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  1. Rhea Chakraborty, Sushant Singh Rajput make their relationship publicBollywood actress Rhea Chakraborty and her rumoured boyfriend Sushant Singh Rajput have made their relationship public on the latter’s birthday. The Jalebi actress took to Instagram and shared some PDA-filled photos on Sushant’s birthday with a romantic caption. She wrote, “Happy birthday to the most beautiful” supermassive black hole “ that is known to mankind ! Shine on you crazy diamond @sushantsinghrajput”. The actress also called Sushant a “boy with a golden heart” The MS Dhoni: The Untold Story actor, while acknowledging Rhea’s post dropped a loveable comment, “Thank youuuuuuu my Rockstarrrr”. The couple was tight-lipped over their relationship in the past. Before Rhea, Sushant dated Ankita Lokhande for six years. They called it quits in 2016.
  2. We sometimes find many relationship habits unhealthy and try to quit it, though some habits just make our lives and relationships easier. Being in a toxic relationship is not a good idea but falsely accusing your relationship as being toxic is also a dumb thing to do. We are not asking you to stay in a relationship if you're unhappy but at times we need to find the thin line between toxic and 'tolerable'. So, here is a list of five habits in a relationship that we think are toxic but will actually help your relationship go a long way- 1. Letting Go Of Conflicts At Times © Dharma Productions People focus on resolving every argument when in a relationship but at times it's healthier to let go of some fights. Some conflicts are un-resolvable and fighting upon them are only going to make things worse. So, just keep in mind that some battles are not worth fighting for and save your relationship by avoiding conflicts. 2. Feeling Attracted To Other People © Dharma Productions We want to be attracted to our partner all the time but that's biologically not possible. You need to accept that you might feel attracted to other people and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you're falling out of love with your partner but just admire someone else apart from them for their qualities. Acting upon our attraction or liking is in our hand and our actions are responsible for making or breaking a relationship, as attractions are mostly temporary and love is real. 3. Spending Time Apart © Dharma Productions It's always better to do what you want to do rather than focusing on your partner all the time. Valuing your relationship is important but moving ahead in your life and fulfilling your dreams is equally important. It's important to give space in a relationship as it only makes the bond stronger. Spending time apart also makes you regain the lost spark in a relationship. 4. Accepting Each Other's Flaws © Dharma Productions No one is perfect and as soon as we accept each other's flaws the better the relationship is going to be. You need to like and accept each other for who they are then decide for yourself if you really want to be with them. Somewhere or the other we have to settle as no human being is perfect. 5. Unintentionally Hurting Each Other © Dharma Productions When in a relationship, we do things at times that the other person might not like or get hurt due to it. Sometimes they get hurt and sometimes we get hurt. The bottomline is to not pretend that you're happy and express if you're hurt as it is okay to be hurt. Your honest opinion is only going to make things easier for both of you. View the full article
  3. Reason behind why Kendall Jenner does not wish to disclose her relationshipKendall Jenner answered fans burning questions regarding her and ex Ben Simmons. According to a report in TMZ, the ex-couple were seen entering a New Year’s Eve party at Attico in downtown Philadelphia. The reports reveal that the pair partied all night with Ben's basketball player's teammates, and stayed well past 12. Kendall Jenner has become well known for her on-and-off-again relationship with Ben. Peoples reported on her relationship status back in May of 2019, confirming their split. A source revealed back then, "They're on a break. The relationship ran its course. She’s spending time with her friends and back to being in fun mode." Kendall has never been one to publicly disclose her personal life, unlike the rest of her family, and before her breakup became official, the star told Vogue Australia, "I got a glimpse of how my sisters dealt with (the attention( and it’s cool to learn from that,” she had said. “For me, a lot of things are very special and very sacred, like my friends and relationships, and I personally think that bringing things into the public makes everything so much messier,” Kendall added.
  4. Relationships are always a two-way street. It is not something we invest in, put it in a box and expect it to grow. Relationships take time, effort, constant nurturing and no one knows it better than John Henderson, 106, and his wife, Charlotte, 105, who have been married for 80 years now. They are now officially the oldest living married couple in the world. © Daily Mail Married in 1939, the couple has made it to the Guiness Book Of World Records as well. Also, after their relationship has given some major 'goals' to the world, they shared their profound secret for a successful marriage. “Take every day in stride. Try to make tomorrow better than today. Be grateful for what you're given and make the best of it. And don't overdo anything. Live in moderation. Don't overeat, don't over drink. Don't do anything that you'll be sorry for later on,” they said in an interview. John and Charlotte Henderson were recently named the world's oldest living couple. For their 80th wedding anniversary celebration, 106-year-old John picked up Charlotte, 105, in a 1920s roadster — much like on their first date — with a bouquet of flowers. https://t.co/62cFjHCcKN pic.twitter.com/hCulzafOpZ — CNN (@CNN) December 22, 2019 They met back in 1934 when Charlotte was studying to become a teacher and John was a football team coach at a school. Absolutely heartwarming ð¤ð¤ð — Kathleen Fox (@KathleenKatfox) December 22, 2019 Amazing! Wish a whole lot of young couples would learn from such, and the incredible part is that both are above a century old. — Collin Seakedina Mollelakgotso Morale (@seakedina) December 23, 2019 In a world where love and companionship has become a rarity to find, it is a story like this which reinstills your faith in the concept of true love. View the full article
  5. Every relationship goes through different phases in life and it cannot be sunshine and unicorns all the time. Some days are boring and some days are fun, and well, that's how you create memories. Although, that doesn't mean you get stuck in a typical boring relationship. There are ways to break that monotony and spice things up a little bit. Here is a list of common mistakes that couples commit which lead them to boredom in a relationship. 1. Going with the flow © Unsplash Well, you don't have to always go with the flow. Agreeing to whatever your partner says could be fun at times, but it's also equally important to learn to agree to disagree. Speaking your mind and having opinions are key to a strong relationship. On some days let your partner make the decision, on other days you call the shots. Repetition of a schedule can get monotonous. 2. Not doing your own thing © Unsplash There are days when you just want to be all alone, space out and do your own thing. You cannot keep on doing things together at all times. That's completely alright! However, ensure to communicate this to your partner. For a long-lasting relationship, one needs to also continue doing what they love doing irrespective of what your significant other might think about it. Harmony lies in the balance. 3. Getting way too comfortable © Unsplash Yes, you read that right. Getting comfortable with your partner is important but if you get way too comfortable, it can pull away from the charm you hold in a relationship. Didn't understand? Let me explain. For example, wearing your cool comfy PJs while meeting your girlfriend is acceptable once in a while but not at all times. That'll only show her that you take her for granted. In fact, dressing up for her is even better as this will make you feel good about yourself and she'll feel important too. 4. Focusing on only one side of '***' © Unsplash Physical intimacy is one thing that can keep your bond stronger but if you keep on focusing only on 'orgasm', your *** life will soon become boring, as it is just one aspect of ***. If your complete concentration lies on thinking about how to make that happen, you're going to lose on the fun part. So, rather than just focusing on the end result it is important to spice things up a bit to have fun while you're in that moment. That way, you can easily break the monotony. 5. Letting emotional intimacy slide © Unsplash Not wanting to share your emotions with your partner can also lead to stagnation in a relationship and you don't want that to happen. So, discussing how you feel and what you're going through is paramount as it gives a better understanding of your personality to your partner which makes things easier. All you need in long-term relationships are genuine efforts, that can enable you to keep the relationship going strong and happy. View the full article
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  7. WASHINGTON: Democratic congresswoman Katie Hill, who has been accused of having a sexual relationship with a staffer in violation of House of Representatives rules, said Sunday she was stepping down."It is with a broken heart that today I announce...
