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We know you like them. We notice you noticing them. And we also know you wish you could spend some quality one-on-one time with them. But despite all of that attention that breasts get, when the time finally comes for you to have a sexy rendezvous, men hardly ever spend more than 2 minutes on it. In fact, breasts become one of the most ignored parts during *** and honestly guys, it’s not cool. Especially since by overlooking them, you’re also overlooking a good chance of making your woman orgasm. © iStock Research says, and by that I mean for almost every woman out there, that breasts are perhaps one of the most sensitive parts in a woman’s body and if you can work your way around them, you can guarantee your girl a climax like never before. Besides, it never hurts to set your camp elsewhere every once in a while and explore the uncharted. Because trust me, it’s the only time ‘tit for tat’ works and how. Here are a few pointers for you (pun intended) to keep in mind the next time you want to make her toes curl without going...into the deep: 1. Grab A Handful © iStock Make your partner and their breasts feel loved by not just caressing them but also holding on to them firmly and with an urgency that will turn them right on. Don’t be afraid to feel them up, squeeze them, kiss them and play around with them. Your partner's expressions while you do that will help you navigate through what they do and do not like. 2. Tip Of The Iceberg © iStock The darker area that encircles the nipple is called ‘Areola’ and it is the part that allows a woman to have the most sensation when played with. Make sure to spend enough time on it by kissing it, licking it and sometimes by even just blowing on it. 3. Temperature Play © iStock Spice things up by introducing a bit of a temperature play in the act. Make use of an ice cube either by placing it right on her breast or by keeping one in your mouth long enough and then kissing her breasts with those cold lips. Her orgasm wouldn’t just be guaranteed, it would be amplified! 4. Add Some Sugar © iStock By that, I mean try eating off of your partner’s breasts and the best items to use for that kind of a play are things like whipped cream, chocolate sauce and, at times, even powdered sugar. A way that will satiate your appetite like no other! 5. Tough Love © iStock Before you go ahead with this one, MAKE SURE your partner has agreed to a little rough play and only when they do should you get down and dirty with it. This can include biting on their nipples (not too hard) and even slapping their tender breasts to stimulate an orgasm. View the full article -
Hate him as much as you like but there is a reason why Badshah is one of the most popular music directors and singers in India. He truly has helped in establishing the careers of a great many numbers of singers that we hear today. The fact that most of their music makes a lot of people want to pour boiling oil down their ears, is a different matter altogether. © Instagram/badboyshah Basically, say what you will, whether good or bad, but Badshah has had an indelible mark on India’s mainstream music scene. One thing that even his haters will have to agree with is that the man knows the business of music inside out. © Instagram/badboyshah Here are a few ways he has impacted India’s music scene. Do keep in mind that although some of them have been for the good, most of them...Well, not so much. The Good1. Reviving Old Folk Music © Sony Music The best thing that Badshah has done with his music is popularising old, forgotten folk songs, and we genuinely wish he continues to with this. Remember that song with Jacqueline Fernandes that he shot, Genda Phool, well the hook of the song, or the refrain, was a line from an old Bengali folk song. Then again, the refrain from his latest single, Baawla, is from another popular Haryanvi folk song that is predominantly sung around Jhajjar. At least he’s reviving these old folk songs at a time when other music directors seem to have forgotten about them. 2. Making Music More Reels Friendly © Instagram/badboyshah Hate it as much as you want, but one of the biggest ways that music is being consumed today is through reels & dub smash-like videos. Because his songs are extremely catchy, and their hooks are earworms, they make for good music for reels or dub-smash content for people who’re into those sort of things. 3. Reinventing Party Anthems Although one cannot credit just Badshah for this, party anthems back in the day used to suck. It would generally be an obscure DJ, mixing up the most popular songs of the year. Musicians like Honey Singh, Badshah & Raftaar at least gave us proper Party Anthems. In the mid 2010s, which then kicked of a trend, or rather a genre of sorts. The Bad1. Not Crediting Original Singers/Crediting After Getting Called Out © Sony Music, BCCL One thing that Badshah is often accused of, is not crediting the people who have ‘inspired his music.’ Basically, the people whose work he has copied, or appropriated, allegedly of course. Only when he is called out on social media by aware and active users, does he share the credit. The credit also often just buried deep into the YouTube description of the music videos. This happened both times, with ‘Genda Phool,’ as well as ‘Baawla.’ 2. Remixing The Crap Out Of Old, Folksy Songs © Sony Music While we are at it, can we just say how much autotune and sound mixing do folk songs really need if they need it at all? There is no other way of saying this, but folk songs lose their essence whenever they are remixed. Don’t get us wrong, folk songs can be remixed. Look at what Coke Studio does regularly, or for that matter, The Dewarists. That’s the way to go. 3. His Lyrics © Instagram/badboyshah We have been over this a gazillion times - Badshah has a long and checkered history with lyrics. Sometimes, they are problematic, and sometimes they are downright creepy. But by and large, they hardly make a coherent sense. His lyrics tend to be a cringefest. Just take a look at his lines around cricket and wicket in Genda Phool. Or for that matter, pick any other of his more recent songs. 4. The Music, Beats Et All © Instagram/badboyshah The tune of the song or the music is the easiest thing to remember about a song. You may forget the name of a song, but you hardly forget the music or the tune of the song. Heck, we’re pretty sure, like all normal people, you’ve wished you could hum a song to Google and find out its name. Badshah’s music isn’t like that. All of them sound the same and are identical to the brain. You seriously cannot distinguish between the music of the songs, they all appear to be the same. This is mainly because when you take the hook or the refrain of the song out, most of them are monotonous, and often have the same sound signature. 5. The Way The Videos Are Shot © Instagram/badboyshah This may be subjective to a lot of people, but most of these music videos that hit 125 million views or 300 million views are shot in a very drab and predictable manner. There will be an expensive car, a private jet, a beautiful face dancing to the song, a heck lot of women dancing to the song in the background, and tons of bling. Badshah may not have started this trend, but he sure has been an equal opportunity offender when it comes to this. There are several underground rappers and ‘undiscovered’ musicians who make far more interesting and visually stimulating music videos, that too on an overall budget that might be less than the money spent on one of these big-ticket music videos. 6. Making Music A Game Of Numbers Again, this is not something that is exclusive to Badshah, but he for sure has been the biggest culprit. Badshah has often claimed that his music videos have broken single-day viewership records. And how is this feat achieved? By playing the songs as ads, sometimes unskippable ads across a wide gamut of audiences. Also, do we need to remind people of the time when Badshah had to record a statement with the police for his involvement in a case of having fake social media followers? View the full article
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I was 26 when the pandemic entered my life. And the way things are going, I’ll be closer to 30 before the pandemic begins showing any signs of respite. The vaccinations have definitely helped ease some of the worries, but despite that, like me, there are many whose outlook on dating has changed forever . A loss of youth or just social anxiety burgeoning from an extended period of being stuck indoors, our dating lives before and after the pandemic feel like different chapters altogether. Here are 5 strange ways how your dating life has changed since the pandemic: 1. Talk The Walk © iStock Dating may have become a lot more meaningful since the pandemic. People actually have to talk more and prove their worth through conversation before the first date is even considered. Suddenly, looks don’t matter as much anymore. Also, you can only feign interest for so long, your pretty face privilege has diminished immensely since 2020. 2. Goodbye Hookup Culture? © iStock If you were someone who participated in the dating world via hookups, there’s some bad news for you. People have become a lot warier and spooked by COVID19, and rightfully so. We’ve been through a lot, and people are looking for safer and more reliable encounters than meaningless flings. 3. Buyer’s Remorse © iStock New relationships and even marriages bloomed during the initial phase of the pandemic. People thought it to be the best time to get hitched, and they’re now experiencing an eerie sense of buyer’s remorse. Spending extended time with their partners during the lockdown has changed how they looked at their committed relationships. 4. Ghosts Of Exes Past © iStock The pandemic really shook the foundations of everything we ever knew. In such situations, stranger danger is absolutely real. We can’t tell who’s safe and who isn’t, so many young serial daters are going back to familiar grounds, with exes feeling like the safest bet in these times. 5. Vaccine Positive © iStock Gone are the days where people were only rejected for their political views, their favourite problematic shows or poor manners. Added to the ever-increasing list of red flags is your lack of vaccination. It’s a brand new game of minesweeper, except these humanised landmines can literally affect your lives. Most dating apps like Bumble and Hinge now allow you to publish if you’ve been vaccinated or not onto your profiles. That checkmark next to your vaccination status might just be the difference between someone swiping left or right on you. Dating may seem a lot different from the carefree days before the pandemic. It almost feels as if people are tired of the superficial and want something more, or maybe I’m just projecting. Hookups suddenly carry a lot more baggage, more than that ex who cheated on you. Speaking of that ex, maybe now’s a good time to get back in touch and find out if they’ve been vaccinated yet or not. View the full article
