We must let go of the life we have planned so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.
But, letting go is the one thing we find so hard to do because we're so afraid of what we're losing while not being able to think about what might be coming our way… if only we'd let go…
We don't learn like that. Our mistakes from the past are just that—mistakes; not lessons learned. And because we're essentially creatures of habit, we tend to make the same mistakes over, and over again.
Do we ever learn? I guess not. But, as hard as it is to accept certain things as they are, the sooner we do it, the better able are we to deal with whatever curve ball life may throw at us, from time to time… which in itself, is a lot.
These are facts and they are sad, albeit true. We just have to take it with a pinch of salt, a sip of lemonade, or piece of chocolate, if you may. Swallow it like a pill and hope that it does its thing.1. Some Promises Remain Unfulfilled
No matter how hard we try to get someone to keep their word, there are times, when one simply can't. We'll try to safeguard a pact, a commitment by promising, or getting someone else to promise it to us. But, how often do promises really get carried forward? So, do we make promises that may or may not be kept due to no fault of our own? Or do we just not hope for anything?
© Pexels2. People Grow Apart
Even the ones who promise to stay in touch when they travel miles away from you. We tell each other that nothing's going to change our feelings for each other; the love, the bond. But, deep down, we know that the minute they're out of sight, the miles are already putting some distance between two people—whether they want to believe it or not. Priorities change with distances. And that's what changes everything else; even if it's just for one of the two persons.3. Everything Comes To An End
From a project to a book, from a party to a vacation; from an encounter to a marriage, and from a candle to a life. Everything has an expiry date that may be hidden and will only reveal itself when the time is at a close. Yet, we continue to take things and people for granted. Whether we do it despite the fact that it could all end; or whether we do it with the belief that maybe—just, maybe—it won't, after all. But, we're always doing it.
© Pexels4. Change Is The Only Constant
This is one of the saddest and hardest-hitting realities of our lives… that the only thing that will only truly remain forever in our lives—till the time that we cease to exist—is temporary. Where we live, where we work, who we befriend, how we behave—it all changes. We're different from one time frame to the next; depending on what changed in order for us to change. That change fuels change; that one thing changes for us to change and vice versa… that is how it has been and shall continue to be. So, when we make promises of eternity and tell people we're never going to change; somewhere, we know that's not true.5. We Can Never Fully Know
We don't know what happened before we were born. We don't know what happens after we die. We don't know what lies beyond our planet, let alone our solar system. We don't know anything fully. We can only surmise. We can draw conclusions based on what we are presented with; what we see with our own eyes and it's still only what we believe. Even the colours we see aren't what they really are. So, what then, do we really know? Nothing; that's all we know. And this is honestly the one thing that screw with your head and heart for the remainder of your life if you let it. You just live in the moment; in the present and hope that the soon-to-be-present is not going alter you in any drastic way. And that's still an uninformed assumption you're basing your life on.
© Pexels6. We Can't Control Everything
Truth is, aside from our thoughts and how we may react in a particular moment, we really can't control anything at all; not even our own breathing. We don't have even have control over the amount of money we make from our work; our bosses decide that. We don't have control over the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with… it's up to them to choose us as much as we would choose them, you see. We don't control the weather, the traffic jams, the attitude of our colleagues, or the mindset of our friends. We are without control. Does that make you feel just a little bit helpless?7. There Is Always Someone Better
In school, in college, at band practice, at work, in a bar, on a dating app, in the game. His ex, your next, your ex-best friend, your peer, their competition, your boss' boss… the ladder for comparison and natural selection of the fittest survivor never stops. And that is something you either learn to live with, or learn to accept that you're going to constantly find yourself pitted against another—at work, in life and in love. It's constant. There is always going to be someone better who can walk in and take what you have without having to have worked as hard as you did for, or at, it. It seems unfair, yes; because it is. But, does that change the reality? Nope.
© Pexels8. There's No Winning In Life
Whatsoever. You're born and ever since you're born, you're either learning, or struggling. And then, you die. And on your death bed, you aren't thinking about the races you won, how early you started talking, your IQ, the wealth you amassed, the people you proved wrong. You only think, ‘Was it all worth it?' The fights, the competition, the debates, the endless work that you sacrificed your life for, the people you left behind because you could never forgive them, the ego you grew, the empire you built… Was it all worth it?