While you may assume 'Game of Thrones' is only about death and war, you're definitely forgetting the most basic nuance that binds the show together- love. Subtle and fierce underlines of transparent and opaque love have been ruling the premise of the series since season 1 and many of us, if not connected or related to it have definitely been drawn towards the enigmatic relationships the characters have shared amongst them.
For instance GoT has gone crucially transparent in displaying Ygritte's love for Jon with her popular dialogue "I am yours and you are mine. If we die, we die but first let's live", telling us that love still strives within uncertainties and the harshest of situations. In the same breath, the subtle dynamic between Grey Worm and Missandei has an involuntary opposed view, as none of them really come forward with what they feel for the other, even though they do indulge in intimacy.
'Game of Thrones', besides war and triumph, has given us immense lessons in love, which some of us may have overlooked in time. But if you really think about it, these lessons are lifelong and altering enough to pay some amount of heed towards them.
Here are 5 crucial yet controversial things about love Game of Thrones taught us.(1) You Can't Help Who You Fall In Love With
That's the beastly truth about life and it's all over the GoT narrative too. For instance, Cersei and Jaime's intense love affair is an indignant proposition for others who know of it, because the two are siblings. But Jaime's heart bleeds for Cersie, even though he knows her actions aren't just. In the same lieu, Tyrion's love for the brothel worker Shae, who betrayed him even though he wanted to protect her.
We really can't help who we fall in love with because love is the most definite and uncontrollable emotion we have amidst us. We can reap from the consequences or we can regret everything we've felt but controlling it is not in our hands and that is something GoT stresses on time and again, with multiple equations indulging in daring love.
(c)HBO(2) Unrequited Love Is Painful
Yes, we all know one-sided or unrequited love is very painful. It's worse when it doesn't just go away and becomes a lifelong baggage to deal with. Most of us have been there but maybe because we're so blinded with the theory of love, we seldom forget what it does to us. GoT has officially made us realise the repercussions of unrequited love and they aren't very pleasant.
Don't get me wrong, most of it is beautiful. To be in love with just one person and feel so strongly for someone is beautiful at its own cost. Like how Jorah Mormont was in love with his Khaleesi for eternity. But sometimes obsessive and tainted love breeds toxicity, just like how Littlefinger's love did for Catelyn Stark. He may have loved her all his life but because he couldn't have her he ruined families and destroyed lives, as subtly as he could. But unrequited love is a powerful thing and GoT certainly teaches us that.
(c)HBO(3) True Love Does Exist
If you've turned cynical about love from one bad relationship, then you weren't really in love. Because true love, even if it doesn't work out, remains as the most special endeavour you've been through because it's a journey no one else can experience for you. So, if you're heartbroken and have turned against love, maybe true love is yet to hit you. That's the relationship that Ned Stark shared with his wife Catelyn Stark tells us, to a great extent. They loved each other immensely, respected each other's wishes and desires and honoured each other tremendously. If that isn't true love, we're not sure what is.
(c)HBO(4) You Don't Fall In Love Just Once
While love is a unique feeling, it doesn't occur just once. If you've been in love with one person and are spending your life with them, then that's a different thing altogether. But if you've been in love before and have drastically come out of it, there are chances of falling back in to it, with someone else and there isn't a hard and fast rule about it.
It's true when we think of Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen. Both were in love with different people and both lost them in some form of battle, and yet, they came together and fell in love with each other, years later. So, if you're going through a heartbreak and think you'll never fall in love again, think again!
(c)HBO(5) *** Doesn't Govern Love
While *** is important in a relationship or in true sanctimonious love, 'Game of Thrones' teaches us that it's not the most important factor ruling how you feel for someone. It shouldn't be positioned that way, to say the least. *** might be enjoyable and something to look forward to but when an unsullied man and a woman of importance fall in love, *** has nothing to do with it.
When Missandei decided to give Grey Worm English speaking lessons, she had no idea what was in store for them. Her assumption of the fact that he's an unsullied soldier without a ***** will never let him see her in the way she probably wants to be seen. But even so, Grey Worm stares at her naked body when she's taking a bath and eventually they get intimately attached, even though they can't have ***. This tells us that all relationships start with a purity that can't be defined or be adulterated by assumptions and expectations and even with the lack of ***, it's still mighty beautiful and meaningful.
'Game of Thrones', even though set a million years ago, has definitely thought us a lot about modern day love. A will to stay and make a relationship work, the will to deal with one-sided love and the will to stay strong with the wrong kind of love and every time we delve deeper in to the projection of each relation, we realise it truly reflects what society has become today. So, take a minute and think about these 5 essential things, that will help you when you do decide to understand what love really is.