Electricity in the air.
You. Your date.
You look deep into each other's eyes.
Ah, the magic of the first date!
First dates are all about shy glances, getting to know each other, thinking about how to broach a topic and constantly trying to gauge what's going on in the other person's mind.
But are first dates really all that about beauty, naivety and nervous charm?
First dates are strenuous. The anticipation, the nervousness, the struggle to put your best foot forward. No one wants to make a bad impression on the first date. Like the cliché goes, the first impression is the last impression.
But sometimes, no matter how hard you try, things do not work out in the way you want them to. Blame it on yourself, or the other person, the universe or just plain dumb luck, the fact that the date is ruined won't change.
A first date does have a lot of potential, though we give too much importance to it, sometimes more than necessary, it is the first initiation in the world of dating.
Don't worry. If it's meant to be, it'll happen even if it got ruined once.
No one forgets their first date, especially if it was a bad one.
We asked six men their worst first date experience and we were mighty surprised and quite amused by what we found:1. The Blind Date:
“It was a blind date. Though we had decided not to look at each other's pictures before the date, I ended up checking her profile on Facebook. Cut to the day of the date, I was running a bit late. I saw her seated at one of the booths of the café. As I approached her, she mistook me for the waiter and asked for a glass of water. Taken aback, I meekly poured the water in her glass and quietly walked away. “Bhaiya, paani yaha lago do please” still rings in my ears. Needless to say, we never dated again.” - Chinmay, 242. The Unknown Occurrence:
“I met this girl at a friend's birthday party. We hit it off instantly. I was attracted to her and I could tell that she was too. After a few days of talking on WhatsApp, I finally plucked the courage to ask her out. She said yes and we decided to go for lunch. Lunch progressed smoothly and we made plans for a movie. I was very happy with the way things had turned out. After the movie, as I walked her back to her place, she launched into a tête-à-tête about her current boyfriend of three years. I was completely shocked because I had assumed her to be single. I dropped her home and couldn't believe what had happened. No brainer, never went out with her again.” -Krishna, 243. Sweet Nothingness:
“I met her through mutual friends, and I was blown away by her personality. I asked her out. On the date, I was at my charming best: witty jokes, quick banter, making her laugh. All the works. During dessert, as I was doing my impression of Marlon Brando from “The Godfather” which she was immensely enjoying, I gestured a bit too excitedly and upset the entire hot chocolate sauce which the waiter had just arrived with onto my lap and my shirt. With an incredulous look as I glanced at her, while thoroughly embarrassed and valiantly trying to not scream as the warm liquid trickled down me, I found her laughing her head off. Till today, I can't see chocolate sauce the same way again.” -Shyam, 234. The Inception:
“We met online. After chatting for a few months, we thought that going on a date was the inevitable next step. We started off quite good as the months of talking had helped us break the initial hesitation of being awkward. As we talked, the talk turned to sci-fi movies. We started debating on the possible end of “Inception”. We both had different views on the matter and we both thought we were correct. Matters started worsening as our theories didn't match. No one was backing down. We started arguing vehemently resulting in both of us leaving the restaurant in a huff. We haven't spoken since. Leonardo DiCaprio owes me an explanation.” -Sayantan, 255. Best Friend Forever:
“I met this girl in the first year of college. She was cute and I liked her a lot. After much speculation, I finally asked her out. She seemed to be thrilled by the prospect. So was I. The date started normally, we were both extremely nervous and making small talk. Everyone around us could make out that the date wasn't going well. Still, we were trying to act casual. Suddenly, her best friend magically turns up at the same restaurant. I did not think much about it. The friend then proceeded to sit down with us (insert awkward look) and started interrogating me about myself. It was awkward. Then, my date abruptly started crying. The friend then looked at me as if I had done something terrible. They left without a word. I do not know what the matter was till today. Now, when we pass each other in the corridors we just pretend that the other doesn't exist.” -Adwait, 206. Beauty And The Beast:
“There was this extremely beautiful colleague of mine. Exceptionally beautiful. We were both freshers in the company. Every time I saw her, I would become utterly self-conscious and act stupid. One fine day, she asked me out. I was over the moon. How could I be so lucky? Ridiculously happy, I prepared for the date. On the fateful day, I was a nervous wreck trying to do all the things right. She seemed genuinely interested in me. I was sweating profusely and thus, I politely excused myself to go to the washroom. When I came back, I was surprised to see that she was going through my phone, which I had left on the table. She had managed to unlock it and was viewing my photo gallery in a very nonchalant way. To top it off, she had also eaten more than half of my fries. I was stunned. She looked up and with a smile on her face said “Oh! You are back!”, gave me my phone back as if nothing had happened. My crush on her evaporated as quickly as it had come. Sometimes, appearances can be deceptive. And they can eat your fries too” -Alex, 27
What was your first date disaster? Let us know!