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We all loove horror movies, right? © WB Okay, okay! Maybe not everyone. Now, while we may all not agree that the idea of watching a horror movie is exactly fun, what we all CAN (italic) agree on, is that people are dumb as f*** in horror movies. © Wayan Bros Entertainment I mean, when we are watching it, we can literally start talking to the characters on the screen, begging them Not To Open That Door, or Not To Look Behind, or Not To Go Out All On Your Own. But guess what? Like Donald Trump throughout this four-year term as the US President, they refuse to f*****g listen! © Reuters Anyway, I felt that for the sake of just making horror movies a tad bit better or for just helping future movie characters to survive better, here are a few simple pointers on How Not To Get Killed In A Horror Movie Haunted House: 1. Turn On The Bloody Lights!Ever wondered what a haunted house would look like if it was properly lit up? Well, not so haunted, to be honest. I mean, let's get one thing straight. Most horror movie haunted houses aren't your Bombay ka 2BHK houses, okay. They're pretty big a** mansions, so that means that the person or family moving into them must be pretty loaded. Bhai! Itna paisa hai, toh just spend a little more money on some good Philips ke lights an? No. Instead, they'll choose to constantly do this, in movies. © WB So, rule number one of surviving a horror movie haunted house? Buy new lights and keep them on! 2. Listen To Your Freaking Kids © Istock Papa and Mummy! This one is for you guys. When a 5-year-old Rahul/Shreya or Ryan/Sarah comes up to you talking about their imaginary friends, it's okay to find it cute. However, it's NOT, Absolutely NOT OKAY if they are saying the same thing at age 15. I mean damn! There could only be two things out of this! Either your son/daughter is having some next-level maal, or your house may actually be haunted. In both cases, you're bound to be in trouble. So LISTEN TO THEM! Also, keeping a track of all horror movies, there is at least one parent who has to act like a total jackass. "Honey, there's nothing there. (Kuch Nahi Hai Waha Pe)". "It's all in your head (Sab Tumhare Dimaag Me Hai)". Well, guess what? These people die first in the movie, as the ghost is probably like, "Believe this, Mofo!" 3. Don't Run Straight, Try Sideways! © Getty Images Now, this is seriously messed up! Be it horror movies, thriller movies, movies where you're normally being chased or even the Game Of Thrones episode where Jon Snow is not able to save his younger brother Rickon from being killed by a bow, because Rickon chooses not to run sideways. (Heartbreaking, yes. Stupid way to die, also yes.) Anyway, you know there is a ghost or a killer behind you and you'd still choose to run straight. It's the easiest way to get killed off in movies. Now, unlike the times when you might have been forced to make a career in engineering or medicine, this time around, you do have a choice. So, choose to go zig-zag, left-right, I don't know, mix it up but go anything but straight! Do it for yourself, dude! Your life depends on it! 4. Don't Buy The House If It's Haunted? © 20th Century Fox I want to know what goes on in the mind of the family moving into a haunted house. Like, what do you exactly smoke before going to the realtor and choosing to buy a house which may be haunted? Realtor: This house has a big pool, good garden. Family: Nah. Realtor: This house has a Jacuzzi. Family: Nah. Realtor: Oh, this house was actually built on an ancient burial ground and there have been 21 killings here ever since. Family: So, when do we move in? (Wink Wink) A couple of million dollars worth of money plus a few hauntings and a thousand screams later, we have a movie about it. So, when in doubt, don't purchase a haunted house! 5. You're Not Sherlock, So Don't Try © Netflix Horror movie characters are legit morons, I tell you. Annoying AF! Remember kids when they are young and you tell them not to stand too close to the road, balcony edge, jump on the beds? Well, the movie characters are just the older, adult-like versions of them. Bhai! Who goes out to say Kaun Hai after hearing a screaming girl like the one from Raaz? She does. © Tips Industries So do most other people in horror movies. End result? You're not in the sequel. Because you're dead. So, for the sake of at least having two horror movies to your name? Don't do this s***. 6. Just Get Out Of The Damn House & Call For Help © Screen Gems There is one thing being independent and another thing to be absolutely batshit crazy! You know you live in a haunted house! The house ghost knows it too! He also knows that you're stupid enough to just keep running inside the house because the floor outside your main door is lava! Don't do this! The ghost is not even running after you because it's busy laughing at the circus. © Wayan Bros Entertainment We know you're on Instagram most of the day, so just message or call a damn friend and before that, just sprint towards the exit door and get out! Because unlike a handpicked few movie characters who manage to survive multiple horror movies in a franchise, you will be killed! View the full article
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3 Ways To Keep Hair Looking Fresh & Non-Greasy When There’s No Time To Wash It
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online News
Being blessed with oily hair is the worst. Don’t wash it for a couple days and you look like your grandma put a bottle of oil in your hair forcefully, which sometimes does happen. It gets even worse when you have an important event or a big date but absolutely no time to wash your hair. That’s when you realise what a bane oily hair is. © iStock You can follow some tips like not fiddling with your hair or combing too much to keep your hair less greasy, but there are times when even that doesn’t help. In case you find yourself going through this struggle often, we have some quick hacks to never have a bad hair day and keep your hair smelling and looking fresh on-the-go. © iStock Here are three fool-proof ways to keep your hair looking good and non-greasy when you have to rush without washing it: Sprinkle Dry Shampoo © iStock The oldest trick in the book is to use dry shampoo when you have no time to use the real one. It’s easy, quick and would help you fake fresh hair. If you do not have dry shampoo, you can also take some baby powder and run it through your scalp until it disappears, making your hair look less greasy and fresher in a giffy. Cornstarch is also another substitute if you don’t have baby powder. Blow-Dry Your Mane © iStock When all fails, grab a blow-dryer and give your flat and oily hair a quick bounce. Brush your hair in the opposite direction while blow-drying it to give it volume and make it look fresh and dryer. If you have long hair, you can also style your hair in a ponytail or a topknot to hide the greasy locks. The Blotting Paper Hack © iStock The real problem with greasy hair is greasy scalp, duh. So get to the root of the problem. Quite literally here. Take some blotting paper and dab it on your scalp. Part your hair different ways and press the blotting paper through them so that it absorbs excess oil and makes your hair look less greasy and would be easy to style too. View the full article -
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5 Honest Ways For Men To Know They've Found Their 'Yaar' For Life
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online News
