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It’s not easy to end a marriage. It takes months for the unhappy couple to contemplate whether they should take the drastic, life-changing step or not. It’s even more complicated in India since a divorce or a broken marriage is seen as a social stigma and as the worst that could happen to any desi kid. © Colour Yellow Productions Most young people today fear getting married, especially in an arranged set-up, because of this very reason. If your likes and dislikes don’t match and you find out that you are not compatible with your partner that your parents found you, you are left with only two choices–live unhappily ever after or stand up for yourself and your happiness and end it. © Yash Raj Films A guy going through a similar situation asked Reddit men what it’s like being divorced in India. He wrote, he is “in a very strained marriage, both very unhappy and contemplating divorce, fear and social stigma is the main thing holding us back. what to know what to expect if we do it.” And, to our surprise, the answers are not scary, rather heartwarming. 1. “I got married and divorced at 27 within 3 months. She cheated on me and I filed for divorce. 5 years have passed quickly but I found my purpose in life and eventually started dating, found a girl who gets me and am now pretty confident that I will marry her in a year or two. If we don't get married for some godforsaken reason, I will continue on my path and not afraid of dying alone.” –Bombaysux © Colour Yellow Productions 2. “Got married 2.5 years ago, the girl left 10 days later, turned out it was an alimony trap all along and there was another guy. We finally reached a mutual consent agreement now, after 2+ years of mindless courtroom bickering. Living alone has been great and no one really judged me. I was lucky enough to have a family that had their full support.” –butyl_bladder 3. “My friend's brother Married his long time college girlfriend in a very fancy wedding. Divorced within 7 months. She got into an arranged marriage and now he has a son. He's very happy.” –DangerousIntercourse © Colour Yellow Productions 4. “Arrange married at 27, stayed a year together. I had filed under mental cruelty section.. due to very abusive wife. That shit played for 5 years, finally divorced in Jan this year. I would say in metro/metro-like cities.. it doesn’t matter that much... no one cares. But boy if you wanna remarry.. people ask weird questions... I was asked if I beat my wife? Was I impotent? Did she cheat? Did I cheat?...I am not a monster if I am divorced….Life sucked for that time.” –vaibhavdeveloper 5. “It is best to leave a sinking ship than living miserable for the rest of your life mate, seen too many around me. You still have time.” –tpzck © Yash Raj Films Getting divorced is not the end of the world but can be the beginning of a happier life for both of you. View the full article