  8. The first three months of any relationship usually revolves around love-dovey feelings and the excitement to spend a lot of time with your significant other. It is often said that the first three months of your relationship defines whether or not your relationship is the real deal. However, every relationship is different but couples usually make the transition from casual dating to becoming exclusive in the first couple of months only. So if you're about to lose interest in your partner you'll know by the end of the first three months. Here are a few signs that your relationship won't last after the first three months of dating: 1. Flaky Communication © Unsplash If your partner used to initially talk for hours and suddenly you are clueless where he or she is, it's a hint that this isn't going to turn into anything concrete. Inconsistency is the first step towards things becoming casual. So, if you're not going to hold it there, you won't be able to control it at all. 2. Your Partner Isn't His Or Her Genuine Self Around You © Unsplash If your partner isn't real around you and you can feel that she is something else when at her workplace or when with her friends, it's a red flag. But when she is with you, you just don't feel the connection, and that is cause for worry. As soon as you complete the three month mark, you're supposed to feel comfortable around each other and if you still don't, then there is a chance that your relationship is going to hit the expiration date very soon. 3. They Don't Invite You To Hang Out With Their Friends © Unsplash She is least bothered to take you along with her friends and she is often chilling with them alone. You always include her in your plans but she wouldn't ever take you along. If this isn't something that you like, probably your relationship is hanging in the causal zone of relationships and you're most likely not going to make to the next level of it. 4. Your Partner Is Never Emotionally Available © Unsplash You keep on doing what you want to do in your life and your partner doesn't care or doesn't understand when you're feeling low. She is never around to support you and leaves you alone when you're feeling confused or have any sort of emotional breakdown. Your partner ought to listen to you and be the shoulder you need to lean on in those first three months. 5. Your Relationship Isn't A Priority For Them © Unsplash There is much more that goes into maintaining a relationship and you have to keep your relationship a priority in your life. You cannot always be unavailable for your partner or if your partner has the tendency of always being busy, this relationship won't last long. Also, you cannot keep someone interested if they are not. It is all about the right amount of communication and adjustments that'll lead to a healthy and loving relationship.
  9. There is something special about our men in green, won't you agree? Dressed in their crisp camo-green uniforms, with stand-out medals and stripes pinned over their proud, selfless heart evokes a kind of respect and admiration that is exclusively reserved for our greatest warriors who make up our motherland's most formidable protectors. However, given the sort of picture our mind paints when we say “army dad”, it wouldn't be wrong to state that somehow, certain aspects from their field of work often tends to rub onto the image of “army dads”. For years now, Indian television has fed its audience with a certain image of an army dad - someone who is strong yet stern, doesn't give in to strong emotions easily, is a man of few words, lives by the book and treats the world as his oyster. (c) Getty Images But, surely you don't believe all of that to be true, right? There's got to be an affectionate father's heart thrumming quietly but firmly, under that tough shell of a persona they put on everytime they don their uniforms. Like any other father on this planet, their hearts brim with love, pride, hopes and dreams for their children. Like most father's, army dads are quick to make sacrifices too but theirs always weighs heavier because it comes easily not only for their kids but also for their motherland. (c) Getty Images Army dads don't get to be around their family and children as often as they'd like, or for as long as they'd want. Duty beckons them and somehow their country always 'seems' to surpass the children to grab the top spot. Still, that never stops them from going all out looking out for them as fiercely as their motherland. There is a lot we are unaware of when it comes to a father's love towards his child, and an army dad is somehow a step ahead even here because there is so little we get to know about their personal lives. (c) Getty Images This Father's Day, we caught up with army dads and asked them to tell us their side of the story, and throw some light on the kind of relationship they share with their children given their demanding job and busy schedules. When we asked Colonel Khan Mahmood how being in the Army impacted his relationship with his kids, he told us that, “With great pride, I state that I am a third generation Army Officer. My father Late Col SA Khan has tutored me to spend quality time whenever possible. With my wife's support the impact on the relationship with both my sons has been excellent!” (c) Twitter Yet, Col Khan didn't shy away from admitting that he did miss out on some significant milestones in his sons' lives that he wishes he could make up for. Talking about it he said, “Life is certainly not a bed of roses.Who knows it better than a man proudly donning the Olive Green. I have missed out on various precious moments. Won't say 'regret' but yes I would have loved to see both my sons taking their 'first step' towards progress.” However, regardless of it all, when Col Khan shared his favourite Father's Day memory it left us beaming, just like him. He said, “For our generation 'Father's Day' is everyday. The day my 3-year-old elder son gave me a Father's Day card and wished me in the most adorable style, made me promise to try to be the best father to my sons, and best son to my father.” That isn't all, here is what other Army Dads told us about their special bonds with their children. (c) MensXP (c) MensXP (c) MensXP
  10. A couple of days ago, Indian sprinter and Olympian, Dutee Chand came out to talk about being in a same-*** relationship with a 19-year-old girl from her hometown of Chaka Gopalpur in Odisha for the past five years. "I have found someone who is my soulmate. I believe everyone should have the freedom to be with whoever they decide they want to be with. I have always supported the rights of those who want to be in a same-*** relationship. It is an individual person's choice," she had told The Indian Express while becoming the very first Indian athlete to go public about her homosexuality. "She is from my town and a sports fan herself. She read about the struggles that I have gone through to make a career in sports and told me that she was inspired by my story. That is how we came in touch with each other," she had added in the interview. © Reuters Chand also spoke about how her eldest sister was completely against this and threatened Dutee of imprisonment. She also spoke about how in the past five years, her parents were not against her sexual preference. However, a day since Chand made her sexuality public, her mother Akhoji Chand told ANI, that it is impossible for her to accept this relationship of hers due to reasons other than homophobia, incest. "Dutee wants to marry a girl, who is the daughter of my niece, so she is my grand-daughter. In this relation, Dutee will be like a mother of that girl. Then how will it be possible in our society in Odisha," Akhoji told ANI. "I told her (Dutee) that I cannot accept this. She told me that the court has given the order. When I asked which court has given you such order, she told me that High court. I told her that I'm alive here and you are bringing orders from the court. She told me that yes court has given order and all the mentors are supporting me. (She asked) whether you will support me or not. I asked which Sir, Shiv Sir, Gagan Sir or Samanta sir, Achyut Samant of KIIT college," she said. "She told that I'll do everything by the help of them. I told her that I'll like to talk to them, but she avoided it. So day before yesterday, I told my elder daughter Saraswati that I don't know where they are staying, you take me to them. Saraswati took me to them but he (Achyut Samant of KIIT) had already left for Delhi and yesterday when all these things were happening." "I want that she (Dutee) should focus on her sports as the government wants. Government has given a lot of money to her for the sake of the country. Dutee may not keep father and mother's name but she should keep the prestige of the nation through her sports," Akhoji added. © Reuters In 2018, the Indian Supreme Court did decriminalise same-*** relationships (although gay marriages are still illegal), the laws about incest are still in the grey. While being in a sexual relationship with a family member in India is not illegal or a punishable crime, the Hindu Marriage Act says that two people cannot marry if they are within the “prohibited degree of relationship”.