With the way social media has changed us, we often forget that while we may be speaking to a lot of people, we’re not friends with them, and they’re certainly not our yaar. They’re not the one you thought of when you clicked this headline. Chances are you already have a person in mind and you’re just looking to confirm if your guess is correct. Well then, head on and find out if you’ve found your yaar for life: 1. They Know The 100% Unfiltered You © iStock It’s not necessary for you to have met your yaar years ago. Sometimes a yaar can be someone much more recent than a childhood friend, yet he’s been able to connect with you on a different wavelength. That honesty can be so pure. Conversations don’t seem forced, and you’re comfortable enough to be in your worst condition and hang out with him. 2. Even Their Parents Scold You © iStock Growing up in India, it’s a given that every time you visit your yaar’s place you're greeted with concerned taanay from his parents. It can sound something like “Haan haan, bas jab yeh aata hai, tab hi tumhe humari yaad aati hai.” or “Aa gya aakhir kaar?” 3. You Are Comfortably Weird Together © iStock Let’s be honest. If he’s truly your yaar, then you both know each other's weird sides as well. Your friendship usually involves a lot of inside jokes, which others might not necessarily get it, but they don’t have to. It’s you both against the world. 4. Instant Reconnection When You Speak After A Gap © iStock You’ve realized that you’ve not spoken to your yaar in a while, but you’ve never had to hesitate or second guess sending a text their way. There are no awkward hellos and heyyys and you get straight down to gossip, downloading the latest updates from their lives. 5. Honestly Accountable To Each Other © iStock In this maze that is the experience of growing up, your yaar can feel like someone who knows all sides to you. Beyond the person you project onto society, your yaar is the first one to call you out on your bullshit. And keep you in check. If you can relate to any of these ways, chances are you’ve found your yaar for life! Tag your Yaar in the comments below! View the full article -
An estimated 750,000 divorces take place in the US each year; average cost can range anywhere between $8,400 to $17,500
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Health Benefits Of Cheese & 5 Healthy Ways Of Including It In Your Diet
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online News
You don’t have to be Joey Tribbiani to appreciate a good pizza. Pizza is loved by almost everyone, so much so that it makes us wonder - what makes it so special? If you’re a fan of this delicacy, you know the answer - it’s cheese! Pizza without cheese is like dessert without chocolate. Even though cheese is what makes this food a universal hit, it’s also responsible for giving it the reputation of being “unhealthy”. But is it really that bad for your health? Let’s find out! Health Benefits Of Cheese The truth is that no food is healthy or unhealthy in isolation and cheese is no exception to the rule. However, whether it will benefit you or not will depend on the recipe, the quantity and the variety of cheese you consume. There are many different varieties of cheese available in the market. Feta, goat, parmesan, swiss, blue and mozzarella are some of the most popular varieties of cheese. Giphy.com Cheese in general is a rich source of protein and calcium, while being extremely low in carbohydrates. This is what makes it a healthy option for people on a low-carb diet. However, cheese is also a rich source of saturated fats and sodium, both of which are needed in very limited quantities. Because of its nutritional value, cheese is considered good for reducing blood pressure, gaining muscle, lowering risk of type 2 diabetes and strengthening bones. In fact, researchers also suggest eating about 40 grams of cheese per day to improve heart health. It also helps in improving immunity and gut health, all thanks to the probiotics. © MensXP How To Include Cheese In Your Diet © iStock Whether cheese can really be healthy for you or not will also depend on the entire recipe. A well balanced meal should have a good ratio of macro and micronutrients. Here are some tips that you can follow while preparing your healthy meals with cheese: 1. Adding Cheese In Salads If you’re someone who doesn’t like salads, adding cheese is a great way of improving the taste of it. Just cut up your cheese into even cubes and drop them in your salad. Feta cheese is very popularly used in healthy salad recipes and tastes delicious. __ECOMPRODUCT__2194__ 2. Add Cheese To Your OmelettesIf you’re looking for a healthy, protein-rich breakfast option, go for this one. Adding cheese to your regular omelette or any other type of eggs, will not only make it richer but also yummier. Make sure to go for a low-fat cooking oil and your healthy cheesy meal is ready. __ECOMPRODUCT__2195__ 3. Replacing Red Meat With Cheese We know that excluding any kind of meat from your diet is a bit too much for any non-vegetarian. However, you can reduce the consumption for the sake of your heart. Red meat evidently increases the risk of heart attacks. Replacing it with cheese will help you get in the healthy fats and protein, without risking your heart health. __ECOMPRODUCT__522__ 4. Have Cheese With Fruits If you pair your cheese and fruit the right way, this can be a great healthy snack option for you. Watermelon and Feta, Raspberry and Cream Cheese, Mango and Goat Cheese and Apple and Cheddar are some good pairings that you can try. __ECOMPRODUCT__2196__ 5. Have Cheese With Vegetables If you love cheese, you need to have some baked vegetable and cheese recipes up your sleeves. They are healthy, nutritious and perfect for anyone trying to lose weight. Broccoli, peppers and eggplant are some of the many vegetables that go well with cheese. __ECOMPRODUCT__2197__ The Bottomline Having cheese is healthy but only if you eat it in moderation and pair it with the right foods. Instead of going for your usual pizzas and pasta, go for healthier alternatives instead. This will not only help you devour cheese but also make healthy food taste delicious. Are you a fan of cheese? Let us know in the comments below! Explore More View the full article -
Mia Khalifa, husband Robert Sandberg part ways after two years of marriage
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It has been a couple of days since pacer Deepak Chahar reached out to his inner batsman and led the Indian cricket team to an incredible victory against the hosting Sri Lankan squad in the second of three ODI matches. At one point the Men in Blue were struggling significantly as the scoreboard read 116/5 with the loss of Hardik Pandya’s wicket for a duck and the hopes of winning the series with one game extra seemed bleak. View this post on Instagram Nonetheless, the duo of Chahar and vice-captain Bhuneshwar Kumar stitched a remarkable 84-run innings in 15 overs to steal what seemed to be a practically impossible victory and gave a huge boost to the Indian locker room ahead of the third and final ODI of the series. On the contrary, it led to a complete draining of faith and belief that the Sri Lankan roster had in itself. They were completely frustrated and imploding on live television with every boundary Chahar and Kumar hit. Here are three ways in which Deepak Chahar created major conflict within the Sri Lankan team: Mickey Arthur - Burning From WithinMickey Arthur is most entertaining head coach in international cricket. One camera is always dedicated to him.#INDvSL pic.twitter.com/IINE4MxHFd — I'm in hate with you (@Forshitssake25) July 20, 2021 Sri Lankan head coach Mickey Arthur was all smiles as the Indian top-order was dismissed for cheap and names like Pandya and Ishan Kishan fell sooner than expected. However, when Chahar started to swing for the ropes, even the commentators couldn’t help but notice the frowns returning to his forehead. By the time the match was over, Arthur could be seen walking around the dressing room, cursing and red as a tomato. To watch his team lose a game they’d already won was the final nudge he needed to go over the top. War Of Words It didn’t take long before Arthur vented his frustration on the Sri Lankan skipper Dasun Shanaka and that too in the middle of the field in the focus of cameras with a live broadcast feed to our television channels. While the captain (who also felt the burden of losing such a match) tried his best to calm the situation down, the coach didn’t want to hear any of it. In Came The VeteransThat conversation between Coach and captain should not have happened on the field but in the dressing room — Russel Arnold (@RusselArnold69) July 20, 2021 Former Sri Lankan player and legend Russel Arnold openly expressed their dissent towards Arthur’s theatrics and called him out ahead of the third and final match. “That conversation between Coach and captain should not have happened on the field but in the dressing room.” Russell Arnold tweeted. “I have told before, Sri Lanka don’t know the winning ways. They have forgotten how to win for the last so many years. It’s tough for them. I told before the lunch, if Sri Lanka takes three wickets in the first 10-15 overs India is going to struggle and actually India struggled. Big effort from Chahar and Bhuvneshwar their and they made them win,” Muttiah Muralitharan added. View the full article
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How Sexual Anxiety Can Severely Affect Your Sex Life & 3 Ways To Overcome It
ADMIN posted a blog entry in FDF Online News
