Many things change as time marches on. Slavery was abolished, the man went to the moon, phones and tech became portable, the internet brought us closer. But through all this change EVERYONE still enjoys having ***.
An important pre-requisite to having *** is the dating game, which too has changed in recent years, and is certainly not what it used to be even a decade ago.
Here are our 10 rules of modern dating all men should at least be aware of in 2019:(1) Confidence Not Cockiness
Confidence is eternal, but a cocky person is an entitled brat, with insecurities. Right out of the gate, let's establish that confidence is a quality that is a must-have if one is going to seek out the correct partner(s). Confidence is not an inherent trait in everyone and is acquired through exploration of self and individual skills.
This is, however, a double-edged sword. Being cocky sometimes is alright when you have the chops to back it up but no one likes somebody who is cocky 24/7. The modern woman doesn't find cocky attractive. Confidence with humility is the way to go for 2019.
© Getty Images(2) Get Bumble
As far as dating apps go, Tinder has been a mainstay for quite some time. For those of you living under a rock, there now exist apps that allow us to carousel prospective suitors/matches with a flick of a finger. Bumble ups the ante by making itself more user-friendly.
On Bumble, women find your profile, swipe to like, and must initiate the conversation with the men of their liking. If this is not progressive thought, I don't know what is. A must have in 2019.
© Getty Images(3) Be Honest & Transparent
This is an old trope. But it is a golden one too. If you, like many others, enjoy the thrill and stress of dating multiple partners simultaneously, it will be far easier to manage the several women in your life if you are honest. Hiding your phone, sneaky phone calls, shady texting apps are all contributors to having a stressful love life.
Be honest about your intentions and feelings, if she reciprocates and accepts you for you – amazing. If not, just keep in mind you don't want to be the kind of person that hurts someone. Being honest and transparent is the key.
© Getty Images(4) Be Interesting By Developing Your Personality
Being unique is not as tough as you might think. Work on becoming a well-rounded person. Go travel, experience different cuisines, have unique capabilities, go for a cross-country drive, take a yoga class, climb a mountain; be a connoisseur of life. Do things that give you more depth as an individual. Not only will this help when talking to women but, also in the long run. By being in these unique environments, you never know whom you may meet. Maybe a possible love interest is born out of mutual interest.
© Getty Images(5) Get Creative With Dates
Drinks and dinner is classic, but boring. Think out of the box when planning your dates; breakfast in pyjamas, a live music show, stand-up comedy, or perhaps, karaoke? The point is, be bold with your choices. Be yourself, and find someone who appreciates you for who you are and your interests.
© Getty Images(6) Humour Goes A Long Way
A good sense of humour is a trait that increases your viability as a long-term partner. In the short term it has a more important benefit – if you can make your date laugh, you can ease the tension and awkwardness that is typical of first dates.
Making the date fun can increase your chances of a second date. Which, in turn dramatically increases the odds of you getting laid. Most importantly, though, if it doesn't go well, you'll know how to laugh it off!
© Getty Images(7) Be In Shape & Dress Well
Well, in line with our opinion of confidence, a fit physique will also help overcome any perceived insecurities when approaching women. Atop the healthy you, be sure to wear sharp & fitted clothes that make YOU feel good. Simply put, if you dress and feel like a million bucks, others will want to know what's in your cup too.
© Getty Images(8) Practice Makes Perfect
The entire saying is 'perfect practice makes perfect'. Since perfection in the dating game is unknowable, it is best to keep the charm on as often as you can. Dealing with clients and dates isn't too different. At the end of the day, you have to sell yourself to them. Be suave, cool and composed. Don't let the possibility of rejection make you desperate. If they don't like what you're selling, move on. Focus on finding someone who values what you have to offer, and won't be able to resist that curated charm.
© Getty Images(9) Don't Make Assumptions
Do not assume anything. We mean anything. Don't assume she's looking to be monogamous. Don't assume she drinks. Don't assume she doesn't drink. Don't assume texting early is a no-no. Don't assume you are the only one on her radar. Do not assume she likes bad boys or nice guys. Do NOT assume anything!
© Getty Images(10) Chivalry 2.0
The line between chivalry and chauvinism has been blurred. Systemic patriarchy has only served as the constant fuel on the fire that is the male-female dynamic in the 21st century.
A sensitive topic nowadays with all the #MeToo horror stories, some men have developed a genuine apprehension to dating with respect to how we should behave, given that we feel our gender is being torn down at every turn. However, in spite of the perceived bad apples, as men, we must be courteous, chivalrous and charming. Holding the door open, treating people with respect, offering to pay for the meal are all classics and will never go out of style.
In a world full of assholes, hold yourself to a better standard. Women will respond to a man with solid morals and principles.