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  18. ADMIN
    We know that biryani is not just any other dish, but a feeling, but will you line up for a feeling at 4 AM in the morning outside an eatery, and wait in a 1.5 kilometre long queue? Well, that’s exactly what a few people in Bengaluru did, outside Anand Dum Biryani in Hoskote.

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    Just a few weeks ago, the iconic eatery opened after months since it was shut for the pandemic, and people started queueing up at 6 AM in the morning. Not anticipating the fervour with which Bangaloreans would line up for their biryani, Anand Dum Biryani had to send people away, empty-handed, once it ran out of biryani. So what did the sweet people of Bengaluru do this time? They started queueing up outside the eatery at 4 in the morning.

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    One of the customers told ANI that he was waiting since 4 AM in the morning, and had only received his order at 6:30 AM, after waiting for two and a half hours. Mind you, it’s actually raining in Bengaluru, and the temperature has taken a sharp dip. So was it worth it? “Absolutely,” quipped the customer.

    #WATCH Karnataka: People queue up at an eatery in Hoskote to buy biryani.

    A customer says, "I came here at 4 am, but got my order at 6:30 am, as there's a long queue of about 1.5 km for biryani. The food is too delicious, it's worth the wait." pic.twitter.com/ThiT3zmEM6
    — ANI (@ANI) October 11, 2020
    As per locals, Anand Dum Biryani has always attracted a huge crowd, especially on weekends, when people would go out for morning drives and would reward themselves with the biryani.
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    But given the weather in Bengaluru, and the COVID-19 pandemic, one would have assumed that people would be a little cautious. And by the way, who eats biryani in the morning, anyway? Well, people who really love their biryanis, that’s who.

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    Twitter, of course, had a lot to say, and people also had the same question, as to who would eat biryani that early in the morning.

    Who has Biryani in morning??????????
    — Devvrat Mody (@DEVM84) October 11, 2020 Never seen /heard before..Biryani k liye bhi 4.00 am se "Q" mei hai log
    — SirishaRao (@SirishaRao17) October 11, 2020 Who eats rice at 6am?something fishy
    — Papa Penguin Ji (Boti Boti Bot) (@momo62244128) October 11, 2020 Then there were some, who were a little bitter. Perhaps because they couldn’t get their hands on some delicious biryani themselves. No Biryani can so delicious to make a man or women wait like beggars in queue. Just eat the food made by ur mother or wife and That should settle the issue of taste once and for all.
    — Venkatesh Sagar (@Venark21) October 11, 2020 No food is too delicious to go or wait that long... I am happy with simple meal.
    — You know me (@YouknowMe1992) October 11, 2020 “Biryani Jihaad,” seriously man??? Why would you say something like that, even as a joke? WOW Hindus in queue for biryani looks like it's conspiracy for biryani Jihaad 🤪
    — Critical Thinker (@waseems16339443) October 11, 2020 Bangaloreans must really love their biryanis… In Bangalore it's a tradition... All that 1.5 km queue makes you crave for it
    — 🇮🇳 Ravi Shetty (@ravi_shetty_Ind) October 11, 2020 Kuch bhi…??? This is the result of the glorification of biryani . I don't know what's so special with biryani, I can make fried rice which tastes better than this.
    — Priyanka (@Priyanka_J99) October 11, 2020All in all, as much as we love biryani, lining up at 4 AM is taking things a bit too far. Would you ever do something like that? For any dish, for that matter? Do let us know in the comments below.

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  19. ADMIN
    No matter how awesome your clothes are for this festive season, if you don’t have the right pair of shoes, or slippers to pair them with, all your time spent shopping for this festive season will go to waste.

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    The thing is, with so many options out there, it can get really hard to pick the right footwear for yourself. So we thought, why not let celebrities and style icons to help us pick out the best options when it comes to shoes, slippers, or mojaris?

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    Here are a few celebrity-approved footwear for all sorts of outfits -- be it kurtas, sherwanis, achkans, or whatever else, that will help you elevate your style game to a whole new level.

