Have you ever felt frustrated when your girlfriend, during an argument, tells you that you are not a good boyfriend?
Have you ever felt intense jealousy when she compares you to a fictional character and sighs, ruing the fact that why can't you be as romantic as them?
If your answer to the above questions is “Yes”, then this post is just the one for you.
Often, while rolling your eyes when something romantic happens on screen (with your girlfriend slyly pointing out how great a boyfriend the character is), you contemplate whether the term “good boyfriend” is a myth.
The truth is that you can hardly compare to a fictional boyfriend; the charm, the intensity, the articulation, the good looks, everyone is not blessed with all of these.
And even though your girlfriend is well aware of this fact, people can hope, can't they?
(Don't act like you have never compared her to Hermione or RobinScherbatsky :P)
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Oft-misunderstood and perpetually trying to achieve the perfection required by the girlfriend, being a boyfriend seems like quite a job, eh? :P
But that doesn't mean that every character in fiction, or to be precise, every fictional boyfriend is the stuff of dreams and are faultless. They, like real people, make wrong choices, have fights, do the wrong thing.
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In fact, all these years, through various series, novels and movies, we have seen a parade of superficially great fictional boyfriends who get the girl. And the girl seems happy with him.
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After multiple viewings and thorough character analysis, this is the truth we arrive at:
All this while, they have been masquerading as perfect boyfriends who can do no wrong while in reality, they are terrible human beings.
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So, the next time your girlfriend accuses you of being a bad boyfriend, you can tell her that there are still worse ones out there, and you have fictional characters to back you up.
Here are 12 of the worst boyfriends in fiction:1. Ted Mosby (How I Met Your Mother):
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Intense, dedicated, romantic. He is the most relatable guy on TV.
Could there be anything wrong with Ted Mosby?
Ted Mosby (Josh Radnor) is one of those people who keep whining because they are not in a relationship and when they are in a relationship, they whine about how it was better being single.
He is that proverbial nice guy who makes you feel bad about yourself.
Ted is the textbook definition of obsequious; he lets people walk all over him in a relationship just so they continue to be in one with him.
No doubt that Ted loves with passion and no one else can love as Ted does, but he lets his emotions get the better of him.
His ambition to be perfect always comes in the way of his love. Moreover, he tries to manipulate the person he is dating in his own way and throws a tantrum every time they don't concede.
He is sweet, but he tries too hard to prove that he is good and better than the rest of the men on the planet.
He is narcissistic in the worst possible way, which overshadow his good qualities.
In his quest of becoming the “Best Boyfriend Ever,” he hardly thinks about others, in fact about the girl he is dating.
His over the top gestures might seem romantic but he but it just comes across as annoying.
The biggest problem is he knows what's wrong with him but conveniently chooses to ignore it.2. Mr Big (*** and the City):
Oh, where can I start on Mr Big (Chris Noth)?
He is perhaps the modern equivalent of Mr Darcy, but a very abominable one.
He is handsome, smart, rich and articulate.
But all these have no value when you are a douchebag.
After proclaiming to Carrie that he is no ready for a serious relationship, he ends up getting married to the next woman he runs into.
He is commitment-phobic; he finds relationships stifling and he has no qualms in starting an affair with Carrie when he is married.
He is unsure of his own feelings and never says what he means, tries to hide the fact that he is dating from other people because others may judge him for the person he's dating. He never seems to care for Carrie or any of his wives.
He loves Carrie but is never sure about it and brings out the worst in her (leaving aside the fact that Carrie is terrible herself) and even after a long, long, long courtship leaves her at the altar.3. Joe Goldberg (You):
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The personification of the “Nice Guy Syndrome”.
The more you say about Joe (Penn Badgley, who seems to be cursed to play bad boyfriends, but he does it so well), the less it is. He may be the guy next door, but he is the type who doubles up as a murderer/stalker (talk about multi-tasking :P).
He seems to take the notion of loving someone to death quite literally, that“someone” usually turning up dead.
Yes, all of it is not his fault, Beck isn't completely innocent, but killing another person isn't justifiable. Doesn't really qualify him to be “Boyfriend of the Year”.
Worse is he thinks himself to be the victim and justifies his murdering people with being a “protector”.
