aside. That is the way they had always been taught to deal with their problems; they were trying to make you tough. Crying or whining was frowned upon; it made you a ninny. 'Boys don't cry' is such an adage that makes men think that it is a sign of weakness. It's high time that we change it. Crying is not for weaklings, but our dads sue made us feel it was. 5. Worldly-Wise: Takiya Kalam: Duniya aese nahi chalti! In the process of making their sons worldly-wise, dads often employ tactics and lessons which might not be always good. The first time you were duped by the shopkeeper or had any mishap, instead of explaining it you would most probably get lectured about it. The echoing “the world doesn't function the way you want to” dialogue is mandatory. Though it may have seemed like the worst thing that time, it did shape you as an adult, but not in the best way possible. You would try to hide any mistakes you committed so that you would not get another verbal berating. Dads are just trying to make you street-smart so that you don't make the same mistakes they did. 6. Enforcing The Rules: Takiya Kalam: Bas keh diya! Monica says, rules help control the fun. Indian fathers are a step ahead: enforce rules quite heavily so that there is little fun. Rules, when too binding, constrict a person. Having too many rules instils rebellion in the child especially if physical violence is involved. The control being forced upon them makes them have even more animosity towards their dads. Slapping, beating or disparaging doesn't work, it only agitates the young child. He may not shy away to employ the same on others. It becomes a struggle for supremacy; the son wanting more freedom and the dad trying even harder to show the son the fault in his ways. Also, the legendary sass of Indian dads is unparalleled; “Lights to tumhare papa band karenge” or “Papa to ATM hi hain” which is funny to hear but does make you feel irritated. 7. Generation Gap: Takiya Kalam: Hamare zamaane me… © Pinterest The biggest bone of contention is the generation gap: there is a huge difference in the era and conditions our fathers were brought up and the time in which we are now. There are things that they might have a hard time understanding, like mobile phones or laptops for example. They might not always like the music you listen to, the games you play or the shows you see or the way you are growing up; which is fine. You might have been often treated to the iconic, “Hamare zamaane me to hum aisa karte the” or “Hamare zamaane me hum badon se zubaan nahi ladate the.” The son needs to understand that their father is just trying to be relevant; he is unsure about how his son perceives him in this new era. Instead, the son tries to belittle the father or make fun of their choices and thus increases the strain in the already fragile relationship. 8. Communication: Takiya Kalam: Lo, maa se baat karo… Psychology suggests that sons are more comfortable with their mothers instead of their fathers; it is somewhere true. Remember the discomfort you felt when a condom ad or *** scene came up while you and your father were watching television? The channel would get changed immediately or you would start faltering and stuttering while your father would put up a stoic silence. When it comes to *** or some other hard topic, Indian fathers typically shy away from talking about it. It is not limited to just ***, having a conversation with your father is rather difficult. Other than enquiring about your being or some other superficial topic, the conversation ends there. Also, the son doesn't like coming up with any topics in the fear of ending up with a life-long lecture or not having any topic to talk about because it has always been like this, you never bothered to ask about what interests him and vice versa. 9. Appreciation & Comparisons: Takiya Kalam: Sirf 98 aaye hai? 2 marks kaha gaye? Sharmaji ka beta 100 number laya! © iDiva Instead of appreciating what the son has achieved, most fathers try to focus their attention on what he needs to work on. Though it might be a good thing in the future, the want for appreciation remains unfulfilled which gives rise to a sense of anger and despair in the son. He starts thinking that he is unable to obtain his father's approval and his level of acceptance. The pedestal created by the father for his son hampers their relationship. Acting like salt to a wound, Indian fathers have a habit of comparing their sons with his contemporaries. "If Rahul got 98 why did you not get 100? Though they are just pushing you to better yourself, never appreciating your efforts makes one sad. "Making comparisons doesn't make anyone better, it just makes you doubt yourself more. Some dads unknowingly become unkind to their sons; be it comments on their appearance or their habits. This all leads to a feeling of worthlessness