There are many ways to determine wether or not you're demisexual. The most prominent one is when you can't generate sexual feelings towards someone unless there is an emotional connect. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic dealings. You're all about the emotional connect! You may probably have *** with just one person your whole life and be too afraid to experiment but that's not the only trait!

Modern dating barely holds any place for demisexuals anymore. We mean there isn't much time to establish a first hand friendship and then take the relationship up a notch. The idea of hooking up or jumping to a relationship has been put there by online dating apps. But there are people who cannot jump from one sexual encounter to the other without establishing an emotional connect with the other person with ample faith and trust. 

Here's how you determine wether or not you're a demisuxual.  You Don't Give *** As Much Importance As Others Do

You're not a sexual being which isn't a bad thing at all. You rather spend time with lively, real conversations than go looking for ***. If you're in a relationship with someone and are emotionally connected then you will feel sexually attracted towards your partner. If you're single, you'd definitely give up *** any day for donuts or a nice walk in the park.

 

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You Prefer Being Friends Than Flirting

If you meet someone you may like, you're instantly drawn towards them because of their personality and not their looks. So in all likelihood you'll establish a friendship before anything else. You don't believe in flirting or being sexual when you meet someone. If the person has floored you with their personality, you're definitely going to offer them your hand in friendship first. 

To you, dating people, within hours or weeks or even months at times is unthinkable. So when you like someone, flirting is the last thing on your mind. In fact you're terrible at it!

 

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You Go For The Personality And Not The Looks

There are two kinds of attraction: primary and secondary. Primary is when you're attracted to someone by their looks and secondary is when someone's personality attracts you. If you're a demisexual, you're definitely fit into the secondary personality type, where you go for personality more than you go for someone's looks. 

Now we're not saying you don't have it in you to find people attractive. We're sure you've had crushes and have found plenty of people attractive enough but you will certainly not go hit on them and establish a connect based on their looks. You will only establish a connect if you find their personality attractive enough.

You're far more interested in what's behind the pretty face, than just the pretty face!

 

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Sexual Attraction Towards Someone Confuses You

When you do develop feelings other than love for someone, especially sexual feelings, it confuses you a tad, since you're not that sexual a person. You don't know how to react with these feelings or how to even initiate physical contact with the person.

Once you do break the barrage of nervousness and confusion, you will only want to have *** with your partner and no one else. The best thing to do, to open up to someone sexually is to show the person how much you love them (since you're full of emotions) and *** will slowly follow suit and become a thing of comfort between you two.

 

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You've Been Called Prudish And Old Fashioned

Since you're not too big on ***, people will probably think you're waiting till you get married to indulge in it. They might call you prudish and old fashioned based on your choices but that should not deter you from being who you are. It still doesn't change the fact that you can't turn on sexual attraction towards someone like a switch or go looking for *** from random people just because people can't understand your dilemma. 

You definitely won't have a problem with other people being highly sexual around you or sleeping around in general. You just don't want to be indulgent because you're not programmed that way and that's absolutely fine. You rather wait it out, for the right person and spend your life having *** just with them.

 

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Being Demisexual Does Not Mean You Don't Like ***

You do like ***. Everyone likes *** but you enjoy with the one person you establish an emotional connect with and not just everyone.  You may not be a sexual person but when the right person comes along, you don't mind opening up to them sexually. Of course conversations and bonding is of prime importance to you.

 

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Demisexuality has nothing to do with morality or a way of being. It's also not traditional or abnormal. It's a choice. It's a preference and demisexuals don't really abide by high moral codes because they don't indulge in *** often. In India, itself has a lot of demisexual men and women.

The idea of keeping oneself pure before getting married is something that our society promoted. The new dating era that has hit our country sees sexuality in a different realm al together. But there are still some new age demiseuxals amongst us and if you're one of them then embrace your sexuality and live how you want to.