How we act and behave in society and among our friends creates a vibe around us of being smart or dumb. Maybe we can change it if we pay attention to our mistakes and start working on them. See, if a child shows signs of hyper intelligence at a very young age, and elders around him always encourage and consider him to be an intelligent child, he or she, more often than not, turns out to be the smart one. We do not have scientific proof for this but in this instance the confidence in child plays a huge part. So, if you are surrounded with negative people who may not always be trying to pull you down but undermine you every day. Cut them out of your life. See the strength in you, and know you can change for the better and face your fears. Be self-confident.
Here are few points which will help you stay on the path to wisdom.1. Do not speak unless and until needed. You may sound stupid.
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Have you ever been in a situation where you are forcibly trying to fill the gap by saying something? More than often, what you say to break that silence and start a healthy constructive conversation, sounds stupid to you the next moment you say it. You regret saying those words and feel as if they were not needed and why couldn't you have stayed silent like the person in front of you did. You feel stupid and awkward at the same time.
Remember that silence can be your friend if you know when to open your mouth and when to keep it shut. And in that too by being silent I mean being in peace, calm your mind. So stay calm let your silence speak.2. Do not argue with a stubborn person
If you are arguing with a stubborn person, you are simply wasting your time and energy. It is better to stay silent and focus on your work and life. So, the next time someone is dragging you into such a conversation and you know that the guy is stubborn, ask yourself what good does this conversation bring. It might only lead to a brawl and will also spoil your mood.3. If you are carrying out a task for someone, do it selflessly. If you keep on reminding them of your favor, your good work loses its worth.
Suppose you lend some money to one of your trusted friends in need. But, if you keep on flaunting your 'helpful gesture' to everyone you meet, the good deed loses its value.4. Never over promise and under deliver
It always feels better if you under promise but over deliver but you feel even worse when you over promise but under deliver. Be a man of your word.5. Never purchase anything which goes over your budget. You will only savor it when you are financially free.
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Suppose you want to buy an iPhone but you know that you will have to pay hefty monthly EMI's. But, if you can deal with a mid-budget phone till you can afford an iPhone or something of the sort, it would have made for a more sensible decision. You'll remain stress-free and can also enjoy your possession as a luxury and not a debt.6. Do not hesitate to be the first to help the one in need.
Doing something for others make us feel better, but it makes us feel even better when we can help someone in need. Who knows, yu might need that same helping hand when you are in a trouble and someone from nowhere pops up to just help you.7. Never share your plan in advance with anyone or everyone you meet. It often sets you back.
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Once you disclose what you wish to achieve well before evening embarking on a journey, it often becomes a journey you never take. This happens primarily because of two reasons:
As soon as you put that idea into someone else's head, and that fool shares it with another person, a cycle of rumors on which you have no control of begins. Your mind starts conceiving that you have already traveled the journey without actually making any real life progresses towards it.
Real obstacles appear when you begin walking on the real path, and it's then when you feel the heat of that exponential peer pressure you had mistakenly built. Now that friend or cousin of yours appears no better than a taunting audience when you fail to live by the promise you had made to yourself.8. Do not share secrets from your personal life with anyone.
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Do not make it a casual subject of conversation within your friends. You might feel like a lion for a moment but you will regret it later.9. Do not hesitate to ask a question when in doubt.
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If you keep a question pending for long, it becomes almost impossible to ask it later. If you are in doubt, ask a question instantly to lessen the load even if you need to raise your pitch or consult the person in private, just do it anyway.10. Do not insult anyone
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Never ever insult anyone. What if you scold someone less fortunate or privileged than you? Would you be able to free yourself from the regret it brings? Do not lose your calm and even if you lose it, do not foret to stay in control and not lose your mind.11. Do not share how much you earn. It puts everybody's eye on your money.
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Some people have a habit of borrowing money all the time. Better stay away from the company of such people. If you share your bank balance details with them, you will never be able to say no to them and will also not be able to save or invest your hard earned money.12. Do not share your credentials like account passwords with anyone.
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You do not need to prove your trustworthiness to your friends, in this case particularly. Be smart, because if you get cheated later, you will be considered a fool.13. Do not look for the excuses, instead look for an alternate compensating plan.
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Not being able to reach office on time and then you lie that you were stuck in traffic and then this becomes your habit. Salute our creativity and add more and more excuses to the list. You know what the final result will be. A steep and downward curve. So, instead of looking for new excuses, look for an alternative plan which would compensate you for the loss inccurred.14. Do not hesitate to say no to something or someone who is stopping you from reaching your goal. Set your priorities straight.
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Always remember to set your priorities straight. Your life is yours to lead and noone elses. If someone or something is stopping you from achieving your goal, you should brush them or it aside and move on.15. Never step back to take the blame or responsibility if the mistake was yours. Apologise if necessary. It is the one determining quality of a strong leader.
We all make mistakes. we're human after all but what sets leaders apart from the crowd is the fact that they aren't afraid to admit their mistakes when they make them. Making mistakes is human. Making mistakes without correcting them is insanity