  11. With the biggest revelation that just came out, something that binds the show's fundamental plot line, just blew our mind. Aegon Targaryen, the sixth of his name, King of the Andals and the first men, Lord of seven kingdoms and protector of the realm, risen from the dead to proclaim his throne just officially set foot on the show, and we've got major goosebumps. But what the heck, we're still gonna call him Jon Snow. © HBO Jon's a dedicated man, who lists his priorities firmly and never lets anything get in the way of them. Well, almost. He still has a heart that loves fiercely and even with the daunting choices he has to make, his love for Dany is pure and real. Dany and Jon officially met in season 7 of 'Game of Thrones', where Jon made his journey to the south to meet the Dragon lady. Things unfolded quite quickly and before you knew it, they were making sweet love on their way to Winterfell. Daenerys is as smitten with Jon as he is with her. In fact, in the latest episode Dany tells Sansa how all she wanted was to take back the throne all her life, but now she's fighting Jon's war instead because she loves him dearly. © HBO Their love is pure, clean and strong and we truly hope the recent developments don't deter the compassion and respect the two hold for each other. If anything, Jon and Dany's story is the strongest in the series and we might have learnt a thing or two from their meaningful relationship and that's what this article is about. © HBO Here are 3 main learnings from Jon Snow aka Aegon Targaryen and Daenerys Targaryen's relationship in 'Game of Thrones'. Maybe you can use them to strengthen your bond with your loved one. (1) Effective Communication Is Important One thing that stands out between both Jon and Dany is their love to communicate everything effectively. Whether they're discussing strategies or a thing or two about love, they're straight up about how they feel and always counter each other's decision healthily. If you've noticed, Dany always seeks Jon's councils in pertinent matters, especially when it comes to making important decisions. He's always sought her advice on matters he might be a little confused about. The best way to build or re-build an association is to communicate effectively and build a narrative suited for your purpose. For example, Jon didn't take long to tell Dany the truth about who he was even though he knew it could potentially destroy his dynamic with her, on a permanent basis. Maybe they'll find a way around this, maybe they won't, but they're sure of how they feel for each other which might act as a saving grace, thanks to their excellent communication skills. © HBO (2) Sometimes Sacrifice Is Inevitable If you've truly been in love and have struggled to keep it alive you'll know what I mean by sacrifices then. Let's face it, sometimes love isn't easy, especially if you've fought for it in the past and failed miserably. That's what Dany and Jon did earlier. They met people they fell in love with and couldn't be with them in the longer run, so they decided to strive harder. While Dany joined the Dothraki to be with Khal Drogo, Jon couldn't give up his Night's Watch responsibility to be with Ygritte. But when the two come together, they both realise how important sacrifices are in love, in order to keep it alive. While Jon gives up his title as the King of the North, when he bends the knee for Dany, Dany too gives up her lifelong dream of marching to King's Landing and taking over the throne. Instead, she's in the North helping Jon prepare for a bigger war. That's what sacrifices enable you to do. Show empathy where it's required most and give up on something for a greater good. © HBO (3) The Ability To Keep Calm During Conflict This isn't just pertinent for people in power but for every relationship. The only helpful resolve comes through calmness and nothing more. If Jon and Dany were disagreeing on matters that affect the Seven Kingdoms then they'd be on loggerheads most times, instead of leading a war. While both have had a different approach to conflicts, there are times when they've intervened in the other's working and told them what they're doing is wrong. Especially Jon, who has always openly told Dany what he feels, when she asks him for his council. When Dany wanted Jaime executed, while he was in Winterfell, Jon didn't agree with her and she ultimately took his advice on the matter. Even after disclosing who he really is to Dany, we didn't see them get in to a brawl, knowing fully well that he's the true and rightful heir to the throne. To make love a stronger bond, you need to have adequate tools for it to work and avoiding conflict with a sense of calm is one of them, which these two display with ease. © HBO Jon and Dany display other learnings throughout their time together. For instance, sometimes you need to keep your ego aside to balance an equation, or how it's important to maintain balance between family and love. Though GoT happened a million years ago, there are some important lessons primarily from relationships in the show you can take back home with you and Jon and Daenerys' equation is probably one of them.
  12. If the subject intrigued or interested you then welcome, my friend, to this world of complexity where our minds entangle in a web of ignorance, our relationships are going haywire, egos are inflating higher than the diesel prices and life is one big sad joke which keeps us grooving anyway. Well, fiction is a great escape from reality but what happens when you binge-watch shows which mirror the confusion of your life? Here are our personal 6 recommendations which show the complexity of modern relationships with a lot of humour. 1. How I Met Your Mother If you have already watched it and you're looking for something on similar lines, then hold on, this can be a list for your next 'binge watch'. Barney Stinson and Ted Mosby taught us a lot about how relationships work, if you can look beyond the fact that many rule it out as something similar to 'FRIENDS'. 2. Rules Of Engagement Okay, this will give you a major HIMYM déjà vu, so consider it like a home remedy of that hangover. Two couples and their single friend embark on a journey called 'life' with the complexities of their relationship pushing and pulling them. 3. Happy Endings This is another modern day, super relatable show about six friends who find it difficult to keep their relationships intact when the couple who got them all together decide to break up. 4. You're The Worst Probably my favourite on the list and a well kept secret which is actually a 'millenial gem', if I may call it. This one involves two narcissistic, selfish humans, who, despite their insecurities and mental health issues, try to mend their relationship time and again. This one is so relatable, it will be hard for you to believe it's actually fiction. 5. Lovesick This British comedy looks at the dark side of millennial relationships, which often involve the subject of sexual health of our partners. Dylan is a 20-something man who is diagnosed with an STD. The adventure begins when he peeks into his past and goes back to all his lovers to know their diagnosis. 6. Friends From College This one deals with people in their 40s who appear to be slightly better than their so-called millennial counterparts, but are equally screwed in the head. Well, modern relationships do have their shortcomings and these shows take full advantage of that reality.
  13. February seems like a dreaded month. The month of love. Dreaded, if you have no one to share it with, and the most fabulous one if you are in love. Being single is never a piece of cake, is it? Especially around Valentine's Day which seems to be growing grander, as if on steroids, with each passing year. via GIPHY Somehow, with each year that goes by, the definition of being single is changing and evolving. It is no longer that sequestered thing, a fact to be hidden away, a status to shy away from, a shameful condition. But is it as good as it looks? We are in the 21st century, the world is constantly altering, yet people still seem to have a terrible problem with someone who is single. via GIPHY If we look closely, being single in 2019 is better than doing so in say 2009, but the stigma attached to it is still a long way from being completely eliminated. According to popular perception, being in a relationship has always been the celebrated goal of one's life. © Fox Searchlight Pictures In today's whirlwind world fueled by social media, the relationships that people have seem to be just for the sake of Instagram and Facebook. It doesn't matter how much love there is, the more important factor is the number of likes and comments it gets. Apparently, in today's era, the number of likes decides your compatibility and the length of your relationship. Being in a relationship has become a fad, a status symbol, something to be flaunted or people won't believe you. It is a world where you put up a mushy, cheesy, romantic message for your current S.O. which garners a lot of social media validation and then changes once the relationship comes to an end; either the message gets erased or the name of the person in it changes. via GIPHY Has the meaning of love changed in 2019? Look around you. People hook up and break up in an instant, their relationships change more frequently than Katy Perry's hair colour. Relationships today seem to have lost their meaning; we flit from one to another like a bee collecting honey. Maybe, we just don't want to be alone. via GIPHY Today, two people know that there's a certain expiry date to the relationship. Everything does. It is a deal; you get someone to hang around with for a few days and they do the same. No matter how short or bad it might be, we are jumping from one relationship to another. Just for the sake of it. But aren't we selling ourselves short? It feels realistic to start a romance knowing that nothing lasts forever but not giving ourselves the benefit of the doubt is what is making us unhappier. © Focus Features Why can't we let ourselves be? Maybe breathe a bit before launching ourselves into a new relationship just for the sake of it. Are we really that lonely that we need constant attention from others or someone to give us a sense of approval all the time? The constant pressure to be seen with someone, to seek love from someone is enveloping our lives; when was the last time you had a conversation with yourself? via GIPHY Yes, I get it, it is one's own life, we can live it any way we want but shouldn't we stop and ponder a bit on whether that is how we are living it or is it the way someone else wants us to live it? A “Couple” Thoughts! “How are you still single?” Heard it somewhere, haven't you? © Pinterest Being single is a choice. It is as simple as that. By your own choice. © Universal Pictures Chances are that if you have been single for a long time, you must have heard whispers all around you; mellow ones which hush when you appear, louder ones which are blatant and acerbic and are mostly from people you know. Sometimes, the people closest to you can hurt you; your relatives with their constant hankering and hounding about your personal life, that best friend who unintentionally judges you, or that friend who changed once they got into a relationship. You must have observed it in your friends. Once a person begins to lead a “couple” life, their opinion about single people completely changes. We all know “that couple” who believes that marriage and kids put them on a pedestal; a higher one than people who are not engaged with someone. via GIPHY There are all sorts of people out there. Over the years, I have come across a lot of people and I, being the organizer that I am, have categorized the couples into three groups: 1. The Power Couple: I have a lot of friends who are in a relationship; some slyly let that fact rub into other people's faces. via GIPHY If one is happy being a couple, it's fantastic but it is hardly veracious for anyone to force one's happiness on other people who are not as fortunate as they believe they are. These “power couples” constantly crop up in your social networking feed with their numerous (way too many posts than normal) mushy romantic photos and articulate posts or just can't seem to keep their hands off each other in someone else's presence as well. My advice: a) Get a room; b) tell me the name of your Internet service provider ( because posting cutesy stuff from remote areas is a feat in itself) Love, like air, is a feeling; not seen or heard but felt with the heart. 