'Stashing' Is A New Dating Trend That Is Here To Ruin Relationships
Welcome to a new day and age where relationship trends change faster than our cell phone brands and new bitter ways of hurting people emerge as fastidious trendsetters. From mooning to breadcrumbing to even cushioning and ghosting, we've established new ways in which we can make people feel horrible about themselves, making relationships superficial and momentary! Whatever happened to old school ways of breaking someone's heart? Where two people involved, would spend nights on end, lamenting the loss and using terms of endearment to address the situation at hand.
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Don't be sick and tired of new dating trends just yet though. We have a brand new one doing the rounds these days and it's called 'stashing'. Stashing, when looked up on Websters, is defined as 'something safely stored in a secret place'.
Now you really don't have to be Einstein to figure what it means contextually in a relationship. You've just entered a relationship. It's been declared as 'official' already and you spend a lot of time together. Everything is going well until you suddenly realise, well, things are really not going too well! Your SO has been introduced to everyone you know in you social circle. From your friends to your parents to even your cleaning lady and your dog but you haven't met a single person from her life or her social circle yet! Well, you're being stashed, my friend and it is not even remotely pleasant!
What's the first cardinal rule of new-age dating? Social media, duh! If you're not up on social media posts and pictures it's not really dating, you see! The timely declaration of each others love is first seen on the likes of Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. and if you haven't been tagged in a picture, a post or the revolutionary 'relationship status update' yet, you're on your way to being stashed! It's your girlfriend's idea of keeping her relationship hidden and living like she's still single. The fact is- no one in her life or social circle knows about you and the sad part is, no one ever will. I mean if it had to happen, it would in the first few weeks itself, wouldn't it?
There could be numerous reasons as to why you're being stashed. The two we can definitely pin-point for you are either she's dating other people and hasn't told you about them or she's embarrassed of you and is probably sticking by because the *** is good, or you're a hard-working (or not) rich man. Ether way, if you haven't even been introduced to her friends, the relationship looks quite bleak, I'll have you know! You're probably her little secret (dirty or not) and her idea of a date with you is either sitting at home and ordering greasy Chinese food or going out to a remote dhaba and eating a plate of desi noodles, over a conversation. Sounds familiar?
By actually avoiding public confrontations about your presence in their lives, stashers get away guilt-free, without having to explain their behaviour and indulge in living the single life, with the perks of a relationship. Even if you call them out on their behaviour, their classic response would either be 'it's too soon to introduce you to anyone' or 'why are you so concerned about social media'? The easiest solution to recognise this trend is notice her social interactions and people she introduces you to and if you've only been introduced to her colony street dogs, it's time to move on, mate!
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