In a world full of people who don't want to get settled, it becomes hard if you are looking for something stable. You get called prude, old-fashioned, and too patient. All you get from the left and right swipes is a date who wouldn't want to know you the morning after.
That is how our generation has become. It is all about getting naked, and nothing about companionship or compatibility. And the ones who want to know you, they usually want to know about your wild fantasies. That's why dating these days feels like a sprint whereas it should be a marathon. If you too feel like you don't belong in this world, you need to change a little.
Following are a few things you can do to casually look for something serious:· Don't Push For Commitment Right From The Start
You can't get a commitment on the very first day. Understand that building a relationship takes time. It is something which happens with the flow. Don't scare off your date by talking about the commitment the first time you meet. Let him/her know that you're looking for something serious but you understand that it doesn't happen in a day or two. So you're ready to go with the flow.· Ask Questions
Get to know your date as much as you can. Ask questions about their goals, their dream, their lifestyle. It will reveal the kind of person they are. Then you can judge better is they seem worth your time. More importantly, their answers will reveal if they're a casual person or they know how to be serious too.
For instance, if a person's hobby is drinking and bar hopping, you may expect that they like a certain pace and might not be ready for stability. On the other hand, if you find someone who is discussing his life goals, that would be the person who is serious in life and might be looking for the same.· Hold Back & Be Mysterious
Don't open your entire life on the first date. Hint about the crazy things you did but don't reveal it to them. The idea here is to get them hooked to you. If they are, then even if they're looking for something casual, they might think of sticking for a longer period. No matter how hook-up cultured your date is, if you show that you're independent, smart, fun, and there's some mystery, then thought of having something stable with you would cross their mind. And all is well that ends well.
These were some of the things you can do to find something stable in this on-the-move world. As they say, if you want to change the world, change yourself first.