2. The No-Nonsense Couple: Just like everything else, people also come in good and bad. I know a lot of couples who are the best people I have ever met. Unlike the prior set, they do not judge you for not having a significant other and are not coercing other single people to get married or rush into a relationship just for the sake of it. The goodness of their hearts doesn't need the constant validation of other people or social media. Nor does their love. via GIPHY 3. The Do-Gooder Couple: Which brings me to those couples who think it to be their personal Hercules' Labor to find someone for their single friend. They keep on telling you how fabulous and marvellous it is to be in a relationship; to be able to share your life with someone you love. via GIPHY Guess what? We'll figure it out. Whether one needs to be in a relationship or not is a decision only one can make, so thank you for all the help and all your good intentions but we would love it if you channelled your goodwill somewhere where it is actually needed like saving the rain-forests or conserving water. :P This patronizing just makes you annoying. If these couples did this out of the fondness for a single person, it wouldn't be a problem, but they do it to feel good about themselves. The Present Dear Single People, When was the last time you received a present from someone? Just like that, out of the blue. Still thinking, right? Other than your birthday, a person who is single never gets any presents or gifts. What about the money you spend on the gifts for other people: on someone's bridal shower, bachelor party, birthday, wedding, engagement, the list goes on? What does a person who is single get from other people? Quick math. Just do a round-up of the gifts you have bought for a friend; a friend who you won't meet often or one who won't return the gesture by being gracious enough to apologize for a mistake. Surprised? via GIPHY We all spend a lot of money just to be cordial and be in tune with the societal norms. We don't get a gift for celebrating all the right choices we have made, do we? No one gives you a present for being a good friend or a wise advisor or not falling for the wrong person. (And you shouldn't expect it as well.) I know, calculating the amount of money you spent on gifts is an abomination. Ah, so materialistic! No one asks you to pay a certain amount for giving away presents but still, gifting being the social convention, we adhere to it. And to be completely honest, who doesn't like receiving presents? But isn't it being pragmatic, to see how much you have spent on a person and will that person return the favour? We all do this, don't we? We gift people things but hardly ever do we estimate the cost of the gift. I do not say that we need to give over-the-top gifts to everyone, but we should factor in the relationship we have with the person. It may sound wrong, but in the long run, it helps. Why be disheartened by giving a person something of value and get nothing in return? Would you give away a part of your body to someone for free? Judge-y Judgerson! For a society which takes years together to give out a fair verdict on cases, we don't take more than a jiffy to judge someone and the choices they make. We all judge other people, all the time. I do, you do, we all do. It is human nature. The people who say that they don't judge anyone are lying (because they judge you for judging someone else :P). People will judge you no matter what you do. Single? Judging you! via GIPHY Committed? Judging you! via GIPHY Married? Judging you! via GIPHY Marriage or getting into a relationship doesn't mean getting tied down. It just means that you have found another person whom you have chosen, who understands you and respects you for the fact that you are your own person. Just like being single, having kids; getting married; being in a relationship are individual choices. None of it makes you better if you choose to do one of these. Yes, demeaning someone because of the choices they have made does make you an atrocious human being. via GIPHY Being single is completely normal. It doesn't make you desperate, nor does it make you a loser. It is just you, being you. It means you are comfortable with who you are, you do not need another person for it. The people who judge you for taking time and trying to find someone who will understand you are the ones who are driving on the wrong side of the road. Why should we have to explain and defend ourselves for not being a relationship? Single And Fabulous! I believe a fortunate few are meant to be single because they are enough for themselves. Single, after all, is just a term; a word. It depends on you how to view it: crying behind closed doors because of it or indulging yourself with happiness just because you can. via GIPHY It's surprising that the society makes you think that being single is an appalling thing, popular culture doesn't do justice to the thrill of getting to know yourself and working on yourself. Apparently, according to them, single people can only be two things: sad or desperate. © Focus Features Hardly ever are there any fictional characters which are shown to be single and content with it. Romance is mandatory. Why? Because that is what brings in the audience. © New Line Cinema The freedom which being single gives is hardly comparable to other experiences. You can sleep as long as you want, have as many crushes you want, eat what you want without guilt, and you are not answerable to anyone for the choices you make. via GIPHY What is wrong with being single? The Sun does not need anyone else to shine. The biggest challenges in your life are faced by one person; you. Celebrate who you are. No one will be around for you forever, except you. © 20th Century Fox Television We need to break the stigma of self-love. Why should someone be judged for loving themselves more than another person? Don't we have better things to look out for? via GIPHY Maybe, you will find a person who completes you later in life, but for the time being, enjoy your own company, because only we can know ourselves the best. No one is asking you to be a hermit; know yourself better before letting someone else into your life. Don't let other factors bully you into feeling guilty for being single. © Focus Features Everything takes time; breathe. The best thing about being single? No one to judge you as you proceed to eat that tub of ice-cream, chocolate sauce all slathered across your face as you watch your favorite show on Netflix. :P via GIPHY Do not fall prey to the social convention or someone else's judgement. Elizabeth Bennet did not, nor did Sheldon Cooper. And who needs another person, as long as you have got pizza. Just saying. via GIPHY P.S.: Will most certainly be judged for writing this! :P
  14. If you've ever had a relationship question for Vicky Kaushal then this is your chance to ask him. Okay, not exactly ask him but you can hope we asked him something along the same lines, right? Enjoy.
  15. Every once in a while, we see the union of some of the most influential people of their respective fields. Power couples like Beyonce and Jay Z, Virat Kohli and Anushka Sharma, Barack and Michelle Obama are obviously atop the list. But what about those couples that are exclusive to sports? 1. Dinesh Karthik & Dipika Pallikal View this post on Instagram Missing my lady @dipikapallikal A post shared by Dinesh Karthik (@dk00019) on Jul 28, 2018 at 7:10am PDT One of the most successful wicketkeepers for the Indian cricket team, Dinesh Karthik is well on his way to getting selected for India's 2019 World Cup roster. Barring the last T20I match against New Zealand, Karthik is one of the more dependable batsmen for India. His wife, Dipika Pallikal is the most successful squash player in the country to play professionally. With her highest world rankings at 10 (2012), Pallikal even won the gold in the 2014 Glasgow Commonwealth Games. 2. Triple H & Stephanie McMahon View this post on Instagram âªThat moment when going out for groceries turns into an upcoming episode of @CarpoolKaraoke with @StephanieMcMahon. Btw, I sound much better when I lip sync… A post shared by Paul "Triple H" Levesque (@tripleh) on May 31, 2018 at 1:14pm PDT Spearheading the most famous wrestling show in the world, this power couple may be the strongest married duo (and we mean that literally) of all time. While wrestler Triple H is one of the best in-ring performers of the business, the involvement of his wife Stephanie McMahon, in some of the most epic storylines during WWE's 'Attitude Era' was absolutely entertaining and worth watching time and time again. 3. Saina Nehwal & Parupalli Kashyap View this post on Instagram Photo shoot ð¸ð¸... #magazine ðð¸ A post shared by SAINA NEHWAL (@nehwalsaina) on Feb 7, 2019 at 8:01am PST The newest power couple on the block, shuttlers Saina Nehwal and Parupalli Kashyap have found new form ever since they tied the knot last year. Much senior in experience when it comes to competitive badminton, Saina Nehwal can often be seen coaching Kashyap during games. However, she has also publicly announced that her husband has brought in a lot of changes in her game that have led to some great advancements in her performance. 4. Mitchell Starc & Alyssa Healy View this post on Instagram Picture 1. Mitch and I trying to do our best model poses while my feet were still fresh in my heels..... ð- Picture 2. Dreams do come true.....Thanks everybody! A post shared by Alyssa Healy (@a_healy) on Feb 11, 2019 at 11:00pm PST Australian cricketer, Mitchell Starc is probably the scariest pacers Down Under. Winning the 2017 Allan Border Medal in the best Test bowler category for his performance against Sri Lanka in 2016, Starc is also a decent batsman who is only 14th Aussie to take 100+ wickets and score 1000+ runs in Test cricket. His wife and also an Aussie cricketer, Alyssa Healy on the other hand, just capped a brilliant year as she won the prestigious Belinda Clark Award while also being named ODI and T20 player of the year during the Australia's Women's Awards.