You know that feeling, where a certain kind of heaviness builds up in your chest and makes you feel like something is sinking? When an overwhelming feeling of restlessness takes over your body that you just can’t shake off, no matter how hard you try? When you feel scared and even something as natural as breathing starts taking effort? That right there is called anxiety. And, when we experience it in bed right before ***, it is called sexual anxiety. What Is Sexual Anxiety © iStock A commonly occurring phenomenon in men and women alike, sexual anxiety relates to the feeling of fear, self-doubt, shame and self-consciousness during ***. Also called ‘performance anxiety’, one of the main reasons for it to arise is when a person may feel under-confident and self-critical while ‘performing’, thinking of it as an act he may be judged upon. Such insecurity can be triggered by anything, a previous bad experience where they felt belittled, fear of being critiqued, confusion about one’s sexuality or by simply feeling conscious of their body. In fact, the feeling is often brushed aside as mere ‘nervousness’, which ends up downplaying the gravity of the entire situation. How Does It Affect You © T-Series In the words of Claudia Six, a *** therapist, sexual anxiety can lead to difficulty in being aroused and in achieving an orgasm. She says, “In men, we know what it looks like — difficulty getting an erection, keeping an erection, or coming too soon. I put all that under the umbrella term of ‘sexual performance anxiety.'” How To Overcome Sexual Anxiety © iStock Just like anxiety, that ends up restricting us from enjoying anything, sexual anxiety too feels like it is holding us back from having a good time. And rather than powering through the emotion, hoping for it to simply vanish, because that's what men are taught to do about everything, it is always best to address it and take care of it, in a way that will last. Here are 3 ways to help you overcome sexual anxiety in bed: 1. Try Mindfulness © iStock Being mindful doesn’t mean to be more aware or conscious of yourself, but to be present at the moment and try to live it to the fullest, without letting your thoughts scatter elsewhere. Practising mindfulness will help you to absorb what is happening in the present without you worrying about other factors. It’s about being in the moment instead of in your head. 2. Take It Slow © iStock If you feel you get overwhelmed during ***, it is best to tread slowly and with feelings of love and care. In fact, it is often advised to bank on foreplay, giving you enough time to feel comfortable, get into the zone and then go ahead with penetrative ***. Feelings of rush often instil nervousness and a sense of pressure, one that can be alleviated by taking things nice and slow. 3. Talk About It © iStock Experiencing sexual anxiety once or twice could probably just be nerves, but when you feel it’s started happening all too often, it is best to take it up with your partner and talk it out. Such anxiousness arises in the first place due to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, and talking to your partner about why you feel this way might just help put your mind at ease. It could be that simply addressing the topic with them and realising that they aren’t here to judge, is all that you need to overcome the feeling. View the full article -
If I were to pick up an analogy to describe a relationship in the most simplistic way, I’d probably go ahead to say how it’s almost like a roller coaster ride. For some, the line to get to the ride is short and quick, for others, it is long and tiresome. But the thing common for everyone who gets aboard it is that it is full of ups and downs. There are bound to be a few high and a few low points in the course of a relationship and the best way to navigate through all of them is by being prepared and guarded by the safety belt. While it is easier to get lost in enjoying the high moments, it is also natural to feel queasy when the low suddenly arrives. © Maddock Films And one such low point in any relationship could be when your partner tells you they want space. Which may sound worrying or startling at first, but is completely normal and needs to be tackled with just as much patience and sensitivity. Here are 5 ways to help you give space to your partner, without worrying about losing them along the way: 1. Don’t Take It Personally © Maddock Films Before you jump to any conclusions and take it as a sign to break up, take a moment to remind yourself that relationships can be overwhelming and wanting some time to yourself to handle it doesn’t always have to be bad. Remember, it is more about them than it is about you. 2. Talk About It © iStock It is important for both the partners to be transparent with each other about what they mean when they say they want space. Is it a few days to themselves? Is it a weekend getaway with best friends, talk it out and hear them out. Chances are they feel burnt out and having a few days to be with themselves will help them get right back on track. More so, with your support. 3. Hold Back From Reaching Out Too Much © iStock Once you have decided to offer space to your partner, make sure that you stick to it. Someone who is already feeling overwhelmed and has requested some time to claim themselves back would like it much better if they wouldn’t be getting bombarded with your texts or calls all the time. This also doesn’t mean you two go radio silent, but that you respect their privacy and let them reach out to you. 4. Use The Time For Yourself © iStock Relationships can take an emotional toll on both people and it is always a good idea to take some time to rejuvenate and relax. Use this time to connect with yourself and tend to your own needs without worrying about anything else. Meet with your friends, take a spa day, pay attention to other relationships in your life. 5. Be Supportive © iStock For whatever reason that your partner feels like they could use a little space, don’t judge them for it. It could be that they’re going through a hard time and being encouraging might just help them deal with it better. Give your partner the liberty to come back and share their thoughts with you at their own pace. View the full article
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Unexpected Boner In Public? 5 Ways To Save Yourself From Possible Embarrassment
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Since I cannot speak out of my own experience here, or lack thereof since I am a woman, I will go ahead and speak from the perspective of a spectator who has found herself spotting one too many awkward boners around her in public. Whether it is a social gathering, at the dance floor, within the office premises, or while simply walking your dog, having a chance encounter with a guy whose trousers are coming on to you, even when he isn't, has been common. And while as a woman, it is easy to make a face and walk away, I can only imagine the embarrassment and absolute discomfort for a man. © Emenox Media And so, you don’t have to be that guy whose actions speak louder than his words, whether it is because your friend’s mom was hotter than you expected or because a girl tried playing footsie with you under the table at a family function, here are some tips that might come in handy (pun intended). Here are 5 ways to save yourself from any awkwardness that comes with an unwanted boner: 1. Bend It Like Beckham © iStock Except what you’ll be bending here won’t be your balls but your knees to give you some cover. The best way to buy yourself time until your erection settles down is by pulling your legs closer to your chest and making a mountain out of them. This way, no one would be able to spot you in your weak(hard) moment. 2. Pocket-Grab © iStock One of the quickest ways to get your guard down is by attempting to grab it from inside your pocket and holding it against your leg until it is safe to release it. Think of it as restraining the little rebellious fellow, but try and conduct this experiment only when you have enough cover to stand with a hand in your pocket. 3. Flex It © iStock By that, I don’t mean stand there proud of it, because that boner will guarantee your transition into a loner, but that you should flex your thigh muscles when this happens. For almost a minute, try to silently flex both your thigh muscles by shifting your weight on your toes and focussing hard. But hey, not too hard... 4. Power Of Imagination © iStock Let's suppose you find yourself in a setting that isn’t just inappropriate for you to have your 'soldier at attention', but also gives you minimum bandwidth to do something about it. The best way to get your cadet at ease is by imagining something that will be a total turn off. Maybe an old and ailing relative (but of course in a platonic way), a recent cringe-worthy moment, the last time you cried or simply those questionable food videos where people eat gulab jamun with Maggi! That ought to do the trick. 5. Run © iStock And no, that doesn’t mean you need to sprint. But when nothing else works, just excuse yourself to rush to a nearby washroom and hide out there until you’re ready to step out without one of those unwanted pop-ups. View the full article -
Men Open Up About The Different Ways In Which They Deal With Body Image Issues
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The world hasn’t been a very rosy place to live in for a while now, and society doesn’t seem to be making it any easier, what with its stereotypes, unrealistic expectations and superficial beauty standards that it keeps on setting. And despite the popular opinion, men aren’t all that better off than women either. Subjected to similar scrutiny, especially when it comes to looking a certain way, men are also pressured by the unrealistic beauty standards that the industry has set for them. The photoshopped pictures that we see making rounds on social media, the several filters that celebrities use on their images are all contributing to making the men around us feel more conscious and guarded every single day. © iStock Opening up about just that, were a bunch of men on a thread on Reddit, where they were asked, “How do you avoid insecurity of your body image when you see other guys have better body shape?”. From hitting the gym, giving themselves a pep talk, trying to see the silver lining, men revealed all that they are trying to do to manage the everyday body issues they face. © Reddit One guy wrote, “There will always be some better then you, so just be the best person you can be and learn to love that,” and honestly, it didn’t just make sense, it was also a shortcut to a much happier life. © Reddit Another user shared how he tries to hit the gym to deal with his insecurities. He wrote, “Go to the gym abs get in shape. My quality of life grows exponentially the better shape I am in.” © Reddit One guy spilt a few truth bombs in his response as he ended up writing, “Realize that the People you want to look like, want to look different themselves. Everyone has insecurities about their appearance.” Couldn’t say we didn’t agree with him! © Reddit A user also tried to see the bigger picture, quite literally so, as he wrote, “I see the Marvel guys and I remember that they're paid to look like the way they do where I, on the other hand, am just existing. I work out for my mental health.” The thread garnered over a 100 different answers from different kinds of men and it made us realise just how many men face the scrutiny of conforming to the beauty standards that have already been set. However, it was good to see that most men are trying to talk themselves out of the need to change themselves and instead, accept them for who they are. View the full article -
