You may be scouring all the dating apps out there only to end up with zero matches. Zilch. Nothing. No, nothing is wrong with you. Let’s get that out of the way first. Before you blame the algorithm, there is another possibility why the dating apps never seem to work for you. There could be something wrong with the way your profile looks.
Take it from a woman who has used dating apps and been a subject to cringeworthy profiles a lot of times. I don’t wish that for you so let’s fix your dating problem by fixing your dating profile. Here are 5 reasons that are keeping you from getting a match on a dating app and how you can fix it.
© iStock1. You have a boring bio or you’re trying too hard
An uninteresting bio is as off-putting to women as one that seems like you are trying too hard. Even if your profile picture is killer, your bio can mess it up for you. When a girl comes across your profile, she doesn’t want to read quotes that she can find on Google or worse, behind a truck. Avoid things like ‘My motto is live, laugh and love’. Keep your bio short, crisp and original or make something up that is funny but tells something about you.
I’ll let you in on a secret. A girl can tell a lot about a guy and his personality just by looking at the pictures he puts. Nothing makes her swipe left faster than a shirtless selfie or a childhood photo of you (that belongs in your family photo album). Gym photos are complete no-no, even if you have a smokin’ body. It doesn’t hurt to be subtle about your hotness, especially on a dating app. Instead, put aesthetic SOLO photos of you, maybe some travel pictures or just you in your element that don’t come off as trying too hard.
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Putting only a couple photos when you can add five or six and missing out on information about you like passions and interests or things that could give her a sneak peak on what she’s swiping right to, is the most common mistake guys make. In other words, it is the first step to a lifetime of singlehood. An half-assy profile would make her think you don’t use the app much, aren’t active or uninterested and rest assured, she won’t bother.
For Hinge and Bumble users, you have a great opportunity to get creative with questions. However, guys often stick to the cliches like ‘unpopular opinion: pineapple on pizza’ or ‘together we could: Netflix & Chill’. Also, steer clear of vague answers like ‘I know best places in town for: Brunch’. Be witty, random and specific to make your profile as personal as you can. That, my friend, is what will pique her interest in knowing more about you.
Women like men who are chill, sweet and positive. I mean, we need someone to deal with our random mood swings, not walk away and tell us off. A lot of guys try to play hard or seem cool by choosing prompts like ‘don’t swipe right if…’ or ‘You should *not* go out with me if’ and answering them with even snobbing things. You are only making her run, instead of drawing her into having a conversation with you.
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Remember that on most dating apps, men outnumber women and the chances of you standing out in her ‘new matches’ section is all that matters. Good luck!