  16. Love is a four letter word so powerful, it can weave together the myriad threads of the most bedazzling emotion one is capable of feeling in their lifetime. It is more than just four English alphabets scribbled beside the name that makes our heart skip a beat every time it is mentioned. It will catch us by surprise when we are least expecting it, and render us speechless at a moment when we would rather spill our guts out. Plaguing us with an unceasing giddy restlessness and excitement that makes going through our days a torment - made bearable only with the sighting of the person our heart seems to be beating for all of a sudden. Love is called magical simply because when we are in love, we can never be too sure what the next moment could bring to our life - while we stand powerless against its bittersweet onslaught. (c) Pooja & Varun To love is to hold and cherish, protect and care, with a promise to be fair and honest, not only to our beloved but also towards the relationship we build together. Love in all its beauty is to accept, support and encourage the happiness and the well-being of that one individual we would move heaven and earth for. But to love is to also face the demons of your lover and stand by their side as they fight it off. To love is getting through those ugly fights and misunderstandings that come from feeling too much, and too deeply. To love is to see the person you care deeply for at their weakest or lowest, and loving them anyway. No questions asked, and no strings attached, simply because seem like life's greatest blessing. Varun and Pooja's journey towards love is made up of all that - the good, the bad and the ugly - and their love has come out strong, oh so strong against every test of time. (c) Pooja & Varun The couple met each other through a common friend. Pooja recalls her first meeting like it was yesterday, “My friend told me about this guy who would be perfect for me and she wanted to set me up with him. I did not pursue it at the time, but one day when I was catching up with an ex, my friend invited Varun there without even telling me. the minute that he walked in, I could not take my eyes off him. I was intrigued to know him more. We just got to talking and started meeting every day.” However, Varun has a different (and may we add more interesting) story to share. “We met through a common friend, rather it was a set up for which I had to coax that friend for a month to introduce me to her”, shares Varun. Now that's some memorable “coincidental” meeting the two had, and while it's pretty clear that they hit it right off from the go, wait till you hear about their first “official” date. (c) Pooja & Varun “I asked him out on a date. We had been talking for a week by then, and I suggested going out for a movie. However, Varun insisted that we went out for coffee instead. I agreed thinking a movie wouldn't give us enough time to talk, but Varun made the suggestion because he felt that a movie date would only last for 3 hours, whereas a coffee date can go on an entire day. I just couldn't stop smiling after that.” Again, the first date was memorable for Varun for a totally different reason. “We went to Barista in Basant Lok Market, and personally it turned into a disaster at the end since I had forgotten to get my wallet.” Their journey only gets better from here on. They went on to date each other for the next 11 years, and sure enough, faced a number of ups and downs during this time. Their courtship had all the elements of a budding romantic relationship, but it was made a little difficult by Pooja's anxiety issues which she never imagined would turn into a full-blown disaster, coupled with panic attacks. (c) Pooja & Varun Recalling the time when she came to face her demon for the first time, Pooja says, “I had been dating Varun for 3 yrs when he decided to get a job in UAE and moved there. This posed as an unbearable change and the loneliness caused my anxiety to become full-blown panic attacks.” The distance took such toll on Pooja's mental well being that she would cry endlessly and began to fall sick. Through it all, Varun was right by her side despite the miles separating them. “He used to call me for long hours at night to calm my panic attacks. He spent half his salary on calling me long distance to pacify my fears. Once he was back, we went through a time where I could not leave my house. I used to feel ill and anxious if I did. Varun and I had our dates at home those days. He used to sit with me and my family. Watch movies all day”, shares Pooja. (c) Pooja & Varun Even when things got difficult, Varun never bailed on Pooja. He stood right beside her like a pillar of strength and helped her fight her battle all the way. Talking about all those moments that Varun made bearable for her, and ultimately helped her to get better, Pooja adds that “There were also times where I could not travel or stay away from home even for a night. Varun also sacrificed those trips with friends so that I wouldn't feel like I was missing out.” Varun decided to help Pooja deal with her reality better, and that's when “he came up with the plan to make me feel comfortable with night stays outside the house and that is when we started taking 1-day trips together. We went to Agra once and I had a severe panic attack there. He stayed awake all night long hugging me while I kept wailing the night away. No questions asked. No words were spoken.” (c) Pooja & Varun This was the moment that changed everything for Pooja. She was willing to give her all to anything that would make her better and stronger as a person. She told us, “when my partner was also missing out on things because of my disability it gave me a purpose to overcome anxiety. What got me better was his constant presence letting me know that he has my back always.” That's not all, Pooja's acknowledgement and gratitude is proof that when done right, there are lots of ways how a supportive partner and a loving relationship can help someone who is suffering from severe episodes of anxiety. “Varun gave me that space where there was no pressure to be normal. He took my anxious nature as my normal and that just gave me the time to try cognitive therapy and the will to better myself. Now we travel 3 or 4 times a year which was once a dream for me. I am still dealing with it one step at a time but we have made great progress.” (c) Pooja & Varun After 11 years of dating each other, the couple finally got married in 2017, which happens to be their most dear milestone. Pooja shares how the grew as a couple through the years, “we have been through every test of time. From being in a long distance to being in the same city but living far. From seeing each other every day to seeing each other once a week. From accompanying each other for our respective exams to managing to get a degree at the end of it all. From taking risks in life to being scared even to leave the house. From facing panic attacks to going FOR counselling. Every hurdle thrown our way has been faced together with an abundance of patience and we are still moving ahead and dealing with life together.” (c) Pooja & Varun For Varun, Pooja continues to be his biggest cheerleader. Someone he can trust and rely on. He shares that, “When the shit hits the roof, she is the one you need by your side. She is cool as a cucumber under pressure.” Varun also has just one an important to share with all those men who have partners who also suffer from anxiety. “Things become better with patience and perseverance”, quips Varun, and we presume that this along with his love for Pooja must have helped the couple sail through the tough situations and come out as winners in life and as lovers. More power to the happily married couple!
  17. In case you didn't know, the trailer for the movie 'Luka Chuppi' dropped yesterday and it was pretty well recieved. It looks like the perfect millennial love story and we all know how perfect Kartik Aaryan and Kriti Sanon are for that. The trailer is obviously hilarious and the funny dialogues and scenes were perfect to turn into memes; so, of course that's what happened. People mainly focused on two dialogues - “Bhaisahab yeh kya kar rahe ho?” and “Sharam na aaiya tujhe yeh sab karne se pehle?” - which were hilarious on their own in the trailer but became even better when people started giving their own context. Here are the best ones: Always. *Whenever I try to study #LukaChuppiTrailer Mobile: pic.twitter.com/cswbEWqyIt — Karan (@Troller_talk) January 24, 2019 Apparently not. When your bestie is still in touch with your Ex#LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/ozHKAVVoty — micrOOrganism. (@sainti_kumar) January 24, 2019 Oh no, that's a crime. Christopher Nolan when someone watches his film on a mobile phone: #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/mnkLkUi1Vu — Sid (@SidKSchrute) January 24, 2019 That's an even bigger crime. when momo wala gives her momos without chutney: #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/7yCnForycy — Humor Being (@followTheGupta) January 24, 2019 Hmm. When I'm waiting for my turn on petrol pump and suddenly a girl comes #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/eSSihqueFi — Avi (@aviii__) January 24, 2019 The only profession. Indian parents when their child opts for Arts instead of engineering #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/qLqZR7v5Hx — Bollywood Gandu (@BollywoodGandu) January 24, 2019 Yeah, don't do that. #LukaChuppiTrailer *When your male best friend tries to flirt with you* You : pic.twitter.com/eGF6y4Zy3V — sarcastic_ladkaa ðð (@Unsakht) January 24, 2019 But, it's a shortcut. When Google Maps is suggesting a right turn but your Autowala takes a left. #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/8CMILYRyJs — Bade Chote (@badechote) January 24, 2019 Nahi aayi. #LukaChuppiTrailer After studying for whole night, Inner me: pic.twitter.com/Ak88H7Fwmw — Gautam (@GeniusAsHell) January 24, 2019 Every friendzoned guy ever? When I'm asking her out #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/sbpOZlOPbL — pratik godhani (@pgodhani) January 24, 2019 Hardik Pandya is also here, of course. *When Hardik Pandya reached his home after that #KoffeeWithKaran show* *His family member to him* #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/e5nrE0SEyP — Subham (@subhsays) January 24, 2019 Okay then. Priyanaka Gandhi Before Every Election ð#LukaChuppiTrailer #PriyankaGandhi pic.twitter.com/0GkM2cHyi4 — Hardik (@Humor_Silly) January 24, 2019 The biggest irony. Irony is Jio producing the movie and the trailer ends on this note #LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/1AMmZ5PDYl — Nameet Bhorade (@BhoradeNameet) January 24, 2019 That's just embarrassing. When my friend makes tik tok videos#LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/Xa9UUeQa17 — Bhatt ji (@Pahaadi_Tweet) January 24, 2019 From bae to bhaisahab real quick. #LukaChuppiTrailer When you are on a date with bae but see bua ji coming pic.twitter.com/0K8OJHEPFf — SwatKatð (@swatic12) January 24, 2019 Sure. When Ranbir Kapoor makes relationship with Deepika after Katrina,Alia after Deepika *Bollywood fans to Ranbir Kapoor*#LukaChuppiTrailer pic.twitter.com/mPdu9LytcX — Subham (@subhsays) January 24, 2019
  18. Seems like the love that we have been sensing in the air has finally whiffed its way up! Actor-director Farhan Akhtar and Shibani Dandekar have been a 'thing' in Bollywood for quite a while now but seems like Farhan has finally taken a step further in making things official because that's exactly what his latest Instagram post explains. View this post on Instagram As long as I have you As long as you are I'll never be lost Shine on beautiful star âï¸â¤ï¸ @shibanidandekar love you loads A post shared by Farhan Akhtar (@faroutakhtar) on Jan 13, 2019 at 4:26am PST The speculation about the two dating began when Shibani shared a picture with a mysterious man and everyone guessed it to be Farhan only. View this post on Instagram photo cred @anuragrao A post shared by Shibani Dandekar (@shibanidandekar) on Sep 1, 2018 at 8:12am PDT Once the cat was out of the bag, the couple has constantly been sharing cute pictures of each other on their respective social media feeds. View this post on Instagram oh Hi @faroutakhtar ðð¾‍âï¸ #bumped A post shared by Shibani Dandekar (@shibanidandekar) on Nov 27, 2018 at 11:34pm PST Shibani even shared a wonderful birthday post on her boyfriend's birthday. View this post on Instagram Because he has the coolest tattoo in the world ð¬ and because it's his bday! Happy birthday my sweet grumps â¤ï¸ love you loads @faroutakhtar ð ð¥ð𥳠A post shared by Shibani Dandekar (@shibanidandekar) on Jan 8, 2019 at 10:48pm PST As per sources, things are very serious between the two and the couple is in a happy space. Work wise, Farhan has recently announced that 'Don 3' is happening and fans are super excited to know the details which haven't been divulged yet.
