Unrequited love can be daunting. Essentially because it's a lonesome feeling and is never or partially returned. When you experience love that has become corrosive or toxic or is one sided, it's very unpleasant to deal with these feelings and more often than not you want to wish them away. Sometimes you'd desperately want to wish to not be in love with that particular person but you can't help feeling a certain way.
Feelings have a direct link to the mind and more often than not, if your mind is strong you can control how you feel towards something. If you let your mind take over your conscious or sub conscious self, you give it absolute control, becoming a slave to your thoughts and feelings. So, in order to control the way you feel, you need to strengthen the mind. Falling out of love with someone works on the same principle. I know you may feel why should anyone fall out of such a beautiful, cathartic feeling. But love isn't always beautiful. Once scathed, it takes a long while for it to become whole again.
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So, in case you really want to fall out of love with someone, I definitely can't do some voodoo magic but I can give you some helpful tips in order to successfully let go and feel complete again and to fall out of a strong emotion.
Here are 5 ways you can tune your mind in to falling out of love with someone.(1) Do Some Exercises To Strengthen Your Mind
When your mind is strong, you'll be able to overcome any feeling that makes you remarkably uncomfortable. It will be a lot easier to let go of how you feel towards something or balance it in your head. Learning a skill is a good way to stay focused and improve mind strength. It also serves as a good distraction! You can learn how to repair a car or cook. Each skill occupies the mind in such a way, it makes it more efficient with time, making it easy to let go of an unsuitable emotion. Mind exercises are fun and let's face it, some of us really need them!
© Pintrest(2) Write Them A Letter But Don't Send It
Sometimes things become way messy if you keep spilling your anger towards someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings. In such a case, what I'd suggest is for you to write down everything you're feeling in the form of a letter for the other person but don't send it to them. At least not yet.
You can detach yourself from all the negative emotions and anger by spilling them in a letter, where you say anything and everything that comes to mind. This helps as the best release mechanism and lets you vent out every possible painful emotion you hold towards them. Maybe when you're over this feeling you can send them the letter, but by then you'd be over them and there wouldn't really be a need.(3) Pay Them No More Attention
This is the best and the toughest way to fall out of love with someone. Just pay them no more attention and your mind on an autopilot will follow suit. You have to consciously decide to not give them anymore attention and that's tough because you are so used to focusing on their needs and wants. It's time to focus on yours and stop paying any heed to them. You need to stop ruminating on the past and think about how great or nice this person was. This is the past and it's never coming back, so it's best to focus on yourself and your future.
© Pintrest(4) Discuss The Situation With An Unbiased Outsider
It's always best to talk about how you feel with a third person so they can give you an absolute unbiased opinion. Make sure though you don't talk to someone who knows the two of you or is a friend of hers. It's best to talk to a therapist as they provide the best analogies and perspectives but in case you don't want to go to one, find a friend who barely knows the situation, a family member or someone you trust and get an opinion from them about how you should let go or fall out of love.
© AA films(5) Remember that 'Nothing Good Gets Away'
In a letter to his son, John Steinbeck once said 'nothing good gets away' and that's the best rationale you can find when you're falling out of love with someone. What it means is, if you were meant to be in love with someone and the person was meant to reciprocate your feelings, then it wouldn't go away no matter what. But the reason that it's fizzled out is because the person is probably not right for you and if she was, it wouldn't get away.
In simpler terms, everything good or bad, happens for a reason and if it's meant to be , it will definitely fall in to place. So, if you're falling out of love with someone, you may fall in love with someone else, which will probably be good for you too!
Yes, I agree falling out of love with someone is difficult. I only say this because I have gone through it and it's taken a lot of effort, emotional to and fro and certain realisations to reach that point of no return. But once you reach it, it's liberating like no other and it makes you feel like you've shed the old skin and you're never going to do it again!