He is a sociopath: he schemes all his movements to the tee and tries to show himself in the best light possible and can lie with élan. He sweet-talks, fakes the good boy act and gaslights with alarming ease.
He is delusional; after only a chance meeting and superficial flirtation, he believes that Beck is meant for him and they met because of some plan, that she belongs to him, then tries to manipulate everything in order to achieve that, eventually even choosing violence on the way to get her.4. Damon Salvatore (The Vampire Diaries):
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Sexy vampires cannot hold a candle to the suave and debonair Damon Salvatore (Ian Somerhalder). He is a different kind of bad boy: the supernatural bad boy; not only is he wicked but he also is a vampire (what more can you ask for, right? :P)
This does not change the fact that Damon is not the perfect boyfriend material. He is selfish, possessive and fights dirty, is abusive (*drinks blood*) and has the worst possible track record in dating.
To his credit, he is not afraid to declare it and that is where the problem is; he is too invested in his interests to care about his partner or anyone for that matter.
He loves Elena with a fierce intensity which quickly transforms from compelling to dangerous.
His desire for Elena stems from the fact that his brother also wants her; he fights for her, not because he loves her but because he hates to lose.
To him, Elena is a prize to be won over, not an equal partner. That is hardly the foundation of a good relationship.
5. Don Draper (Mad Men):
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Don (Jon Hamm) is possibly the king of bad boyfriends, a poster child of what a fuckboy should be. He continually cheats on his wife (because why not, it's the '50s, right?), lies to her and treats her with as much respect as people give to a doormat.
A true womanizer, one who would put Casanova to shame, he has a string of girlfriends whom he does not care about and are mostly for his sexual gratification.
He tries to run away from responsibilities and can hardly be true to someone.
He thinks that money solves all his problems and just spending it or throwing it around on people makes up for all his mistakes.
To be true, he is a *** addict and a psychopath, with little regard for the feelings of the person he is involved with. Moreover, he is dominating (again the '50s) and can never let the woman have the upper hand or her opinion for that matter.
His dangerous charm, good looks and devil-may-care attitude seem good on paper, but does it hold up in real life?
He might be the best advertising mind out there (his only redeeming quality), but an advertisement about his skills as a boyfriend won't take off in the market anytime soon.6. Jess Mariano (Gilmore Girls):
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Ah, the messiah of bad boys!
Brooding, hot and a lover of books makes Jess (Milo Ventimiglia) the perfect fictional boyfriend, but nothing can be further from the truth.
Of all of Rory's boyfriends, he is the brashest and most uncouth. He is rude to everyone; his teen angst is misplaced, and his self-assuredness is annoying. His rebel without a cause attitude seems appealing only to Rory, who is blind to his emotional manipulation.
He is perhaps the worst “bad boy” trope out there: exasperating the girl he is interested in until she gives in.
He makes Rory break up with Dean, with his apparently nonchalant run-ins and woos her by showing how much they have in common, but once he makes her his girlfriend, he takes her for granted and starts ignoring her, doesn't call her back and becomes increasingly rude.
To top it off, he tries to force her to have *** with him and gets angry when she declines and runs off to California.
Though he seems to have finally turned a new leaf in the reboot, Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life.7. Rhett Butler (Gone With The Wind):
Well, we all know that Rhett (Clark Gable)“frankly doesn't give a damn”. And he means it.
A roving eye, a cavalier attitude and a megalomaniacal nature hardly come together to make a good boyfriend.
But he is glib, a smooth talker and says what he means and yes, that is very sexy. That's what makes him so desirable to Scarlett O'Hara.
Then again, talking is so much easier than doing, isn't it?
He is prejudiced, he belittles Scarlett throughout the novel/movie, demeans her (Scarlett isn't exactly the faultless heroine either) and worries only about himself.
Just like his slippery talk, his qualities and personality are also “gone with the wind”.8. Nate (The Devil Wears Prada):
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The most annoying character in “The Devil Wears Prada” has to be Nate (Adrian Grenier), Andy's seemingly perfect (with a slight clothing fetish), saintly (*ahem*) boyfriend.
He sulks around the screen like a petulant 5-year-old whose candy has been snatched away.