  19. Here's a look at what happens when your girlfriend gets into an argument with you. The one thing we know for sure is, your girlfriend knows everything! Specially the imaginary one.
  20. Ranveer Singh and Deepika Padukone are probably the biggest relationship goals right now. Well, at least everyone considers them that. But, a new revelation about their relationship is making me rethink everything because it sounds that unsettling. Everyone loves a good love-at-first-sight story and it seemed very romantic when Deepika recently said that Ranveer started flirting with her during their first meeting itself. But, that romance turned into a huge red flag when Deepika followed it up by saying that Ranveer was actually dating someone else at that time, the time he was flirting with her. View this post on Instagram â¤ï¸ A post shared by Deepika Padukone (@deepikapadukone) on Nov 15, 2018 at 6:36am PST Talking about the incident on the show Famously Filmfare, Deepika said, “I was at YashRaj and he was there and he was flirting like it's nobody's business and he was dating somebody else at this point and I was smiling to myself and told him, 'You are flirting with me.'” First of all, I don't think I have to explain it to anyone how wrong that is. So basically, Deepika is admitting that her husband showed signs of being unfaithful from the beginning. If that's not a red flag in a relationship, I don't know what is. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Ranveer Singh (@ranveersingh) on Nov 28, 2018 at 6:59am PST Secondly, how can we be sure he didn't do that with someone else when they started dating. Yes, they got a happy ending with a beautiful wedding at Lake Como, but come on, Deepika, this is shady as hell. This incident can also be easily turned into a 'meet cute' with Ranveer being so infatuated with Deepika that he couldn't help but flirt with her. But, let's be a little practical - what about the woman who he was dating then? No one wants to be her, no one wants to think about her. Well, it's great that everything worked out for them but no, I would not consider the beginning of their relationship romantic at all. It's creepy as hell and you can fight me on that.
  21. Scenario 1: Dad: So, what are you doing with your life? Son: *silence* Scenario 2: Dad: Hello Beta, kaise ho? Khana ho gaya? Son: Haa, ho gya. Mai thik hu. Aap kaise hai? Dad: Mai thik hu. Accha mummy se baat karo. *conversation ends* Does this sound familiar? I bet it does. Of all the people we meet and get acquainted with, it is our father who is the first male presence in our life; our role model, our hero and someone we look up to but are eternally scared of. Indian dads and sons are a complicated lot and their relationship is even more complex. The dynamics of the relationship change dramatically; a bit like Tom and Jerry. Truth be told, we have always had a love-hate relationship with our fathers. Mothers are the fun one, they nurture you, spoil you, care for you. Fathers are the ones who are the strict ones, who reprimand you when you do something wrong. There is a time when they love you dearly, but as you start growing up, you sense a sort of detachment from them. Baba, Papa, Abba, Dad, Appa, Pitaji, Babuji, Baoji; all these words instil a sense of respect, along with a sense of fear as well. We delved into what causes this rift between these two which makes bonding a hassle: 1. Unfulfilled Aspirations: Takiya Kalam: Par tum doctor/engineer kyun nahi banna chahte? Everyone has dreams; some of them get fulfilled, others get cut down due to circumstances. Imagine a young man in his prime who couldn't achieve his heart's desire and decides that his son will carry on the baton. While it is not wrong for a father to have a dream for his son and live their dreams through their children, some fathers downright force their aspirations down their children's throats. This kind of an attitude enables animosity in the son, who goes out of his way to try to live up to the expectations and trying his best, but doesn't seem to make his father happy, eventually hating himself and his father. What we need to understand is that it is not compulsory that sons will follow their father's dreams, if one does so of their own will, it is fantastic, but having a pre-defined path already set in stone for you may not be comfortable. 2. The Inability To Show Emotion: Takiya Kalam: Thik hai. Aur accha karo! Handling emotions have never been the strong suit of men. Showing emotion is portrayed as a flaw, especially in a patriarchal society like ours. Our fathers have always been strong; no tears, no love-dovey talks, just plain tough love. A trait learnt from their fathers. Saying 'I love you', giving a hug or showing emotion is seen as non-masculine, and our society has a very deep-rooted (read misguided) sense of what constitutes masculinity. What they do not realize is that this ingrains the same behaviour in an impressionable, young mind. A son looks up to his father as the person who will show him the ways of the world and help them. So, when they do not show any affection or emotion towards them, it instils rejection and hurt in the mind of the son; leading him to have an aloof relationship, not only with his father but future relationships as well. 3. Being 'The Man': Takiya Kalam: Ladke ye nahi karte… From an early childhood, a son is taught to be the man of the house; it is implicated by the father that he needs to be the sole patriarch of the family after him. He must man up and step into his father's shoes and become the “paterfamilias”. It is an unspoken rule; a regulation that needs to be followed. For a young adolescent, it is increasingly difficult to understand the complexities of adult life, let alone have the burden of “being the man” thrust upon him. Moreover, if the son decides to follow a career in something other than so-called manly pursuits, it is the father, more time rather than less, who will always ask him to follow a career more socially acceptable for a man. Majority of Indian parents have a hard time supporting their children in endeavours the society frowns upon. 4. Toughening Up: Takiya Kalam: Ro mat! Ladke nahi rote! Whenever you fell, your dad made it a point to tell to stop crying about it and brush it aside. That is the way they had always been taught to deal with their problems; they were trying to make you tough. Crying or whining was frowned upon; it made you a ninny. 'Boys don't cry' is such an adage that makes men think that it is a sign of weakness. It's high time that we change it. Crying is not for weaklings, but our dads sue made us feel it was. 5. Worldly-Wise: Takiya Kalam: Duniya aese nahi chalti! In the process of making their sons worldly-wise, dads often employ tactics and lessons which might not be always good. The first time you were duped by the shopkeeper or had any mishap, instead of explaining it you would most probably get lectured about it. The echoing “the world doesn't function the way you want to” dialogue is mandatory. Though it may have seemed like the worst thing that time, it did shape you as an adult, but not in the best way possible. You would try to hide any mistakes you committed so that you would not get another verbal berating. Dads are just trying to make you street-smart so that you don't make the same mistakes they did. 6. Enforcing The Rules: Takiya Kalam: Bas keh diya! Monica says, rules help control the fun. Indian fathers are a step ahead: enforce rules quite heavily so that there is little fun. Rules, when too binding, constrict a person. Having too many rules instils rebellion in the child especially if physical violence is involved. The control being forced upon them makes them have even more animosity towards their dads. Slapping, beating or disparaging doesn't work, it only agitates the young child. He may not shy away to employ the same on others. It becomes a struggle for supremacy; the son wanting more freedom and the dad trying even harder to show the son the fault in his ways. Also, the legendary sass of Indian dads is unparalleled; “Lights to tumhare papa band karenge” or “Papa to ATM hi hain” which is funny to hear but does make you feel irritated. 7. Generation Gap: Takiya Kalam: Hamare zamaane me… © Pinterest The biggest bone of contention is the generation gap: there is a huge difference in the era and conditions our fathers were brought up and the time in which we are now. There are things that they might have a hard time understanding, like mobile phones or laptops for example. They might not always like the music you listen to, the games you play or the shows you see or the way you are growing up; which is fine. You might have been often treated to the iconic, “Hamare zamaane me to hum aisa karte the” or “Hamare zamaane me hum badon se zubaan nahi ladate the.” The son needs to understand that their father is just trying to be relevant; he is unsure about how his son perceives him in this new era. Instead, the son tries to belittle the father or make fun of their choices and thus increases the strain in the already fragile relationship. 8. Communication: Takiya Kalam: Lo, maa se baat karo… Psychology suggests that sons are more comfortable with their mothers instead of their fathers; it is somewhere true. Remember the discomfort you felt when a condom ad or *** scene came up while you and your father were watching television? The channel would get changed immediately or you would start faltering and stuttering while your father would put up a stoic silence. When it comes to *** or some other hard topic, Indian fathers typically shy away from talking about it. It is not limited to just ***, having a conversation with your father is rather difficult. Other than enquiring about your being or some other superficial topic, the conversation ends there. Also, the son doesn't like coming up with any topics in the fear of ending up with a life-long lecture or not having any topic to talk about because it has always been like this, you never bothered to ask about what interests him and vice versa. 