Almost every 90s kid will remember Sinead O' Connor's raspy rendition of Prince's iconic track, ‘Nothing Compares 2 U'. Connor, a four-time Grammy nominee, rose to fame with her debut album, ‘The Lion and The Cobra' which released back in the 1980s. Connor, a legend of her time, challenged established norms and notions. Connor was always one to take a strong stance. We remember her for that, and the tremendous contribution she made to music.
Yet, today, we find ourselves shaken by a video released by the singer, on her Facebook page. The video is a cry for help. The video is an act of desperation. The video is about Sinead O' Connor revealing that she is alone, suicidal and living in a motel.
But, wait. No. it's actually much, MUCH more than that. And let's retract how we're all calling it “a cry for help”. Yes, she's crying. But, why is she crying? Is she crying because she's depressed? Yes. That's obvious. Is she crying because she's alone? Yes, she is. Is she crying because she needs help? Sure.
But, she is crying, above all else, because mental health is bloody real and nobody fucking GETS IT!
That is why she is really crying, above all else.
Don't misunderstand. Sinead is a very strong woman; even if it's just in spirit. It takes a LOT for a celebrity to come out in the open about the harsh realities of life. Sinead is sad, alone and depressed and yet, she decided to come out and talk. How many really do that? The most we get is a shocking announcement, usually on an otherwise, regular morning, about the sad demise of a star who burned bright—almost too bright—and then, went out. Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington are only two very recent and shocking examples.
Sinead O' Connor is NOT them. Sinead O' Connor is a strong-spirited woman who is maybe just one of millions, as she repeatedly says in her video; but, she is definitely the one in millions who is choosing to speak up about her condition, as well as, publicly call out the people who have abandoned her just because she made a few mistakes in her life.
No one deserves to be alone; no one. It doesn't matter what you did, or didn't do. You could be the worst parent; the worst child; the worst sibling or the worst human being. But, you do not deserve to be alone, especially when you need help.
The world we live in today is never how we expect it to be. And so, we set ourselves up to try and stay non-expectant of most things. But, we're only human. We crave connection. And when we're disconnected from the world we are in, we lose sight of things. That's a driving force. It can drive you mad. It can drive you over the edge. And then, what's the point of calling someone family if they're not there for you when you need them most? What's the point of friends when they can't keep you from falling over the edge? What's the point of being revered by millions when you don't even have one that you can count on?
At the end you're just alone and lonely with no one by your side and what's the point of that, really? No one would ever want to live that way. No, I'm not justifying suicide, at all. But, all we need is one reason. No one willingly wants to die if they can help it. Know this. But, if you feel like there is no reason to hang on, you become just as vulnerable and susceptible to failure.
Sinead has been contemplating suicide for the past 2 years. Only because she sees reason enough to stay put, to hang in and to hope. This is a resort. Sinead is not giving up. She is holding on. And that's what her video is really about. It's about giving no fucks about what anybody, including her family members and so-called friends might think of her actions. It's about putting her own pain and insecurities aside and doing what needs to be done—reaching out; to her family, to her fans and to a million others who are going through something similar. It's her way of telling people that she is “one of millions” and she gets it. It's her way of saying she's in this and she's fighting and so should you. It's not about giving up and ending it all. It's about hanging on and fighting on; moving the **** forward!
It's about saying **** you to the expectations and the judgments made by others and doing what you have to do to survive and fight back. It's about calling out the bullshit for exactly what it is—your family turning their backs on you, friends who never really existed to begin with and the fact that you‘ve done some questionable things in the past that you continue to be punished for.
Sinead O' Connor's public declaration is strong, spirited and a lesson for the millions who are going through the same things, in different ways. It's a message that tells you not to give up. So, don't.