While finding true love should definitely be your end goal, there are a few things you should set yourself up for, before you go looking for it.
Having mighty real expectations is the key to finding the love you truly deserve and if you don't really know what you want to find, having some solid parameters before is quite valid. Because you never know when you may find love and what you may find in terms for love, but keeping some check-ins handy before you meet someone is always helpful.
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In today's day and age, we all need something to keep us grounded and away from unreal expectations from our partners. Because if we come with a set of over-the-top expectations, we're bound to be disappointed at some point in time in life. If we have a summation of realistic expectations that can easily be met by the other person, then we're definitely going to attract a healthy relationship towards us.
So, in lieu of the above, here are 3 things you must do, to give up on some unhealthy expectations you may have, to attract a happy and a stable relationship and a love that lasts long:(1) Have A Set Of Priorities
By priorities, I mean segregate your expectations. Especially of what you really want from your future partner. Always remember though, high expectations are different from unreal expectations. High expectations as long as are achievable should not be shelved. They're made to fulfil your needs and standards after all.
Just make sure that your high expectations aren't unreal. After all, if you're sorted and an established man, you want a woman on the same wavelength and there's nothing wrong with expecting that.
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Always know what you will put up with and what you won't, so you don't take your self-esteem and respect the whole hog when it's not required to.
Sometimes, unknowingly, we do things that are far away from our comfort zone and we really don't need to or have to do them. We do them in order to please the other person. While you most certainly can please them, you don't have to put your self-respect at stake for it.
Try not to compromise on your core values in a relationship and have a set of boundaries marked down to the T. For instance, if you're averse to infidelity and you face something like that in the future, set a boundary to never normalise it in your head, just because your partner messes up or cheats on you.
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Having your core values intact and realising what they are is very important before you meet anyone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Work with tangibles in this situation. For example, if you want children, work out your views on marriage and the kind of lifestyle you want to adapt to when you find the right person. It's important you work on what you need and want before you agree to settle down with someone.
Having a conversation about the same with your future partner is healthy but that can only happen if you clearly understand what your needs and wants are and you need to know them way before and be certain about them.
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The key is not to have everything in common with your future partner. The key is to lock down everything you want to set for yourself so you and she can have a smooth life together, even if you don't have much in common.
If you respect each other's choices and live your life the way you want to, you can still make a great couple and have a healthy relationship. For that, these three pointers come in handy and if you do these three things before falling in love, you're definitely sorted for life!