9. Appreciation & Comparisons: Takiya Kalam: Sirf 98 aaye hai? 2 marks kaha gaye? Sharmaji ka beta 100 number laya! © iDiva Instead of appreciating what the son has achieved, most fathers try to focus their attention on what he needs to work on. Though it might be a good thing in the future, the want for appreciation remains unfulfilled which gives rise to a sense of anger and despair in the son. He starts thinking that he is unable to obtain his father's approval and his level of acceptance. The pedestal created by the father for his son hampers their relationship. Acting like salt to a wound, Indian fathers have a habit of comparing their sons with his contemporaries. "If Rahul got 98 why did you not get 100? Though they are just pushing you to better yourself, never appreciating your efforts makes one sad. "Making comparisons doesn't make anyone better, it just makes you doubt yourself more. Some dads unknowingly become unkind to their sons; be it comments on their appearance or their habits. This all leads to a feeling of worthlessness in the son. 10. Pride: Takiya Kalam: “Baap humesha baap hota hai” © Afran Productions/Paramount Pictures Fathers are proud beings, and justly so. They have suffered and brought you up; so, when a son does not show the proper respect to his father, it serves as an insult to their ego and pride. They are not comfortable in asking you for help, they will always see it as a step down from their role of the provider and nurturer. As a young adult, with raging hormones and the sense of insecurity, sons give their fathers a hard time by not explaining new things which they don't understand, further enraging the father. The son seeks vindication for all the hurtful things by not helping out and ending up hurting the father's pride. How Can We Rectify this? Fathers need to understand that their words have a profound impact on their sons. They need to shed the armour once in a while, to show their sons that they are fun too. They need to give the son a break; it is beneficial for both. The son needs to understand that behind that grumpy façade and rule-loving face, lies the man who wants the best for you and loves you. The ways he shows may not be always great, but it is your responsibility as the son to understand it. © Pixar Animation Studios/Walt Disney Pictures Bonding with your father is an extremely important aspect of life. He is the first man in your life, the person who will be there always, supporting and guiding you, not always in the way you want. Fathers are also human, they are bound to say things, commit mistakes. Do not hold grudges; talk with them. Listen to their stories, their words of wisdom; they have a lot to say. In retrospect, you will find that he was correct a lot of times, though you may not have felt that way at that moment. © T-series Tell him your experiences, hang out with him. Even if he is of a non-talkative sort, indulge him. Do things for him without being asked to. If you know he likes something, get it for him. He might fake annoyance, but he will be secretly delighted that you remembered. Catch a movie with him, call him more often. If you feel sorry for the way you treated him in the past, apologize, give him a hug. Explain things to him, like technology, which you know he has a hard time adapting to. Be vocal about your love, it is never too late. Try to become friends with him. Whoever said that sons and fathers can never be friends was wrong. Try to understand him and you will see that he has warmed up to you. This is the way you can build a better relationship with your father. © Abc Look at movies like 'The Pursuit of Happyness' and 'Sanju'; these movies show how fathers are not always vocal about things. They are behind-the-curtain men, who make the movie of your life work. A father's love is hidden, it isn't as demonstrative as a mother's, but it doesn't mean that both are different; you just need to unearth the layers.
  22. Long distance relationships are very tough to sustain and people who can pull them off flawlessly should be awarded! No kidding. I tried my hand at one some time ago and I couldn't do it for longer than maybe 6 months. Not that I wasn't in love with her or something, I just couldn't handle being away from someone for so long without any physical or emotional proximity. I guess a LDR (long distance relationship) is not everyone's cup of tea and people who do it have a lot of willpower, patience and a sense of loneliness that doesn't really bother them. © Pintrest When I signed up for a LDR with my then girlfriend, we didn't factor in any cons and just thought about the pros. We thought we'll swiftly move into a space where we'll have a lot of time to ourselves over digital media and spend a lot of time talking to each other and two years without any physical contact would be just about fine. Little did we know it was the toughest journey both of us ever embarked upon. The problem was that we didn't factor in what goes into maintaining a long distance relationship and we figured we'll just wing it. But it doesn't really work like that and till date, losing that relationship has been my biggest regret. © Pintrest So, if you're contemplating a LDR with someone you really love or want to be with and want to make the probable effort for, here are some important boxes you should check before going ahead! You can take these steps as serious learning's, from my failed LDR! (1) Can Basic Logistics Be In Place? Basic logistics also include the distance your partner is travelling and figuring out accordingly how often you can visit each other. If it's a straight-up no-travel or no seeing each other LDR, then it gets tough (like ours was). There is only so much you can rely on technology TBH. If you have the means and the luxury to travel and meet up at least once in two months, then it sounds absolutely doable. Maybe think of a commonplace you both can meet every other month. That way you don't have to travel the whole distance to see your beau. But if the logistics aren't in place there is no point in doing a long distance at all. "My GF and I have been in a long distance since I got a job in another city and I had to leave. There was no 'talk' per se about how we were going to deal with this but things sort of fell into place. She understood we had to do this because of our respective careers. Of course, we had our doubts and fears about how we'd do this but we decided to meet at least once a month and since then it has become a lot easier" - Alshaar, 28, Associate Editor © Pintrest (2) Can You Be Constant At Communicating? Communication is the key to keep any healthy relationship alive and it's required even more if you're in a long distance relationship. Communication is the heart of a LDR and if it fails, the entire relationship can collapse. I don't mean be on the phone 24/7. I mean communicate as and when you feel like talking to the other person. If you remember something concerning them, communicate, if you're feeling sad or happy, just communicate. You have to make sure the person is a part of your life through communication. You can decide on how to carry forth the communication but once you do stick to it. if you're averse to the idea of communicating or think you're bad at it, LDR is probably not for you then. "Communication is the key. When I moved to another city to study, my boyfriend and I would only meet maybe twice a year but we made it through by just effectively communicating and staying in touch. It came naturally to us" - Gowrav, 27, Writer © Thinkstock (3) Can You Trust The Other Person Completely? This is also another key factor. If there is no trust, there is no reason to consider doing a LDR. Trust is the binding force behind any relationship and in this case, you wouldn't know what the person is up to for most of the time and you just have to have a solid trust in them and a strong faith in the relationship! If you can trust the person enough and trust them to not do something that may upset you, then you're ready for this. *** is an important part of any romantic relationship and sometimes it becomes a carnal need. If you trust the person to not indulge in casual *** while she's not around you or meet other people for any other purpose than to just socialise, then maybe it's not worth the risk. "Yes, trust is important. It's the most important thing to have in a relationship. My GF visits me every other week since we're not very far off from each other but there are times I don't see her but I don't wonder what she's up to. I know she'll never cheat on me" - Mohit, 28, accountant "*** is an important part of any relationship and sometimes, in a long distance, physical proximity does get compromised. In that regard, my boyfriend and I have decided to have an open relationship, just for *** and not an emotional attachment. We're clear about this in our communication and talk about it whenever we do hook up with someone. It works out for the best" - Gowrav, 28, Writer © Pintrest (4) Can You Be Okay With Them Socialising? Sometimes, in order to not think about the distance, a lot of people resort to socialising so they don't feel lonely. Your partner will have a different social circle and you may not be a part of that life. If you think you can handle her having a separate life from yours without having the FOMO, then it's fine to do this. Or else just be clear about what you really feel. © Pintrest (5) LDRs Are All About Commitment If you're planning to go ahead with a LDR it's but much obvious that you're willing to commit. There isn't a point if there is no commitment and you're just doing this for the heck of it. LDRs should only be done if the relationship is heading somewhere. If it's a casual fling, why keep the person on the hook and do one? Commitment gives a sense of security to both the partners and the fact that so much hard work will not go in vain. It stabilises a relationship and seals the deal, telling the partners that this is it for them. © Thinkstock You can have certain dos and don'ts if you're considering a LDR. Like make a LDR budget wherein you spend out of that for travels etc. Have a schedule for talking to each other, especially if you're in different time zones. Keep the interaction alive with communication, sending over gifts, handwritten letters etc and just be true and honest to each other. A day will come when you will not have to be away from each other anymore and you'll cherish each other even more when you do come back together and form a stronger bond!
