Letting a girl take the lead to ask you out is a very brave and bold move, and once it happens, it's a sure shot sign that she isn't going anywhere.
Most people still believe that girls should not be asking boys out and it's their job to pop the question or make the first move, but I firmly believe that times are changing and asking a guy out is kinda cool.
However, getting the girl to ask you out is a challenge, a fun challenge, regardless. A lot of girls are okay with taking the lead and asking men out, but most of them set up the guy to do the asking out part, and play a beautiful mind game.
But there are a few things you can do to get her to ask you out!
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But remember, not all girls enjoy asking men out. So if you're with someone or like someone who you think won't mind asking you out, definitely encourage it.
Here are 5 simple ways to get the girl you like to ask you out instead:(1) Be Open About Your Feelings
You don't have to hide your feelings or play mind games. It's okay to be open about your feelings. You could do that through gestures like calling her up often, texting her, hanging out with her or you could do it with words, by dropping hints on how you like her, complimenting her often, flirting with her.
Basically, enough for her to know you're really into her. So, when she does ask you out, she's very sure about her decision because she knows you won't reject her.
(2) Play Hard To Get
Playing hard to get is a great way to get a girl interested in you. How? Well, just give her the sense you're around but don't be too around. Be the man of mystery and let her try and figure you out. Just by the sheer absence of some knowledge about you, she'll ask you out for a coffee or something, to get to know you a little bit. But you have to add the element of mystery to completely get her curious or it isn't going to work.
(3) Be A Good Listener
Girls like to talk about how they feel, most times. I am sure you do too, but more often than never, they look for that one person they can share most things with.
So here's your chance to become her confidante. Remember to not enter the friend zone though, just maintain that distance but be there to listen to her.
She would want to meet you often because you're the guy who listens! And eventually, she would want to be with you. So give yourself that chance.
(4) Don't Be Impatient
Being impatient can actually make it worse for you. I mean, if you wait it out she will come around but if you want to spoil it for yourself you can be impatient and ask her out instead. But patience is the key here. If you do all the things right and lay the groundwork, it will take her time, but she will develop feelings for you and would want to ask you out, or at least get you to ask her out.
(5) Subliminal Messaging
Usually, a date would be something you both like doing together. Be it watching a movie, or going to your favourite bar in the city or even for a play. But you need to let her know what you like doing, and indirectly hint at doing it with her if you have common favourites.
This way, if there is an interesting movie that's on and she knows you like it too, she will definitely be very casual about it and ask you if you want to go see it with her. I wouldn't want to state it otherwise but this is a form of subliminal messaging or an auto-suggestion, which will make her ask you out.
It isn't an easy task I know, but sometimes men need an ego boost too, just like all the women do and once in a while, it's not a bad idea. Being asked out by a girl is quite awesome I think and I'd love it if it happened more often!