    1. Abhishek Bachchan’s Golden Slippers © Viral Bhayani
    If you have picked very basic and understated clothes, then we recommend you go for a pair of slippers that stand out a little. Like the pair of golden slippers that Abhishek’s wearing here.

    You can pick these exact pair up here.
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    2. Nick Jonas’ Coloured Mules © Viral Bhayani
    Mules are a great option as well if you have gone for an outfit that is a little understated and is primarily made of neutral colours. Although Nick’s ensemble is just spot on, we would change the colour of his mules to an orange one, like these, from Sko.

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    3. Raftaar’s Embossed Slip-Ons © Viral Bhayani
    Velvet slip-ons or mojaris have always looked cool, especially when you wear them with something as classic as a dhoti. Now, when going ethnic you should pick footwear that contrasts your outfit. Since Raftaar’s dhoti & kurta are of a very light shade, a customisable, embossed slip-on such as these Modello Domani, sit perfectly.

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    4. Harbhajan Singh’s Brown Brogues © Instagram/harbhajan3
    If you’re going for something classier, like a bandhgala, or a nehru jacket, go for something that is a little more contemporary in style, but classy nonetheless. Go for a pair of brown brogues, like these. If you like what Harbhajan is wearing here, how about you take a look at this pair, from Dmodot.

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    5. Ishaan’s Tasselled Leather Loafers © Instagram/ishaankhatter
    If you’re going for a more structured silhouette, such as a sherwani, or an achkan, we suggest you go for a nice pair of tasselled loafers, like this one, from Churchill.

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    6. Ayushmann Khurrana’s White Sneakers © Instagram/ishabhansali
    White sneakers go really well with just about anything and everything. Case in point would be Ayushmann’s ensemble here. While Ayushmann looks absolutely dapper in this ensemble, we think that if you’re recreating an ensemble like this, why not go for a pair of white sneakers with a little twist? Like these sneakers, again from Dmodot.

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    7. Rajkummar Rao’s Patent Oxfords © Instagram/anishajain
    We just love Rajkummar’s ensemble here, and believe this is one of the classier ways to go about things. We particularly like the manner in which he has paired a very classy and very traditional piece of menswear, with a pair of patent black oxfords. 

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    8. Ayushmann Khurrana’s Single Monk Straps © Instagram/ishabhansali
    Monkstraps are perhaps the most versatile piece of footwear you can go for. They go with everything, and we mean everything. Bandhgalas, dhotis, achkans, you name it. And if you’re going for an unconventional silhouette, like something like an asymmetrical hem like this achkan that Ayushmann has, monk straps are even better.

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    9. Shahid Kapoor’s Patent Mojaris © Instagram/anishajain
    Finally, we have the classic, most desi footwear of all, the jutti or the mojari. But why would you go for something very basic, like a tan mojari? Why not go for one, that strikes the perfect balance between traditional aesthetics, with contemporary style? Like these patent leather mojaris?

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  24. ADMIN
    One of the most sensitive aspects of interacting with a friend or loved one who is troubled by mental health problems is the ‘help’ we try to offer. For most of us, who aren’t trained in the mental health department, this help comes in the form of conversations and what we say to comfort the person and make them feel better.
    Now, while our intention in trying to bring them comfort may be good, most of us are unable to convey it or extend the right kind of support, by failing to choose our words wisely. So instead of helping out, we often end up doing unintentional damage. So we got in touch with counselling psychologist Tanvii Bhandari who is also associated with Untangle as a therapist, to help us understand and navigate through such situations better.
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    “When someone shares anything they’re going through in the mental health space, they are in a very vulnerable space and they’re being extremely brave by sharing it with you. It’s basically like exposing a wound. It’s not fun for them, it's scary and they really don't want you poking the wound. But a lot of us end up doing just that by not being good listeners and by not being respectful of the person who is sharing their troubles with us,” Tanvii tells MensXP.