  23. Long distance relationships can be highly daunting since not everyone can afford to voyage saat samundar paar to entertain their better-halves. Most Romeos juggle between coping with the challenging (and often confusing!) time zones and constantly purchasing roaming packs/international call minutes. And if they aren't doing that, then you can rest assured that they will be spending their nights listening to 'All I Want' by Kodaline. Apart from not being able to relish the usual fun and affection that almost every couple enjoys, they also tend to be a bit more insecure (living miles apart will do that to you) about their girlfriends, start overthinking things, and, at times, may find it hard to take out time for each other (separate time zones will do that to you!) So, men, if you have found yourself in a long-distance relationship, and if you're too in love to make sure things don't fall apart, fret not, because we at MensXP have listed some tried and tested ways that would (without a doubt) crown you as the best long-distance boyfriend one could possibly have. 1. Time Management Is Key Be it because of the conflicting and confusing time zones, or simply because of the busy lives we all lead these days, it might get difficult to take out enough time for your lady love. So much so, that one of the biggest (if not THE biggest) reasons for long-distance relationships flaming out, ends up being bad time management. So, on that front, make sure you put together a schedule (in pen and paper if needed) to ensure you allocate enough hours for your girl every single day! Not to mention, you should always have enough roaming data packs/international call minutes at your disposal, for you never know when her longing for a conversation might surface. 2. Give Her Something To Look Forward To © Instagram/ Sonam Kapoor From planning an intimate dinner in a beautiful lake setting to booking a romantic getaway from the hullabaloo of the city, organize things ahead of time to make sure she has something to look forward to when you two meet. It is necessary to lay this groundwork because you really don't want her doubting your eagerness to see her or your will to spend time with her. 3. Keep Your Mind From Wandering Off Living miles apart, you might find yourself in the midst of situations which may prove to be a litmus test for your relationship. As such, you need to ABSOLUTELY make sure that you don't give in to the various (and vicious) temptations that might come your way, as they may (and will) lead to absolutely destructive consequences. 4. Surprise Her With Something Special © Instagram/ Mira Kapoor It's a well-established fact that most women absolutely love receiving surprise gifts. Sometimes, it's just that simple to please them. So why not be a thorough gentleman and get a classy wristwatch, a pair of stylish leather boots, or a treasure trove of beauty products delivered at your lady love's doorstep? If nothing else, doing so will let her know that long distance hasn't turned you into Ebenezer Scrooge! Pro tip: Save yourself the effort of browsing through a multitude of websites, and get her the iDiva beauty box - the perfect amalgamation of premium skin and hair care products for women. Buy it here 5. Keep Up The Intimacy © Instagram/ Priyanka Chopra It goes without saying that after a point of time, phone *** can get a bit dull and vexing. Furthermore, this can have adverse effects on your already distant relationship. So why not think of, or look out for, new (and kinkier!) ways of spicing up your *** life? Well, we shall leave the rest to your own creativity and imagination! 6. Pour Out Your Thoughts, Grievances & All Other Emotions A long-distance relationship can give birth to an array of complications, and given the physical gap, it may get really challenging to deal with such obstacles. While there are oodles of ways to cope up with relationship-related issues, bottling up your emotions or avoiding a conversation altogether, is NEVER going to make things better. In fact, it will only end up making things worse. So pour out your emotions and make sure your girl knows what's going on in your head - be it insecurity, anger or just an emotional outburst.
  24. How do relationships go? What about the arguments? Kind of like this, right?
  25. We all go through the phase where we are looking for company but not exactly looking for company. Getting me? You might be finding it confusing, so let me rephrase that. Sometimes in our life, we crave for intimacy but don't exactly want a relationship. via GIPHY To get over this phase, some people have one night stands while some find solace in friends. However, some go for a relationship which is not exactly a relationship. They enter into something casual which usually has just one rule (and we sure can talk about it, unlike fight club): nothing serious! via GIPHY If you just had a breakup, or need a break from singlehood without having to commit, a casual relationship is a great idea. It provides you with the break which you need, you get a new friend, and of course, who doesn't like to get laid? But maintaining a casual relationship isn't as simple as it sounds. If you are in one such relationship then keep in mind that contrary to the popular belief, there is more than just one rule to keep the relationship in the complication-free zone. 1. There's No Space for Jealousy Irrespective of whether you're exclusively (but casually) involved or in an open relationship, there's no space for jealousy in such relationships. Your partner is free to date/hangout/party with whomever they want and you have no right to question it. via GIPHY The “who were you talking to at 1 in the night?” doesn't work here. If you're the jealous kind who hates the idea of your partner being even slightly involved with someone else, then a casual relationship isn't for you. 2. They Can't be Available All the Time When you're in a serious relationship, you expect your partner to be there for you whenever you need. But when you're in a casual relationship, expecting the same is naïve. via GIPHY A casual relationship is not an 'in sickness and in health' relationship. It is being there with each other to have a good time. That's it! Don't expect anything more than that. Make yourself understand that you might be their last priority. 3. Tell Them If You Start Developing Feelings First of all, you shouldn't break the very first rule of a casual relationship by falling for them. But, we're human and at times, we don't have control over our feelings. If you find yourself breaking this very basic rule, tell your partner. via GIPHY It's important because they might not be on the same page and things would become complicated if they actually aren't. Don't wait for too long hoping that they might start feeling the same. You might get hurt. 4. Don't Expect Pillow Talk Expecting the lovey-dovey messages, mushy talks, or good morning texts is a big NO-NO! You're in a casual relationship, so, keep it casual. Meet & talk when you both are free, have a good time and then get busy with your lives. via GIPHY Speaking of life, get one! Don't make them your world. A casual relationship is not at all about spending all the time together. It's about having a good time when you're free. 5. Split The Bill It goes for every relationship actually but is mandatory when you're in a casual relationship. Don't let your partner pay all the time. via GIPHY You don't need to split every bill, but you should pay alternately. It would keep things simple. The next time you enter into a casual relationship, keep these in mind. In fact, it is also good if you make your own rules by discussing your partner. After all, You wouldn't want a complicated relationship, would you?
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