5 Casual Ways To Style A White Shirt Ft. Arjun Kapoor & Rahul Khanna
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Whether you use it as an undershirt with your slick formal suit for that important office presentation, or let loose a few buttons and wear it to the beach with shorts - a white shirt never disappoints. But the way of styling this versatile piece of clothing doesn’t just end there because you can also wear it to semi-formal gatherings and date nights. Whether you want to dress up or dress down, a white shirt is like a blank canvas, you can build any look around it. How To Style A White Shirt Here are 5 casual ways to style a white shirt like your favourite celebrities Arjun Kapoor and Rahul Khanna. __ECOMLOOKS__3050__ __ECOMLOOKS__3051__ __ECOMLOOKS__3052__ __ECOMLOOKS__3053__ __ECOMLOOKS__3054__ The Bottomline A white shirt undoubtedly is the most versatile piece of clothing in a man’s wardrobe. But, this doesn’t mean you keep repeating the same white shirt on all occasions, at all places. Maintain a collection of a minimum of three white shirts considering the fit, fabric and pattern as per different occasions. Check out our collection of white shirts to make the best pick. Write to us if you need any assistance in making a choice and we will get you ready like Arjun Kapoor or Rahul Khanna, whoever you like. We are nice that way. Explore More View the full article -
5 Ways To Tell Your Partner They’ve Gained Weight Without Hurting Their Feelings
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If you’ve landed on this article for advice, it's safe to say there is no easy way to do it. Just like there is no easy way to break someone’s heart, there isn’t also one to break some bad or upsetting news to someone you love. And pointing out to your partner that they may have grown a little unhealthy during the course of this pandemic, falls right under that bucket. You see, no matter how much of a place of concern you may be speaking from, if it has to do with pointing out someone’s flaw, it will sting. But one of the harder pills to swallow in a relationship is to know when to speak up, especially when it is for the betterment of your partner and their health. © Yash Raj Films Now, don’t get us wrong. The idea here is not to promote a body type that is flattering to a man, but one that is healthy. And if you see your partner straying from keeping fit and putting on a few, this is how you can soften the blow of telling them: 1) Don’t Spin In Circles © iStock Instead of beating around the bush and trying to lay the groundwork for this very heavy conversation, which mind you is not as concealed as you may like to think, it is better to just come to the point directly and without making your partner feel like they weren’t strong enough to handle what is coming. Relationships are stronger than we know, and can easily stand to face a few difficult truths, provided, told gracefully. 2) Be Mindful Of The Words You Use © Unsplash The tricky part here is to not let your partner know that you’re concerned about their weight, but how you do it. Using words like ‘fat, or phrases where you end up comparing them to others is as good as shooting yourself in the foot. Instead, try to be considerate of your partner’s feelings and convey your concern with a more subtle touch. Rather than saying, ‘you look fat’, mention how you feel they could work at being more healthier. 3) Be Supportive © iStock It is of paramount importance that once you drop the bomb on your partner, you ensure that they know you’re here to support and not just to criticise. It is hard for anyone to accept they may have lost the ball on keeping fit, even more so in front of their partners. Which is why it becomes your job to be encouraging while they process the information so as to not invoke an inferiority complex. 4) Make Your Intention Clear © iStock While taking this conversation on is in itself like climbing up a slippery slope, what makes it worse is when you fail to convey your intent for bringing the topic up in the first place. Make sure to let your partner know that what you’re saying does not mean they are less attractive to you, but that they’re just less healthy. As long as you let them know it has more to do with health and less to do with vanity, chances are they might take it better. 5) Let Them Know You Still Love Them © iStock When our partners become the ones pointing out our flaws, it becomes extremely difficult to remember that despite their constructive criticism, they still love us. Especially after touching down upon a topic as sensitive as weight, partners are bound to feel a little less fancied. Hence, make it a point to let your partner know just how much you still love them and that nothing in the world would change that. View the full article -
7 Simple Ways To Make Your Haircut Last Longer & Limit Visits To The Barbershop
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A good hairstyle can make or break your look. The vibe of that day when you get a fresh haircut and come out of the barbershop is different. While there is a bounce in your hair, there also is a spring in your step. So, when we know that a good haircut is the MVP of any look, why don’t we do anything to make it last long? After all, while visiting a salon is relaxing, it is also time consuming and expensive, plus COVID still very much is there. Best would be we do something to extend the life of our sharp cuts and side fades and limit your visits to the barbershop. Here’s everything that’s gonna go into creating an at-home maintenance routine and make your fresh cut last longer. Get A Nice Sharp HaircutFirst things first, start with a quality haircut. Hair that’s been cut by a skilled professional will grow out evenly and be easier to maintain. Now, for your in-between at-home maintenance to be more effective, opt for longer and fuller hairstyle, one that has more natural borders. With this kind of style, which has a little volume and texture already built in, the growth of your hair won’t be as noticeable. This will help you get away with having it cut less often and style more with a soft gel or hair wax. __ECOMPRODUCT__1972__ Gather The Right Haircut ToolsOnce you have a nice hairstyle in place, all you would need is the right tools to maintain it and perform your DIY clean-up. Small hair scissors Electric trimmerComb __ECOMPRODUCT__1603__ Trim Your Sideburns The first step of your DIY clean up would require you to trim up the bottom edge of your sideburn with a trimmer. Ensure that it’s straight and at length to the middle of your ear. Now, comb the hair of the sideburn towards your face and snip the overgrown hair with scissors. Repeat this process, this time combing your sideburn hair towards your ear, and then repeat the same exercise on the other sideburn. __ECOMPRODUCT__1214__ Move On To Your NecklineAsk anyone you trust to do this part for you. Give them a trimmer and ask them to move it in upward strokes around your neck until it meets the hairline created by your barber. You can also use a pen styler to give your edges a further sharp finish. __ECOMPRODUCT__1151__ Style Your Hair With WaxThe best products to tame your unkempt hair is hair wax, particularly ones with a strong hold and matte finish. Scoop out a coin-sized amount of hair wax and rub through your palms to spread evenly then run your hands through damp hair to shape. Anything too dense like hair creams and gels are good for moisturising but may bring your hair down in a few hours. Hair wax works the best to style your hair without much effort and add volume to it. __ECOMPRODUCT__1973__ You can also use a hair spray as a last minute fix to style your hair and make it look salon-fresh. __ECOMPRODUCT__1750__ Shampoo Less, Condition MoreLimit your shampoo sessions as overgrown hair looks more out of place when it’s dry and frizzy. Your new haircut needs to be kept tamed and tight. So, what do you do? Switch to conditioners. Conditioning helps retain the straightness of your hair back and fixes the shape of your hair. It also helps make hair healthier, stronger and less prone to breakage. Don’t forget healthy hair is the key to a great looking hairstyle. __ECOMPRODUCT__1974__ A DND Day For Your Hair Give your hair a day off from all the hair waxing, blow-drying, and shampooing that cause harm to your hair. This will allow your hair to recuperate from the chemical damage and improve naturally, making your goal to make a hairstyle last longer achievable. __ECOMPRODUCT__1975__ The Bottom-lineWhile you can’t control the speed with which your hair grows, you now definitely can delay your appointments with the barber and maintain your haircut to last long. Hope our tips help you make everyday a good hair day! Explore More View the full article -