    That’s when people end up saying all the wrong things. Tanvii helps us out by sharing some examples of such statements which should be avoided at all costs.
    1. “Oh my god, I went through the same thing!”
    2. “Oh you know, this happens to everybody, so many people feel like this.”
    3. “This is how XYZ got out of it.”
    4. “You just do this and you’ll be out of this.”
    5. “Have you tried this...that...and this…”
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    Tanvii tells us that when we give these aforementioned ‘helpful’ suggestions and try to be supportive while attempting to convey the message that ‘you’re not alone’, that isn’t what we end up communicating. Instead, we end up making them feel more isolated as if to imply that they are at fault for feeling the way they are feeling. 

    Elucidating on what the other person might be seeking from us instead, Tanvii adds, “What they really want from us is to listen to them and say ‘I’m here for you’, ‘What can i do for you’. If the person asks, ‘Am I the only one going through this’, that’s when you bring out your stories and say ‘No you’re not the only one going through this, there are others.’”
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    When it comes to giving any sort of advice, Tanvii iterates that unless the friend or loved one directly asks for it, we shouldn’t impose our suggestions on them. But, “If they ask for suggestions, you can say something like, ‘You know this worked for me when I went through this, maybe you can give it a try too.’ This is a very respectful way of putting this across. Instead we end up dismissing, isolating and making them feel shitty about what they’re going through by not being mindful of our words.”

    Tanvii further shares that accountability forms a very important part of therapy. As a therapist she always makes her clients become accountable for what they feel. However, she cautions that as a friend, if we make them feel bad by holding them responsible for their ‘sorry state of mind’ we will only be sending them down a darker hole. On the other hand, “In therapy I’m not just making them confront what they can do differently, I’m also making them understand the things that were out of their control and came in the way,” Tanvii adds.
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    Providing us with a very poignant explanation, Tanvii says, “A great analogy I like to use for mental health is physical fitness. So suppose I’m putting on weight, it could be for a myriad  reasons that are very different from why you are putting on weight. So perhaps a heavy breakfast works for me, but you put on weight because of it. Or curd really suits me, but creates acidity in your body. We need to take these differences into account.”

    “So imagine I tell a friend how unhappy I am with my body or the way I look. My friend then tells me about something she tried which helped her lose weight in three months. But when I try it and don’t see the same results, think about how I will feel, I’ll feel like shit. But instead when I choose to go to a nutritionist, an expert or a fitness trainer and they give me advice, that is usable advice, which will work and help me get where I want to go. But my friend’s personal experience wouldn’t make a similar difference.”
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    “Similarly when it comes to mental health and sharing personal experiences we need to put out that disclaimer - ‘This worked for me. You can try it if it resonates with you.’ We usually don't put out that disclaimer and end up dismissing people instead.”

    Elaborating further on other statements which can be detrimental to people suffering from mental illnesses, both diagnosed and undiagnosed, Tanvii says we must never say things like -
    1. “You have too much free time on your hands, that’s why you’re depressed.”
    2. “You are so indecisive, that is why you’re so anxious.”
    3. “You don’t look at the positive things in life, that is why you’re sad.”
    4. “You just need to look at the positive side of things.”
    5. “You need to have a busy day.”
    6.  “Try a new hobby.”
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    “All of this is very easy for us to do, that’s why we recommend those things so confidently to others. Whereas for the other person it may not be easy at all and often we forget that. We forget that every person is unique. So it’s very important to validate their feelings - whether those feelings may be - sad, depressed or whatever word they use to describe it, we need to validate it. Very often we invalidate another person’s feelings by saying things such as -

    1. “Arey tumhein kya tension hai.”
    2. “You have so much money in your account, why are you worried about this?”
    3. “You have such a good job, why are you stressed out?”
    4. “You have such a great spouse, you have nothing to be sad about.”
    5. “You’re doing just fine”
    6. “ You just need to think positive.”
    “These are positive but unhelpful things to say to someone.” That's the only parting advice Tanvii leaves us with. To be more aware and considerate of our words when trying to help a person who may be under a lot of mental pressure.

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