If you're looking for someone to date or fall in love with in 2019, your timing couldn't be perfect. I don't just mean that because it's a brand new year and it's still the beginning, but because 2019 is a marvellous year of revelations and strengthening certain aspects about how you react to things around you.
Just like how everything happens with an evolutionary spin, dating too takes that curve every once a while and permits us to seek new rules every time we want to start exploring the world with someone.
Apart from the rules you need to stick to, for dating in different cities, there are something's which are stagnant and unanimous, in terms of qualifying as the 'deal breaker'. And for a man, in 2019 particularly, it's his tryst with honesty.
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Even with a heavy spin off on finding the 'perfect match' at a brink of a second, we're still looking for folds of realism in people we ardently want to be with and if things aren't real, it's difficult to define what the intent actually is. The crux of everything a man is today or what he should be doing, is all matched up to how honest he is as a human being and if he's indeed as honest as he should be, greater good does come his way.
In relationships though, which are certainly not archaic anymore, honesty has become a trivial concept and it certainly shouldn't be one.
Because people are dishonest they move away and start swiping again but if you're honest to one another, you're amorous, even though you want to head in different directions eventually.
So here are 4 pertinent things every man should definitely be honest about, if he's looking to date in 2019:(1) What You Really Want From Her
The new year brings a new age, or that's the easiest assumption I summon. No, really, can we go a little old school here? Remember a time when there were no dating apps or much of social media influencing our decisions? We would take time to wonder and think what we really want out of a dynamic? Yes, let's bring that back.
Be open about what you really want because honestly, women are done with men playing games or giving them the chase. If you want an open relationship, be vocal about it, if you want to be in a relationship, there's no harm sharing that, if you just want something casual, let it out, but there isn't any point of being dishonest about your intent, because when she finds out you're dishonest, you'll just be a man who lies and gets away with it!
© Fox Star Studios(2) Are You Commitment Phobic?
A commitment phobic person could break at any point in time. If you're not ready for a commitment, don't dazzle her with your charm and leave her to figure the rest.
Let her know that commitment scares you and even if you really want to be with her and the big 'C' gets in the way, ask her to help you out with it. Maybe she can help you take it slow, maybe she can opt for something casual with you. Who knows? and you won't know either unless you voice out your very obvious concern. Don't let her find out through some 10,000 alarming signals you let off, during the day.
© Fox Star Studios(3) That Sexism Scares You, Not Feminism
Yup, as text-bookish as I may sound right about now, it's actually true. Be wary, you're always judged for that and that's not because women want to judge you till you evaporate, it's because equality is very important for them and if you're on the same wavelength, hallelujah!
Women have found a voice in 2019, well they had one way before too, maybe you just weren't listening. But now, if you hear, they're saying it's okay to understand what they really need and want from a man, which doesn't reek of sexist behaviour and aligns with some feminist ideology.
It certainly doesn't mean you have to embrace everything in the name of feminism, it just means you have to start being equals. Chivalry is great but maybe go dutch on the bill? Let her drive you for a change or even pull a chair back for you?
© Eros International(4) Be Honest About Your Long-Term Goals
You can slip it into a conversation or just have a long conversation and disclose all you want to about what you're looking at, in 2019. You could be looking at getting married or maybe just being with someone, whatever it is, being honest about it, rather than shying away from it is way easier and classier, might I add.
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You could add-on more honest things to be honest about other than these 4 pointers and make a classic example of how you've understood what I am trying to say, or you can just press the little obnoxious cross on the top-right corner of your window and close this article, but let me tell you this- Who doesn't love an honest man? He can live a tough life but he'd never be forgotten and that's how important a role honesty really plays, in society and of course in 2019, today.