Therapy, formally known as psychotherapy or counselling, helps individuals deal with their problematic behavioural patterns, emotions and unresolved developmental issues among several other stressors as well.

With the help of a therapist, one can make their way towards resolving certain deep seated psychological problems that they face. This in turn can immensely improve the quality of life as well as make way for the best version of themselves.

But despite its potential benefits, what makes men less likely to approach therapy? 

1. Need To Look Tough 

A lot of men genuinely believe that most of their problems can be resolved by being tough. By presenting a facade of toughness they push away anyone who tries to approach them about their problems with the intention of helping them. Apparently seeking or needing help isn’t supposed to be considered the standard male behaviour. 

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2. Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

Most men these days acknowledge benefits of therapy. However, they associate it with a certain weakness of ‘character’. In most cases they’d be personally reluctant to approach it due to the stigma associated with men’s mental health issues. 

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3. Difficulty Opening Up

It is an unfortunate rite of passage where boys internalise certain social messages during their formative years. They learn from their parents not to express vulnerability or show a symptom of care. By the time these boys grow up, they’re left unable to trust anyone with their emotions. They’re often confined by their rigid and problematic notions of masculinity. 

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4. Normalisation Of Men Acting Out

Due to the gendering of certain emotions like anger and rage as masculine (sigh), men often choose to vent their issues through them.While no emotion should be avoided, including anger, many men treat it like a crutch to navigate their feelings. This normalisation of men acting out as ‘Men being Men’ prevents them from ever addressing their deep seated issues.

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5. Inability To Express Their Emotions

The first hurdle some men face is that they may be so out of touch with their emotions that they do not even realize that they are going through turbulent times. 

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It is not biologically determined that men would approach therapy less than women, however certain social conditions and influences play a crucial role in their hesitance. Perhaps men can feel more comfortable with the subject of mental health if they  realize how prevalent issues like depression and anxiety are among other men. This would help break the taboo as well as the illusion of toughness.

Therapy can be an important first step to living the most fulfilling version of your life. The support provided by your counselor can help you get rid of toxic habits, improve your ability to make and maintain relationships, and assuage unresolved feelings. 

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