in the son. 10. Pride: Takiya Kalam: “Baap humesha baap hota hai” © Afran Productions/Paramount Pictures Fathers are proud beings, and justly so. They have suffered and brought you up; so, when a son does not show the proper respect to his father, it serves as an insult to their ego and pride. They are not comfortable in asking you for help, they will always see it as a step down from their role of the provider and nurturer. As a young adult, with raging hormones and the sense of insecurity, sons give their fathers a hard time by not explaining new things which they don't understand, further enraging the father. The son seeks vindication for all the hurtful things by not helping out and ending up hurting the father's pride. How Can We Rectify this? Fathers need to understand that their words have a profound impact on their sons. They need to shed the armour once in a while, to show their sons that they are fun too. They need to give the son a break; it is beneficial for both. The son needs to understand that behind that grumpy façade and rule-loving face, lies the man who wants the best for you and loves you. The ways he shows may not be always great, but it is your responsibility as the son to understand it. © Pixar Animation Studios/Walt Disney Pictures Bonding with your father is an extremely important aspect of life. He is the first man in your life, the person who will be there always, supporting and guiding you, not always in the way you want. Fathers are also human, they are bound to say things, commit mistakes. Do not hold grudges; talk with them. Listen to their stories, their words of wisdom; they have a lot to say. In retrospect, you will find that he was correct a lot of times, though you may not have felt that way at that moment. © T-series Tell him your experiences, hang out with him. Even if he is of a non-talkative sort, indulge him. Do things for him without being asked to. If you know he likes something, get it for him. He might fake annoyance, but he will be secretly delighted that you remembered. Catch a movie with him, call him more often. If you feel sorry for the way you treated him in the past, apologize, give him a hug. Explain things to him, like technology, which you know he has a hard time adapting to. Be vocal about your love, it is never too late. Try to become friends with him. Whoever said that sons and fathers can never be friends was wrong. Try to understand him and you will see that he has warmed up to you. This is the way you can build a better relationship with your father. © Abc Look at movies like 'The Pursuit of Happyness' and 'Sanju'; these movies show how fathers are not always vocal about things. They are behind-the-curtain men, who make the movie of your life work. A father's love is hidden, it isn't as demonstrative as a mother's, but it doesn't mean that both are different; you just need to unearth the layers.
'Bigg Boss 12' Contestant Saurabh Patel Apparently Faked His Story & Lied About His Identity
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online NewsThe drama underway in the current season of 'Bigg Boss' seems to be turning graver by the day, and adding more heat to the fire is Saurabh Patel, who entered the house as a commoner with his friend Shivashish Mishra. © Colors In the introduction of the jodi, it was announced that Shivashish is a businessman and Saurabh is a farmer. However, as per the recent reports and pictures that have been circulating on the internet, turns out that this was a ploy to get in the show and a complete scam. Saurabh is allegedly not a farmer, but a casting director and a model. View this post on Instagram Up comming king of #jabalpur ♥ï¸ðð¦♥ï¸ð¦ð♥ï¸ð¦♥ï¸ðð¦ #dilsesupport #biggboss12 #sourabhpatel #supportsourabh #biggboss #ranjhi #jabalpuriyaa #jabalpurking #jabalpurmodal #jabalpur #manveergurjar #shilpashinde #goutamgulati #biggbossupdates #colorstv #ShivashishMishra #patel #gurjar #gurjjar #insta #biggbosssourabh A post shared by SOURABH PATEL Bigg Boss 12 (@sourabhpatel_jbp) on Sep 20, 2018 at 9:35pm PDT View this post on Instagram Those dance moves of our very own @sourabhpatel_jbp ... grooving with the housemates . . .#biggboss12 #sourabhpatel #jabalpur #bb #salmankhan #colorstv #dipikakakar #srishtyrode #karanvirbohra #nehhapendse #sreesanth #AnupJalota #JasleenMatharu #RoshmiBanik #RomilChaudhary #NirmalSingh #SourabhPatel #ShivashishMishra #SabaKhan #SomiKhan #bihar #shilpashinde #manveergurjar #priyanksharma #patna #mumbai #divyaagarwal #dilsesupport A post shared by SOURABH PATEL Bigg Boss 12 (@sourabhpatel_jbp) on Sep 19, 2018 at 10:50pm PDT Rumour has it that his real name is in fact, Sahil Rameshwar Patel. No one knows why his identity was concealed and why he twisted the facts about him. Anyway, what is 'Bigg Boss' without some masala and some controversy, right? Source: Times Now News