Let’s be absolutely clear about one thing, right from the beginning. No one can deny that CID was one of the most popular and most watched detective shows we have ever had. © Sony Pictures Networks Does that mean it was one of the best ones as well? Oh, hell no! We have had some really great detectives on Indian TV over the years. Of course, there are the classics like Feluda & Byomkesh Bakshi. But there were several other detectives from some really good shows, that people actually enjoyed watching. There was Karamchand, CBI Inspector KC from Saboot, Jasoos Vijay, and Raja from Raja Aur Rancho. © Sony Pictures Networks And it is not as if CID was always this bad. In fact, there was a time when CID was a genuinely good show that managed to make viewers stay glued to their seats. They genuinely had some good writers who created some really engaging and hooking storylines. By the time the show wrapped up, it had devolved into a laughing stock. Not just that, it very much killed the Indian Television Detective. Here are 5 ways that it managed to do that: 1. Not Keeping Up With The Times © Sony Pictures Networks CID just did not keep up with the times. We have had shows and movies that really kept the audience guessing. However, very rarely had that moment especially after their first 10 years. In all this time, the average viewer of CID was exposed to a lot of pop culture and movies from other countries, so they of course needed to adapt their material. And how exactly did they do that? 2. Taking Audiences For Granted © Sony Pictures Networks Well, this was how. Seriously, who even suggested having something like this in the show? Also, did they really think that people did not know about Heath Ledger’s Joker from The Dark Knight, at all? This clearly shows that the producers and the brains behind the show took their audiences for granted. And this is how Indian TV audiences would start thinking about television shows in general. 3. Sticking To A Formula © Sony Pictures Networks Consistency is a great thing, but sticking to a set formula religiously, and refusing to experiment is downright suicidal. Sure, there were a few tropes that became signature moves for the actors. Daya kicking in the door, ACP Pradyuman making that face - all these were classic CID tropes. However, the stories too started following tropes or patterns and became very predictable. After a point, you could predict with pretty great accuracy who the murderer was. And it always was a murder case, which would end at the gallows. That’s not how real-life works, at all. Also, not to mention, the stories were ridiculous at times. 4. Science...What’s That? © Sony Pictures Networks There was a point in time, where the science behind the show was actually fun to watch. It was informative, without being too preachy, and it was interesting. Later, however, anything and everything went on, in the name of science. Seriously, what scientist or doctor worth his degree would ever test for an unknown subject, by licking it? It was again stuff like these that chipped away at the credibility of detective shows on TV. No wonder people started equating shows like this to shows like Sasural Simar Ka. 5. Living Long Enough To See Itself Become The Villain © Sony Pictures Networks CID was on air for 21 years, from 1998 to 2018. Sure, it had some great episodes and set many records, but by the end of its run, its longevity is what led to its loss of credibility. Seriously, when you’re a TV show going on for that long, you’re bound to start cutting corners, and focus on just getting the job done, one way or the other. Quality surely goes for a toss. The bottom line…As much as we love to hate on CID, we have to agree that it developed into the archetypal Indian detective TV show and a bad one at that. It surely sullied the genre and the legacy of shows like Karamchand, Byomkesh Bakshi, & Tehkikat. View the full article
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If things have started to feel a bit monotonous and mundane around you, chances are you’re not alone in that. By forcing everyone to stay indoors, the pandemic has reduced the avenues for nourishment for our brains. Making us feel duller than we remember ourselves to be. Whether you’re an extrovert, introvert or an ambivert, the prolonged nature of indoor living can start affecting your mental health. As harrowing an experience as this might be, the good news is that dullness can be dealt with. Think of it like a workout. When we begin working out our muscles, we start with lesser weights with the purpose of learning the movements and eventually reaping the benefits with sustained efforts. Now, I’m not gonna suggest you dive in the deep end and solve intricate puzzles and other mind games, there is space for them as well. However, there are certain simpler habits that we can develop to help keep our brains sharp: 1. Read DailyThe importance of reading cannot be reiterated enough. Most people would be left petrified at the prospect of finishing an entire book, after all it’s a habit that’s long lost for most. And they cannot be blamed either as we’re bombarded by new information all the time, thanks to the internet. However, if we break down this practice to a few pages, chapters or even paragraphs a day, we instil discipline and focus within ourselves. Pick a genre you'd be interested in and go ahead. Sooner or later your mind would be a book richer. © iStock 2. JournallingIt can seem daunting for many due to its public perception, but journalling is seriously simple. Take a notebook and a pen, or open your favourite notepad app and start writing down the thoughts that pop into your head. You don’t need to sit back and read it immediately. When revisited over a period of time, it helps you help your mind prioritize recurring themes and ideas. It can also be an opportunity for some much required healthy self talk and affirmations. © iStock 3. A New HobbyMassively underrated, new hobbies force your brain to look for novel solutions when old hobbies stop exciting you. Learning how to sketch, picking up gardening, a new dance style or even an instrument can form fresh neural pathways within your brain. This in turn keeps your mind healthy. © iStock 4. MeditationWe’ve long had a love hate relationship with meditation, often finding ourselves distracted by mobile phone notifications or the countless other distractions that our lifestyles bring. However, that is exactly why meditation is paramount. Constantly distracted and inattentive, our ability to focus weans over the long haul. Start with a minute as your target, or even less if it seems unattainable. Nowadays there are several guided meditations available on YouTube and Spotify that can make the process easier for you. © iStock 5. SocializingAn essential lesson the pandemic taught me is the importance of social interaction. I used to believe that I was too cool to care for the energy and joy that interacting with other people gave me. Not anymore, now I look forward to catching up with my friends and family digitally, sharing the ordinary as well as the exciting parts of my life with them. As social beings, isolation can really dull us down. Reach out and reconnect safely. © iStock Sometimes your brain and mental state can be mirrors to your lifestyle choices. With the past couple of years forcing us into a consistently panicked state collectively, it is understandable if you feel different from before. A positive focus on a brighter future can help inspire you to kickstart the gears in your life! View the full article
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Men love cars and they certainly like them fast! © Instagram/kartik_aaryan_fansclub While most of us might not be in the position to own a Ferrari or Lamborghini any time soon, what is the harm in at least appreciating their existence on Earth, right? © iStock Be it the racing video games, Top Gear magazines, or racing sports like the Formula One on TV, most of us would be totally game to have a peek at fast cars because it's something that comes from within, the NEED for SPEED! © Electronic Arts And well, there is one movie franchise that was introduced in the early 2000s to give us a perfect dose of it. © Universal Pictures The Fast & Furious franchise starring Vin Diesel and the late Paul Walker, gave us everything that we needed. Fast cars, exciting street racing action, nerve-racking heists, and a really exciting storyline were a complete package to keep us glued to our seats. © Universal Pictures Well, at least for the first few movies after which the series took on a completely different track, and honestly, has stopped making sense. © Universal Pictures So, let's take a look at what exactly went wrong with the series: 1. No More Racing © Universal Pictures The first few movies including The Fast and the Furious (2001), 2 Fast 2 Furious (2003), and The Fast And The Furious: Tokyo Drift (2006) are absolute fan favourites to date. Why? Simply because apart from all the drama-driven plot of the action film, things revolved around the basic concept of racing. Well, that's what got things started, right? © Universal Pictures We loved seeing Diesel's Dom Toretto and Walker's Brian O'Conner square off against each other in a streetcar race, which goes the same for the other two movies as well. (especially drifting in the third instalment). Unfortunately, the franchise decided to completely let go of racing altogether, and well, that didn't work well with the audience for certain. © Universal Pictures 2. Less Relatable © Universal Pictures This does not mean that we all relate to owning a Vin Diesel American Muscle car like the 1970 Dodge Charger or Paul Walker's orange Toyota Supra. Nope, we don't. Many of us still take the metro to work, brother. What we are saying is that while it was easier to imagine high-adrenaline racing or car-chasing action, the idea of jumping from one building to another was something we could not have imagined in the wildest of our dreams. I mean, hello? Even Harry Potter and his best friend Ron Weasley would have trouble pulling something like that off even with a flying car. © Warner Bros Well, love it or hate it, the Fast series is filled with bizarre action sequences like the Furious 7's Abu Dhabi skyscraper jump and a lot sitting in the audience were like, "Bhai, yeh kuch zyaada hogaya!" 