From patriarchal society to intersectional feminism, we are moving in the right direction. We have no right to treat anyone differently based on their gender. Women are as good as men, if not better. From homemakers to CEOs, they are proving their mettle in every field.
Social causes like feminism have urged women to come out of their shell. Feminism isn't about what a woman 'should' do, it's about what a woman 'wants' to do. While some choose to stay at the house and make it a home, others choose to sit in a cabin and lead their company. And some, some choose to do both!
Choice! That's what they should have. That is what everyone should have. These days, Indian women are making a choice to have a nuclear family. They're preferring to stay away from in-laws. While it must not be easy for the older generation to digest, let's see how it makes sense because of these two major reasons:· Interference
The younger generation doesn't have any specific rules about 'it's a man's job'and 'it's a woman's job.' They live life in their own comforting way and do things at their own convenience and pace. The older generation, however, doesn't understand this concept.
Most men don't work in the kitchen before marriage. Post marriage, when a mom sees her son making dinner after coming from the office, she is bound to assume that his wife is making him do this. It won't cross her mind that maybe her son is happily doing it. Modern men have come out of gender-specific roles. They are more than okay with being a helping hand in every aspect of the marriage.
But the older generation is not always too comfortable with it. They just assume that since their son had to change his lifestyle, he might not be happy with how things are. So they have a 'talk' with the wife which leads to unnecessary quarrels.
Parents (both the sides) shouldn't interfere in a marriage unless they are asked. It's about time they stop 'assuming' things just because their children have changed their lifestyle.· Freedom
When a woman is at her home, she can sleep anytime, wake up any time, laze around all day, and do just nothing. The same thing continues (if) she moves in with her boyfriend. We, men, don't really care about any such stuff as long as both the partners are happy.
But when after the marriage if the in-laws come to live with the couple, that freedom goes. No matter how cool the in-laws are, some discomfort and the pressure to 'behave' would always be there. Modern women don't understand sacrificing their freedom. And they aren't wrong. So they prefer to stay away. I am sure even a man won't be completely comfortable living with his in-laws.
After marriage, these two things concern women the most. I am not blaming the older generation here. Because that is how they have seen the world. They were brought up in a gender-specific society. A society where each gender had to live in a certain way. But times are changing now.
Gender doesn't really have a place is the modern relationship. It's all about comfort, compatibility, and love. And that is how it should be!