The young lovers of this generation fear getting attached too quickly. And why shouldn't they? Love today moves faster than sound and diminishes quickly without much remorse or regard. We have dating apps at our disposal which make it easier to move on from something as daring as love and, because of this, every relationship is seen as frivolous and daunting.
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The worst possible thing to happen to someone at this day and age is to get emotionally attached without many tools left at their disposal for detachment. Detachment is important with the frivolity we all live under today and if someone does break your heart, it takes a while to fix it back, making it harder to fall in love or trust love altogether.
So before you set out to like someone and start getting attached to them, maybe keep these 3 very basic things in mind, so that you can protect your heart at the right time.(1) Are You Both Ready?
By ready I don't mean for an association but are you both ready to emotionally invest in each other? If not, there are other ways to do this, like having a fling with one another but if you think you both are emotionally fit to have a deeper, more emotional dynamic than that, then go right ahead. If not, stay put because once you're in, it's difficult to get out unscathed.
© Eros International(2) Are They Emotionally Available?
While having feelings for someone and getting attached to them, you may experience the need to let go of your emotions little by little, trying to see if they can handle them. More times than often, they probably will put up a good show of being there emotionally for you but as time goes by, an emotionally unavailable person will begin to show their true colours. You have to recognise that before you're heavily invested. Because if you're associating with an emotionally unavailable woman, you're definitely in for a world of pain because she's not going to recognise or value your emotions after a point in time. So, it's better to make sure your partner's EQ (emotional intelligence) is at par with yours, before heading for a commitment.
© AA Films(3) Are You Over Your Past?
You don't want to get attached for the wrong reasons now, do you? Definitely don't look for someone else to fill a void because that doesn't work out well in most cases. First try and be complete and happy within yourself before you go looking for something more substantial with another person. If you're not happy and are looking to just fill a void, more often than not you'll end up getting hurt because you'll definitely not find what you're looking for. If you do get attached to another person while getting over your past, it's important to recognise that and try and work on it individually before seeking emotional help from another person.
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Emotional attachment wavers on a thin line and if you think you're not an emotional being, so you don't have to worry about attachment, you're wrong. Everyone is emotional and everyone gets attached. You just need the right time, space and cue to figure out when and how to look for a healthy emotional attachment with the right person.