3. The Family Keeps Getting Bigger © Universal Pictures While we obviously all love movies with a good ensemble cast, take, for example, Marvel's Avengers movies, the Ocean's series, or for that matter, even Bollywood movies like Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham..., the fact remains that it does not always work for everyone. © Prime Video © Netflix If we take this in the case of the Fast series, while we did dig this idea of the original Fast & Furious cast adding more members like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson and Sun Kang (Han) to make things more exciting, the movie did end up losing certain elements that would have made it more successful. © Universal Pictures Adding well-known stars brings more eyeballs but it also unnecessarily creates complications in terms of storylines of the film which are forced to give space to the all-star characters instead of keeping things simple with just a few main leads. © Universal Pictures Moreover, as noted in the case of the real-life beef between Vin Diesel and Dwayne Johnson, bigger stars bring bigger egos to the team, something that is definitely not good for a successful franchise like that of the Fast series. 4. There May Be Dinosaurs In The Franchise In The Future © Twitter/ Comic Book Now Yes, you read that just right! After the concepts of flying and building jumping cars, a car taking on a flying helicopter, and almost the entire WWE squad joining the series, the Fast franchise is contemplating the idea of having a crossover with Jurassic World. © Universal Pictures This was according to Fast and Furious director Justin Lin, who during a virtual press conference a few months back flirted around the idea of having race cars and dinosaurs in one movie. “Well, I’ve never said never to anything. And part of our philosophy is not to ever be boxed in or labelled. And that’s all I will say,” said Lin. Dude, come on! We certainly get it that the family can take on literally anyone in the world, but dinosaurs? Really? Anyway, if this comes to fruition, it certainly cements the fact that the moviemakers are smoking some cracking 'maal' that we cannot get our hands-on. © Universal Pictures Unfortunately for the dinosaurs, just like the extinction, they didn't see this one coming either. Well, guess what, Mr T-Rex? We did not either! View the full article
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5 Ways To Be There For Your Partner While They Are Coping With Loss
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You’d been with your partner for a while now, seen each other through thick and thin, been each other’s biggest cheerleaders when the time came and at times, their worst critics to push them to do better. You’d shared more than just a bed with them, you’d shared laughs, secrets and life as you knew it. And one such part of life is also death. © iStock When you’re involved in a romantic relationship with someone, you are bound to come across moments of grief as a couple, whether it is through experiencing traumatic events, failure or even mourning the loss of a loved one. And it is during these very tough times that it becomes most important for us to ensure our significant other knows we are there for them as they struggle to cope with the loss of someone in their life. Here are 5 ways you can support your partner through the grief of losing a loved one. Don’t Try To Find The Silver Lining © iStock One of the most disrespectful things to say in the face of death to a loved one is to try and make them see the positive side to it. Phrases like, “but, he lived a long and fulfilling life”, often imply that you are being insensitive to the pain and expecting your partner to be okay with it. Don’t focus on cheering them up, sometimes simply being there is enough. It’s Okay To Let Them Cry © iStock Grief is often said to come in waves. It comes and goes and when that happens, it is advised to let your partner know that it is okay to cry. Crying, as a matter of fact, has been said to be therapeutic. It doesn’t just make one feel lighter but also is a healthy way to release all the emotions that would have been building up inside. Don’t Try To Fill The Silences © iStock You see your partner mourning the loss of someone close, someone special and despite being there for them in person, you feel you haven’t been more far apart from them. You want to say the right thing, but struggle to find the right words. My advice? Don’t try too hard. There are times in life where more than your consoling words, your partner needs your shoulder to lean on. Let the silence between the two of you be comfortable. You don’t have to talk to let them know, they’re not alone. Let Them Choose Their Own Pace © iStock While you may be coming from a place of concern, rushing your partner through the mourning process can only result in making them feel more displaced than ever. It is okay to let your partner figure out their own pace through it. Denial, acceptance and everything in between will take its own time to come and go, and the best thing you can do is be patient as your partner takes this journey. Step Up © iStock As much as you can be there for your partner emotionally during such a difficult time, it is important to realise that there are a few battles that they may have to win alone. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t be of help in other ways. Try to step up and take charge of other things in their life. Helping them plan the funeral, taking care of daily chores and cooking food, helping them respond to condolence calls, etc. Chances are, they’d feel much better knowing they can fall on you for support. View the full article -
7 Easy Ways How Cis-Het Men & Women Can Be Good Allies To The LGBTQI+ Community
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Anyone who has at least two living brain cells to use will tell you that being homophobic or anti-LGBTQI+ is simply moronic. This may sound a little harsh, but at the end of the day, it is true. © Reuters Now, most young Indians believe themselves to be rather woke and considerate of others, their individuality and their personal choices. We think that we are good allies to the LGBTQI community. In reality, though, some of us aren’t. © BCCL Simply being accepting of LGBTQI people is not enough, that is the bare minimum. Not having any prejudices against people is a great start, no doubt, but that does not qualify you as an ally. If you want to be an ally, there are certain things that you need to keep in mind. We asked 7 people from the LGBTQI+ community to share what can cis-het men & women do to be good allies to the community, and here’s what they had to say: 1. Stand Up Against Discrimination When You See It - Prateek Shantaram, 24 © iStock Don’t be afraid of calling out someone out when they say something stupid, or inappropriate, especially, if they say those things in front of your LGBTQ friends. The comments may not have been addressed towards them, but it certainly creates a hostile environment. Also, don’t be hesitant in calling your parents out if they say or do something that reeks of prejudice. The idea is to change how people see and think about the community. 2. Take Care Of Their Preferred Pronouns - Kautuk D, 19* © BCCL It is not wise to assume that everyone around you is straight and cis-gendered. This is especially true when you’re meeting someone for the first time. It is always better if you ask them what their preferred pronouns are. It may not bother cis-gendered people, but for trans people, or queer people, this shows that you care for them and that you’re trying to create a safe space for them. If you’re meeting someone for the first time and are concerned about finding out their preferred pronouns, simply introduce yourself, say what your preferred pronouns are, and then ask them what’s theirs. That way, you don’t have to worry about coming across as abrasive or rude. 3. Google, Ask Questions & Listen - Shivam Dasgupta, 23Take care of boundaries, but don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you feel that a question might be a little too personal, only put it forth to a close friend. It is better to ask a stupid question, learn from it, and get rid of your preconceived notions than hold on to prejudiced all your life. Also, Google is a great place to go looking for answers. Pay attention to what people say, listen very attentively. You might just learn something new. 4. Language Matters - Aaroh Thadani, 19 © BCCL Pay very close attention to the language you use. My elder sister is very supportive of me, but at times, without realising, she will refer to something lame, as ‘gay.’ Obviously, when you point this out to her, she will apologise and mean it, but like her, most people don’t pay attention to what they say when they are around their friends. 