Red flags, by definition, are indicators of problematic behaviour that is bound to come and bite you in the ass if you ever ignore them in the first place. Something that most of us are well-versed with, considering we do it too often, owing to the whole “love is blind” philosophy. 

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And while blindly falling in love may tug at the romantic in you, what it also does is put you at the risk of getting hurt in the future. Which is why, it is crucial that during the early phase of our relationship with anyone, we keep an eye out for what may or may not be a deal-breaker for you. And that includes behaviour in bed.

Here are 7 red flags to lookout for during *** and put your relationship on red alert:

1. Isn’t Too Big On Using Protection

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You see, it is a common myth that only guys would ever insist on abandoning the contraceptive for the act. 

In a lot of cases, women too, restrain the guy from using protection and either way, it is one of the biggest red flags to look out for. 

Someone who isn’t up for using protection is bad news!

2. Easily Distracted

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One of the biggest turn-offs and something to be seriously noted is when your partner gets easily distracted while having *** with you. 

Whether it is to pick calls in the middle of the act, constantly feel the need to play the right songs in the background or care more for the lighting than making love to you. 

There is a chance it wouldn’t be a one-time occurrence with them...

3. Only A Receiver, Not A Giver

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These are the “I got mine” kind of people, who only care about having a good time themselves, to hell with their partners. 

Whether it is by expecting their partners to go down on them while not extending the same courtesy, or only being in it until they get their orgasm, if you’re in bed with someone like this, RUN!

4. Doesn’t Know How To Take No As An Answer

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You see, pestering long after your partner has said 'no' to something only to convert their no into a yes isn’t a skill to be proud of.

It’s a lowkey sign of the person not knowing how to respect your wishes in bed, something that must never be taken lightly. 

If your partner struggles with accepting what you do and do not like in bed, you’re only enabling their toxic side and entering into something that can be very dangerous.

5. Snaps Out Of It As Soon As It's Over

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Those who snap out of the moment as soon as they’re done and basically throw the whole ‘wham, bam, thank you maam’ act at you, are also people to look out for and steer clear of. 

Because chances are that their interest, affection and care is only limited to the seven minutes in heaven and not one second after that.

6) Pass Subtle Comments At Your Body

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If you’re in bed with someone who whilst in the act or maybe right after, starts passing subtle comments about your body, take it as a sign of being in bed with a possible body-shamer. 

The last thing you need is to be with someone who makes you feel badly or conscious about your body, and who’s to say if they’ve done it once they won’t do it again?

7. Asks Too Many Questions

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It’s good to be with someone who cares about what you like, what you want and how you want it, but it is also a very big turn-off when those little reaffirmations turn into an episode of KBC in the middle of a steamy make-out. 

“Are You Coming”, “Now?”, “How about NOW?” are all questions that are bound to drive you crazy and push you to the edge (not of ecstasy, but of a cliff).

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