His tantrums are worse than Miranda Priestly, he can easily give her a run for her money in that department.
He ridicules Andy every chance he gets; about her job, demeans her job, never supports her and masks it with a veil of fake concern for her.
He keeps telling her that she has changed, like that is a bad thing, because she doesn't cater to his every need like she used to.
He tries to make her feel bad for choosing her career over him though he has no problem in doing the same and is angry with her when she stands up for herself.
He seems very sweet and encouraging but that's a façade for his insecure personality.9. SteveHarrington (Stranger Things):
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Steve Harrington (Joe Kerry) is the best babysitter in all of Hawkins. Fashion expert par excellence. Dedicated mother hen to the Stranger Squad.Awesome big bro to Dustin.
But as a boyfriend, he is a jerk.
Though he does realize his mistake later on (sadly after Nancy has moved on), his abysmal treatment of Nancy (and Jonathan) in the first season makes one's blood boil. He is one of those entitled jocks who run around making others miserable.
Also, when Barb dies, he is flippant about it and his lack of emotion is appalling. The indifference about it plays a major role in Steve and Nancy's break-up.
He loves Nancy but he has an odd way of showing it; he pushes her to be cool and let down her inhibitions, but he also wants to control her. He wants Nancy to be more free about herself, loosen up, but forgets that she is a reserved person and they need time to open up.
As of Season 2, he has redeemed himself as a person, but not as a boyfriend. Ah well, there's still the next season.10. Ross (Friends):
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Ross “We were on a break!” Geller (David Schwimmer) is the epitome of the “Nice Guy Syndrome” (A well-natured cousin of Joe Goldberg in that way).
He suffers from intense jealousy, can't seem to comprehend that his girlfriend can have a life which does not revolve around him.
He hangs on for Rachel for 10 years, until she gives in. People might call it persuasive and romantic, I say it is borderline stalkerish and psychopathic.
He tries to justify his atrocious behaviour by blaming the people around him and tries to prove himself right on a technicality. He does not trust his girlfriends, even though he is hardly perfect.
He is extremely conflicted about the possibility of being wrong and thinks himself to be blameless. Touchy about his masculinity is just another feather in his boyfriend's cap.
His goofy ways are supposed to be endearing but they don't come across as extremely childish and irksome (at least to me :P).
Even when he is not in a relationship with Rachel, he keeps sabotaging her relationships and behaves abominably when he finds out that she is dating Joey.11. John Willoughby (Sense and Sensibility):
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John Willoughby (Greg Wise) is handsome, chivalrous, classy, eloquent and can make girls go weak in the knees.
He can read poetry with dramatic intensity and gusto, he can be effectively charming and speaks with unnatural grace and economy.
Granted everything, that doesn't change the truth that he is a flake; a spineless gold-digger who would rather be married to an heiress than to the supposed love of his life who is penniless.
He leads Marianne on, takes her on wild horse-rides, is extremely romantic with her, makes her feel that he loves her but does not tell her the truth about himself.
Instead, he breaks her heart and goes off to London and ceases communication.
When they meet in London again, after Marianne's unsuccessful but relentless attempts to communicate with him, he is cold and acts aloof.
The reason? He has been engaged to Miss Grey, who has a formidable fortune and tells her that there was nothing between them. Classic case of “literary fuckboy”: leading on for personal gain.
Not only that, he impregnates Eliza, Colonel Brandon's adopted daughter, and runs off leaving her pregnant and helpless. Not so gallant after all!12. Lucas Scott (One Tree Hill):
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One word: Indecisive.
A total and complete jerk! No doubts on this one, please.
Lucas (Chad Michael Murray) is like a child with a shiny, new toy: He knows what he wants but doesn't want to work for it. Once he gets what he wants, he doesn't want it.
He cheats on his girlfriend repeatedly; does so just before proposing to Lindsay and pulls the quintessential “sleeping with the best friend” when he is with Brooke.
He knows that he wants Peyton, but when he finally ends up with her, he behaves in a weird way with her.
He has no remorse and is selfish, he just needs what's good for him and does not care what happens to others.
Moreover, he thinks that making a grandiose speech about how he loves someone is enough to make the other person forgive him.
So, there you have it. Who's the worst according to you? Tell us in the comments!