5. Check Your Biases, Without Getting Defensive - Anumegha Teotia, 27 © iStock No matter how much you try, you will make mistakes. You might do something or say something that stems from some prejudice, because that is how we have been raised, to push away things that don’t adhere to society’s standards. In such a case, check your own biases, and apologise, while you ensure that you will at least try not to repeat that mistake. That is how people learn. When you get called out for some problematic behaviour, don’t get defensive, there is no need to take this personally. Learn why what you did was problematic, how you could have done it in a better way, and move on. 6. Never Out Someone - Varun M, 25* © BCCL Coming out is an extremely personal choice for someone. Whether they choose to come out or not, they have their reasons for the choice they make. If someone tells you in confidence that they are gay or lesbian, do not ever disclose this to anyone else, no matter what. Even if the person has come out and has publicly acknowledged his orientation, it is not your job to go about announcing it. That choice is completely theirs, and theirs alone. 7. Take That Extra Step To Create A Safe Space For Them - Avnesh Ray, 27 © iStock Some things just make people uncomfortable, for reasons that may be personal to them. Without trying to be too nosy, try and accommodate them. Maybe your friend doesn’t like to go to a certain club or a restaurant because something bad happened with them there, maybe they were targeted somehow - if they request, avoid those places. Similarly, someone in your group of friends may have been a little abrasive or hostile about another friend who happens to be gay. Sit that person down and have a one on one conversation with him, explaining that he’s making the other friend uncomfortable and that you will not let this pass. The Bottom Line… It may look like a lot of effort, to be a good ally, but it isn’t. These are some of the very basic steps that you can take as an ally. This is a good way to start, but definitely, not all that you can do. As a rule of thumb, don’t be a jerk to someone, if this seems too much to do. *Names Changed On Request View the full article -
Britney Spears became an iconic pop singer post her smash debut single 'Baby One More Time' in 1998. However, things were not as rosy for the star as a lot of people thought. The singer has recently urged the court to end the conservatorship of her father. Jamie Spears was put in charge as Britney's conservator in 2008, after which he got control over most of the aspects of her life. While he was a temporary measure earlier, he was made permanent by the US courts and has been 'controlling' Britney's life for the last 12 years. © Instagram/Britney_FC Britney was hospitalised, following a psychiatric treatment, which was widely reported. In a recent video link, Britney went on to say that she wants her life back and isn't happy about it. She also pleaded to the judge saying, "I truly believe this conservatorship is abusive. I want changes, I deserve changes." Here are ways in which Spears claimed her father controls her life: 1. Control Over Intimate Details © Instagram/Britney_FC Britney mentioned that she wants to live a normal life, get married and have kids. She told the court, "I want to be able to get married and have a baby." The singer has two children from her previous marriage and wished to get her IUD removed, but the conservatorship didn't allow her to do so, due to medical care control. She is also banned from seeing her friends. 2. Involvement In Personal Life © Instagram/Britney_FC Back in 2009, there were leaked voicemails unveiled by her lawyer. In this, her father used the visitation rights with her two children against her, so she could stop fighting the conservatorship in the court. 3. Forced To Perform Against Her Will © Instagram/Britney_FC She also spoke about how the management threatened her in 2018 if she didn't do her concerts. They also reported to her therapists, that Britney wasn't taking medications. Britney added to this that it was threatening and scary. She also said, "The people who did this to me should not be able to walk away so easily … I’m not here to be anyone’s slave. I can say no to a dance move.” 4. Control Over Most Matters © Instagram/Britney_FC Under the conservatorship of James Spears, Britney has no control over any personal decision. That power has been given to Jamie and her attorney, Andrew Wallet. Jamie was given the rights to control Britney's estate and health, which means discussing business opportunities and control of her personal life. Whereas the attorney controlled the financial assets. 5. Not Being Able To Make Basic Life Decisions © Instagram/Britney_FC Spears also told the court, that the conservatorship was supposed to help her, but she is unable to make even the most basic life decision and can't spend her own money. She mentioned that the laws need to change, so she can live a full life. She also added that the people who control need to know that they actually work for her. Even her fans started a movement called #FreeBritney that made a resurgence again after they realised how her father is running the singer's life. © Reuters The FreeBritney.net site said she is not allowed to enter into contracts without seeking legal permission. In fact, she needs to seek permission even to leave her house. The movement also went out on the streets, to end the control over her life. 6. Unable To Speak With The Media © Instagram/Britney_FC She is also barred from speaking with the media. She added, I can’t say one thing … I have a right to use my voice.” As per reports, Spears wants the conservatorship to end soon, as she doesn't want to be taken advantage of anymore. 7. Lack Of EmpathySpears also said that the doctors put her on medications that made her feel drunk and she wasn't even allowed to change in private or drive in her own or her boyfriend's car. As per the news, she was also forced into rehab and had to pay $60,000. Her father showed no concern and every little thing had to be approved by her dad. View the full article
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7 Ways To Win An Argument With A Woman Without Being Banished To The Couch
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*You and your partner are back home after a tiring day, it’s too late to cook so you just suggest ordering in instead. Food arrives quicker than usual and as your beau walks up to the kitchen to grab the silverware, she spots the kitchen sink full of dirty dishes. And yes, it was your turn. Food gets kept aside, harsh words get exchanged, and bam! You find yourself out in the living room, without dinner and trying to fit yourself on an old couch that is far from comfortable to sleep in.* You see, that most couples get into squabbles is not news. After all, disagreements too are a healthy part of a relationship. But what is not is it turning into a feud that will almost always result in you both losing. While it is tempting to try and win an argument, especially when the stakes are high, what it most certainly isn't, is worth it. © iStock Which is why it is often advised to try and diffuse the tension, instead of letting your emotions get the best of you in the middle of a heated debate. And here are some easy ways to do that without being banished to the couch! Pick the right time and place Instead of letting your emotions cloud your judgement and throwing a fit as soon as you feel upset with your partner, take a moment to contemplate whether it is the right time and place to have a volcanic meltdown. Wait it out till you’re both alone and extend the courtesy of having the discussion in private, as it should be. Avoid getting sucked into the blame game One of the easiest instincts during an argument is always to brush yourself off of any blame and accuse the partner for starting the fight. Even so, it is best to always be mindful of the finger you point and remind yourself that in the end, it is you both against the world, not each other! © iStock Don’t get personal The main reason why arguments between couples escalate in a nanosecond is always because one of the two ends up getting down and dirty to win a fight. Whether it is dragging in an old issue, or someone’s mother into the debate, chances are if you do that, there is no coming back. Try and keep your arguments strictly to the problem at hand and steer clear of personal remarks! Listen An underrated yet effective advice, it is said that the best way around a disagreement is not to argue, but simply to listen. Which by instinct, we do not. Keep your calm and try to hear your partner out during a squabble, without cutting in between. It could be that just by listening to their point of view, you may be able to understand where they’re coming from. Use logic, not volume ‘If logic doesn’t work, volume won’t’. The moment you start to raise your voice in a fight and lose your temper, losing the plot won’t be too far away. The louder you are, the more offensive you’re bound to be to your partner. So avoid letting the neighbors in on what you two are bickering about. © iStock If you overstep, apologise Losing track of what you two were originally fighting about is common between couples during an argument. Which is why, everytime you end up going astray and saying something out of line, it is always better to be the bigger person and apologise for crossing the line. Learn to agree to disagree As long as you’re both trying to ‘win’ an argument, chances are you both will end up losing. Simply because you won’t be arguing to understand but only to win, and that never does good to anybody. At the end of the day, make it about finding middle ground and agreeing to disagree with each other. View the full article