Feeling sexually insatiable? Imagining erotic scenarios that may or may not happen?

Been there, done that. That seems fun though! Not concerning.  

It’s normal for your libido aka *** drive to fluctuate. There will always be days, weeks, months, even years when your *** drive is higher than usual. 

Most of the time, high libido or a higher *** drive is not a problem. Desiring *** more often is human. It doesn’t make you a weirdo.   

What Is Libido?

The sexual desire or the emotional and mental energy associated with *** is called libido. A higher or lower than usual libido can be influenced by:

Psychological factors - stress, anxiety or depressionBiological factors - testosterone and estrogen levelsSocial factors - intimate relationships

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What Is The “Normal” Libido Level?

There are no scales, no universal baseline for measuring libido. You can, of course, have your own personal “normal”. But that too will be a range. A lot of factors can lead to a little or massive shift in your libido including:

Sleep, diet and workoutDaily scheduleMood and mental healthAge Relationship statusHormonesMedication and physical health

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How Do I Detect High Libido

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Since there’s no baseline for “normal” libido, you can’t stick to a number. 

One person may desire *** once a day while someone else might have zero *** drive. Some people desire more *** when they’re relaxed, on a vacation as compared to when they’re working and commuting. 

It’s different for everybody.

The questions you need to ask yourself are—“Do I crave *** more than my personal normal? Have I been feeling friskier than I was earlier? Is my *** drive suddenly higher than my partner’s?” 

This might give you some insight into your libido levels. But other than that, there’s no doctor-approved quiz or test you can take to confirm if your libido is high.

Why Is It “High”, Unexpectedly?

Congratulations! Despite all odds you’ve discovered that your libido is, in fact, high. But why? Perhaps:

Your stress levels are lower than usual

If you’re going through a time of low stress, your libido will likely increase.

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You’re working out

When you exercise regularly, it boosts your confidence, reduces stress and improves sleep. These factors can be responsible for your higher *** drive. 

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Your *** life is good

The more good *** you have, the more your body craves it. All thanks to your hormones. So if someone’s been rocking your world, it’s natural to want *** more often.

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Your mental health is getting better

Growing up in a sexually repressive environment can disconnect you from your libido. 

But going to a *** therapist or mental health professional to work through the awkwardness can help you reconnect to your sexual desires.

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You’ve started, changed or stopped certain meds

Antidepressants and beta-blockers can have a huge impact on libido. You shouldn’t alter or stop such meds without consulting your healthcare provider.  

Substance Use

Consuming alcohol or smoking can lower inhibitions which can result in increased libido in the short term. However, in the long term, alcohol dependency can decrease sexual arousal, performance and satisfaction.

The use of stimulant drugs like cocaine may also increase sexual desire.

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When A High Libido Is Actually A Problem?

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When you think your high libido is a problem or when it starts leading you to act in a way that interferes with the rest of your life, your higher *** drive actually becomes a problem.

For instance, if it’s making you skip work, engage in risky behaviour, cheat on your partner or invest a huge chunk of your savings on *** gadgets, that’s a problem. 

If you feel distracted or unsatisfied even after having *** and masturbating, this might be a bigger concern. 

Work with your mental healthcare professional and come up with a game plan in such a case. 

How To Control Sexual Desire 

If it’s been bothering you, you can try a few things.

Do some self-reflection

Is the libido spike actually bothering you? Is it interfering with your life? Is it making your partner uncomfortable?

Or is your upbringing making you feel guilty about these urges?

Practice mindfulness

*** is stress-relieving. Try to find other, non-sexual ways to de-stress like meditation or yoga. This will bring balance to your life. 

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Include more anaphrodisiacs in your diet

Aphrodisiacs can increase your libido—anaphrodisiacs do the opposite. They’re foods or medications that lower your libido. Consume liquorice, cilantro, corn flakes, Graham crackers, soy and Mediterranean diet to lower your testosterone levels. 

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Direct your energy somewhere else 

That’s a hard one but sustainable. If you pick up a new hobby and truly commit to it, you won’t have hours to think about ***. 

You can get used to something as energy-consuming as a high-intensity workout or as calming as gardening. 

While exercising can help you in investing your physical strength somewhere other than ***, a calming activity will allow your mind to regain control. Both have long term benefits. 

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Interrupt your urges

Much like a cigarette or chocolate, your *** craving also passes when left un-fuelled. When you feel aroused, don’t act on it. 

Instead find a way to divert your thoughts by counting the stars or perhaps, cars. Play a game that will require you to concentrate. Make a list of all the things you love about your partner. 

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Communicate with your partner

If your partner’s *** drive isn’t as high as yours, chances are that your partner is feeling guilty about not being as interested in *** as you are. 

Be honest with them and see if they’re open to frequent date nights. Discuss that you want to connect with them physically and intimately but in a way that makes both of you feel good. 

Make your partner feel like they’re an important part of what you’re going through.

The Bottomline

A high *** drive can add more spice to your love life if your partner is on board. But can it get to a point where it starts interfering with your life? Yes.

As long you’re not hurting anyone or stepping away from your responsibilities to get off, all is well.

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